What To Do When Your Ex Has Just Broken Up With You

We all panic when we break up and when your ex has just broken up with you, you're likely to feel hurt, angry and maybe a little bewildered.

So what could you do? It actually depends on whether you want this man or not. If you do not want him in your life, allow yourself to grieve for the relationship and then look forward to having fun being single. Do not waste time trying to get revenge on this man as you'll only wind up hurting yourself.

But if you truly want this man in your life and maybe feel your behavior has contributed to the break up, there are a couple of things you are able to do.

Your first one is to let him know how you feel. Write him a letter, apologizing for any bad behavior and reminding him of the good times you shared together. Do not be scared to tell him how much he means to you and how much you miss him.

Assuming you get a positive response to your letter, agree to meet him but do so in a public place. This will help prevent your discussions turning into a large argument. You will need to be prepared to tell your man how you feel. Do not hide your feelings. If you're angry tell him how come but try not to turn the meeting into a blame fest.

This won't help you in convincing him that you are good together. Keep the conversation to facts and also use the word I and not you. For instance you should say "I feel let down" rather than "you let me down". This is a good deal less confrontational and less likely to cause offense or lead to another argument.

Allow him to criticize you also. It's best if this is done in a constructive way. We all have our faults and some of your less attractive character traits might be, in part, to blame for why he broke up with you.

It's really important that you listen to what he says. Do not assume you know what he's trying to say. Encourage him to say what is on his mind as this is the chance for you both to work through any issues in your relationship and come out of this a stronger couple. He might have made the decision to break up, but your behavior in all likelihood contributed to his decision.

Don't play games and do not feel that you have to hold something back in order to make him come back to you. This will only cause feelings of resentment which might lead to you breaking up once again. Do not look on a breakup as a negative. All couples go through good and bad patches. It's a normal feature of adult relationships.

Follow these tips and one day as a happy couple, you might actually be thankful that for the day you found out that your ex has just broken up with you.