Should I Get Back Together With My Ex Boyfriend

If you read any agony aunt columns you'll frequently see a letter titled "should I get back together with my ex boyfriend". The answer is always; "It depends!".

It hinges upon your age, how long you were together, why you broke up and ultimately what both of you want.

What does age have to do with it? A few people met their first love in their early teens and become convinced that this is the only person in the world that matters. For a few it works out really well and years later they're celebrating their Golden Jubilee. But for most of us, our passionate youthful infatuations are not real love and we go on to meet our true soul mates. So if you're really young and have just split up with your first boyfriend, you should probably try dating other boys first to see whether Mr Ex is in fact Mr Right as opposed to Mr Right now. If you have dated a load of men and this man is your ideal mate, then you should make every effort to get back together with him.

How long you were together will also play a part in whether you should make up or not. A couple who have been together a few weeks don't know one another that well despite what they might think. The sexual attraction between couples in the early stages of a romance could often blind you to the fact that your partner isn't a candidate for a lifelong happy relationship. Emotions run really high in the early days and you may find yourself splitting up on a weekly basis. If this is the case, it's often a sign that there's no future for you at this point in time.

If you've been together for years, you might have split up because you've taken one another for granted. Couples drift apart as life gets in the way. You frequently find that you spend more quality time with your neighbors and friends than you do with your significant other. Illness, stress and financial worries can also play a part. If you have been together forever and have suddenly split up, then you should make every effort to sit down and discuss your relationship to see is it worth saving. Occasionally, sadly it isn't but at least you will know that you've made every effort.

Why you broke up will partially determine whether you should get back together or not. If you and you ex boyfriend have split because of a frivolous misunderstanding then you should try getting back together. It's pointless letting your pride stop you from saying sorry if you acted childishly. If on the other hand you have split up due to lies, deceit, fraud or an affair, the decision to get back together is a lot harder.

Ultimately it hinges upon what both of you want. You can't force somebody else to love you even if you do resort to emotional blackmail. Saying I want to get back together with my ex boyfriend is easily achievable if he also wants this to happen.