How To Save A Relationship - Take Baby Steps

Well the good news is that if both of you are agreeable, the actual process of how to save a relationship is reasonably easy. If both of you still want to be life partners then you know that you love one another; but for some reason are finding it difficult to communicate right now.

Life gets in the way of relationships. There's no two ways around that. Regrettably we are all guilty of taking our loved ones for granted. We could spend time sorting out our kids problems, our friends problems perhaps even those of our work colleagues only to arrive home in a heap worn out. We frequently assume that our partner can read our mind and know that we love and care about them.

But no matter how secure somebody is, if they constantly feel or are made feel that they belong at the bottom of a really long list of priorities, they might leave. Feelings of resentment could grow over time and become rather like a snowball - small to start but soon takes on large proportions.

The first step would be to arrange a night where both of you are free to concentrate 100% on your relationship. Get a babysitter for the children and head out someplace for the evening. If you pick a public place, you're less likely to let your resentments boil over into an argument.

Agree that both of you want this relationship to work and reassure one another that you're committed to your partnership. Arrange a series of date nights - these nights are for you two as a couple. You could each write out a list of what you would like to try in the relationship be it a night at the Opera or a particular technique in the bedroom. Then alternate trying to fulfil the other person's wishes.

Likewise the lists of treats you would like, you also should make a list of all that you enjoy about the relationship and then a list of the problem areas as you each see them.

Spending time together away from the hassles of real life will help you to rediscover the magic that brought you together. Sharing the above lists will help you to recognize what you have and what you need to work on.

Now it may be easy for one party to become offended at what is written down. You both need to know that this exercise has been done exclusively to increase the satisfaction level in your relationship not to knock the other person's confidence or blame them for the problems. Try not to become defensive but listen to both the good parts and the bad. Try not to go to bed on an argument as unresolved conflict could cause more bitterness. Showing love and appreciation goes a long way believe me.

By encouraging open communication and time for each other you should find that your commitment to each other becomes stronger and your friends will soon be asking you for advice on how to save a relationship.