How A Rebound Relationship Can Work

Are you worried about your new partner and whether they're committed to you? Do you wonder how a rebound relationship can work particularly if there are unresolved feelings left from the previous affair?

Frequently rebound relationships could be a quick fix solution for the pain and hurt inflicted by the previous lover. If the individual getting involved in the new relationship was the one to end the old one, I would be less worried. Normally people have been thinking of ending a relationship for ages before the event really takes place. By the time they get to finish it, they might have worked through their feelings and be ready to move on.

This does not apply to the individual who did not instigate the previous breakup and becomes quickly involved in a new relationship. Some people can't bear to be on their own so will fit from person to person in an effort to avoid dealing with the issues leading to the breakup. They're used to being part of a couple. They have an inherent need for somebody to love them and need them and therefore they could become deeply emotionally involved really quickly. Ironically this is frequently the reason for the rebound relationship breaking up as the new partner feels swamped by the level of neediness.

It's worth noting that often somebody on the rebound often isn't even aware of what they are doing. They're hurting emotionally and mentally and could crave comfort from another human being. This could mean that they wind up in a relationship for the sake of having someone to hold rather than to be with that individual. Their new partner could get very hurt as the realization kicks in that they aren’t loved for their individuality as much as the fact they could provide a band aid solution to a painful situation.

It's always wise to date people who have just come out of a relationship with care. Take things slowly and try to make certain that it is you they are interested in before becoming emotionally involved. Everybody needs time on their own especially if they come out of a long term partnership.

It's a bit like grieving - there's a process that you must go through in order to emerge a stronger person at the end of it. For most people divorce and the breakup of a partnership means the end of a dream even if you were the one to instigate the break up. Everybody will have some feelings of regret if only for not having the fairytale ending.

If you do find yourself involved with somebody who you suspect is on the rebound, gently advise them to spend some time on their own working through their emotions. Encourage them to date others. Keep in contact with them if you're interested in a long term relationship. If you two are destined to be together, it will happen although perhaps not immediately. This is actually the only way to ensure how a rebound relationship can work for you.