Showing posts with label save a relationship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label save a relationship. Show all posts

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

How To Save A Relationship - Take Baby Steps

Well the good news is that if both of you are agreeable, the actual process of how to save a relationship is reasonably easy. If both of you still want to be life partners then you know that you love one another; but for some reason are finding it difficult to communicate right now.

Life gets in the way of relationships. There's no two ways around that. Regrettably we are all guilty of taking our loved ones for granted. We could spend time sorting out our kids problems, our friends problems perhaps even those of our work colleagues only to arrive home in a heap worn out. We frequently assume that our partner can read our mind and know that we love and care about them.

But no matter how secure somebody is, if they constantly feel or are made feel that they belong at the bottom of a really long list of priorities, they might leave. Feelings of resentment could grow over time and become rather like a snowball - small to start but soon takes on large proportions.

The first step would be to arrange a night where both of you are free to concentrate 100% on your relationship. Get a babysitter for the children and head out someplace for the evening. If you pick a public place, you're less likely to let your resentments boil over into an argument.

Agree that both of you want this relationship to work and reassure one another that you're committed to your partnership. Arrange a series of date nights - these nights are for you two as a couple. You could each write out a list of what you would like to try in the relationship be it a night at the Opera or a particular technique in the bedroom. Then alternate trying to fulfil the other person's wishes.

Likewise the lists of treats you would like, you also should make a list of all that you enjoy about the relationship and then a list of the problem areas as you each see them.

Spending time together away from the hassles of real life will help you to rediscover the magic that brought you together. Sharing the above lists will help you to recognize what you have and what you need to work on.

Now it may be easy for one party to become offended at what is written down. You both need to know that this exercise has been done exclusively to increase the satisfaction level in your relationship not to knock the other person's confidence or blame them for the problems. Try not to become defensive but listen to both the good parts and the bad. Try not to go to bed on an argument as unresolved conflict could cause more bitterness. Showing love and appreciation goes a long way believe me.

By encouraging open communication and time for each other you should find that your commitment to each other becomes stronger and your friends will soon be asking you for advice on how to save a relationship.

Thursday, June 11, 2009

Do I Want My Wife Back - Question Can You Get Her

“Do I want my wife back?” you might ask. A lot of people have a blanket answer for such questions—no. But they are not always right, and they can not know your particular information. They may have been hurt before and think it is just best to move on after a breakup. If you ask them, “Do I want my wife back?” They will tell you what’s over is over and that there are plenty of fish in the sea.

But you can not let people who have had setbacks and disappointment in love affect your conclusion. They are bound to have a negative attitude. And it is important that you have a positive attitude right now. If you answer “Do I want my wife back?” with a strong yes, then you are truly going to have to keep a good attitude.

Once you break up, it is difficult to get back together. If you are still together and you realize things are going bad, it is a good deal easier to intervene then and save a relationship than if you wait until the split has already happened. That is not to say that it is hopeless after you break up, though.

But your attitude will have a good deal to do with what takes place. Regardless how resistant she is to the idea of getting back together, you have to be calm and polite. You have to determine that you are getting back together and make certain that you always act as if that’s a given.

The difficult part comes in when you do not get back together any time soon and you have to keep on believing even though it looks less and less likely that you will get your wife back. But you have to if you would like to give the relationship that one last chance.

Not every marriage can be saved. Thinking, “Do I want my wife back?” and deciding that you do aren’t enough to save a marriage. That is only the very beginning. And it gets more difficult and more difficult as you go.

You have to face the fact that there’s a chance your wife will not ever come back. That is a hard truth to face, but it is essential. You have to determine that you will not let yourself become totally devastated if the marriage doesn't work out.

There are others out there, if this relationship does not work out. It is difficult to think that way initially when you are trying to stay so positive and focused on fixing the relationship. But you have to make yourself understand this.

If your wife does not come back, you won't be alone for the rest of your life. You'll be able to love somebody else, and let them love you. Realizing this truth could be very liberating, because you come to know that whatever may come, you are not going to be alone. Your needs will be met, they will just be met by somebody else.

“Do I want my wife back?” If you still answer yes and you are ready to be positive, you might just end up surprised at how well it works.