Win Your Love Back The Example Of Marie And Chris

You can win your love back. Let me give you an example.

Marie made a major error. She saw Chris talking to her best friend Julia and thought he was flirting with her. Marie worked herself into a fury and broke up with Chris.

It turns out that he was actually consulting Julia on how to put together a surprise romantic Valentine’s date. He was truly hurt that Marie would think so little of him and did not want to have to do anything to do with her after that.

You might think that you can't win your love back after such a state of affairs. But let me tell you what Marie did to get Chris back.

Brad was not talking to her, so she could not talk about the situation with him. But she could write him a letter. She got some nice paper and hand wrote an apology. She admitted that she had blown a fuse. She also told him what she liked about him and about the relationship. Finally, she expressed gratitude for his consideration in planning a romantic date.

Then, she shut up. She did not call, text or e-mail him for a week. By not pestering him, she gave him time to work through his emotions.

After a week, she sent him a short and sweet “thinking of you” e-mail. She kept it casual.

Chris was obviously nuts about Marie since he was willing to go to the trouble of impressing her on Valentine’s day. But, he was also hurt. Because Katie had apologized and given him time to work through his emotions, he was able to respond to the “thinking of you” e-mail.

The night he got the e-mail, he called Marie. She tried to keep things light and fun. Chris appreciated that. So, he suggested they meet for coffee and Marie agreed.

Marie went out of her way to look like a million bucks. She wore the earrings Chris had given her for her birthday and she put on the fragrance that he liked so much.

Marie decided that she would only discuss positive things. She particularly tried to bring fond memories into the conversation. She also asked about his family because that would reinforce their shared history and closeness.

Chris appreciated this. He loved Marie and did not want things to end. But, he did not want a repeat of the situation either. He needed to be reassured that their life together would not be filled with unnecessary drama. He also needed to know that talking to a different woman would not set off fireworks.

The couple agreed that they'd take the relationship to a less intense level. They would really court one another once again. They would stop taking one another for granted.

A year later, Chris and Marie agreed that the break up may have actually saved their relationship over the long run. While Marie initially flipped her lid, her calm handling of the state of affairs afterwards made it possible for them to move on. She showed you can win your love back.