Thursday, March 25, 2010

Have You Been Looking Into Marriage Encounters

Marriage encounters is a course run by the Catholic Church which began in the 1960's. It is advertised as a unique opportunity for couples to spend time together exploring their relationship. It is not specifically aimed at those having marriage problems as the speakers do not offer advice or counseling. Other religious groups will offer a similar program for their members. If you are interested but are not a Catholic speak to your religious adviser about what they offer.

It is more about building up togetherness in the relationship and helping a couple to survive the period in every marriage that happens when the initial love and lust has started to wear off. Is it worth going on one of these weekends? Well that really depends on your view point. Some people find it a wonderful experience while others are not all that impressed. I would suggest that you don't pressure your partner into going and only attend one of these events if both of you are keen. Don't be afraid that it will be a religious event as most couples don't come away with that impression. It is all about finding the right way and time to speak to your partner. Simply taking time out of your life to concentrate on your relationship is always a good thing. Going away on a weekend where it is just the two of you makes it rather difficult not to spend some time discussing your issues and feelings. Even the best relationships need some attention and love as otherwise they will not last.

If you are having marriage difficulties and want to get some help, there are specific places to look. You can try marriage counseling offered by your Church, religious group or a local charity in your area. You can also try reading some good self help materials such as the Magic Of Making Up. If both partners read this book, you are almost guaranteed to find some improvement in your relationship as it will teach you how to speak to one another in a constructive way.

There are some warning signs that your relationship is in trouble. For example if you never spend time together on your own, you need to address this. If you find that you cannot think of things to talk about other than your kids or your money problems, this may also be a sign that there are issues that need addressing. If you fail to make a connection in bed or outside it, you probably should get some help to avoid any minor problems becoming bigger.

Every relationship is different - what some couples find romantic others find overwhelming but if you have been together for any length of time, your instincts will tell you if there is a problem. Don't ignore it. Perhaps the marriage encounters weekend may be a good idea if only to force you into each others company for a couple of days.

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Marriage Requirements - Do You Make The Grade

It is amazing how many people will search for marriage requirements to see if they can legally get married or perhaps to see if they can have a Church wedding. Yes these same people may not give the same time and thought to whether the person they are marrying is the right one for them. It is so easy to get caught up in the romance of the occasion and to forget that while your wedding day is a big event, it is the start of something so much bigger.

Getting married is a commitment and should be treated as such. More people give longer thought to taking out a joint mortgage than to getting married. This could be due to the fact that divorce is relatively inexpensive, unless you have a complicated estate or are very wealthy, and it is also socially acceptable in most circles. The fact that celebrities marry and divorce at will certainly doesn't help.

The sad fact is though that most people do not walk away from a broken marriage without incurring pain and scarring. It is difficult to see all your dreams of happiness with another person die. And it is worse when you remember that a significant number of people who divorce, regret it. They don't regret getting married, they regret getting divorced!

So what can you do to prevent landing in a similar situation? The first step is to be realistic in your expectations. While it is fantastic to have your husband or wife as your best friend, they cannot supply you with everything you need. You have to a happy individual in your own right or you will make both of you miserable. You need to be independent even though you are part of a couple. You need to show your partner love, respect and loyalty while still giving them and expecting them to give you the freedom to have a life of your own. Your partner should know that they can go out with their friends and have a good time without getting the third degree on their return. Your relationship will be much more successful if everyone involved has room to develop and breathe. And if you do have kids be careful to still make your relationship a priority as one day they will grow up and leave home and you don't want to be left with a stranger for company.

You need to do things as a couple and spend quality time together. Nurture your love and show appreciation for each other. Surprise your partner with a small romantic gesture every now and then and not just on the obvious occasions like their birthday, Valentines day or your wedding anniversary. In the Magic of Making Up you will get more ideas on how to prevent your marriage or relationship from joining the depressing list of the divorce statistics. So stop worrying about marriage requirements and concentrate instead of being sure that you two are made to last the distance.

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Help Prevent Marriage Failure

If you are worried about marriage failure, you must sense that all is not rosy in your own love affair. Don't panic, as most marriages go through periods where it seems that the divorce courts are getting nearer but it doesn't have to end this way.

If you have children, you need to get a babysitter. Make a date with your husband away from your home. Go to a restaurant or bar as being in public reduces the risk of your conversation turning into a full scale row. However, leave the booze alone unless of course you have something to celebrate at the end of the day. It is difficult enough to discuss the issues or problems you are facing in your relationship without having an alcohol induced haze to fight as well.
It is important to take this discussion to neutral territory for a number of reasons. For one thing you have a duty to protect your kids from seeing the worst of the arguments between mom and dad. Now don't get me wrong. Your children will benefit from seeing their parents have mutual disagreements as that is life - bringing kids up to believe that the world is a happy place all the time is just silly and in the long term detrimental to their well being. But you need to show them that married couples can argue and remain happily involved. They can disagree but come to a solution together without getting abusive or making appointments with divorce lawyers.
Before you go to this date make a list of all the things you love about your partner and all the things that drive you nuts. Hopefully the first list will be longer! Also try reading a couple of self help relationship counseling books as these can really help you to put things into perspective. I highly recommend reading the Magic of Making Up as it has saved countless marriages and relationships.

When you do go on your date, be careful how you approach your other half. If you start the evening off with "I hate it when" or "look at this list I made of all the reasons you annoy me" you are doomed to failure. You don't want to attack your partner. Ok, you may be angry and you may even have plenty of justification for being very angry but think about what you are trying to achieve.

You do not want your relationship to be another marriage failure statistic. Virtually any relationship can be saved if both parties want it to happen. You may have to persuade your partner that it is worth saving what you have. You will both have to work hard and the next few months may well be the most difficult you have yet encountered in the history of your relationship. But when you get through it you will find that your marriage is stronger and happier than it ever was. Now isn't that worth fighting for?

Monday, March 22, 2010

Is Your Marriage On The Rock

Are you thinking your marriage is on the rock? Don't despair or panic, it is not over yet and with a little work and some good luck you can save your relationship.

Every partnership between a man and a woman will go through a period where it seems they have fallen in hate with each other rather than love. Perhaps you are fighting every day and can't remember the last time you both spent some quality loving time together. Perhaps your sex life has died and is now just a distant memory. Or maybe you have found out your partner has been cheating on you or lying to you about something important?

People often believe that cheating is the end of any relationship but it doesn't have to be. A one off affair is not the same as somebody who cheats on a regular basis regardless of the consequences. That shows a distinct lack of respect for their partner and that is not an easy problem to resolve.
Whatever the reason for your current difficulties, splitting up and heading for the divorce courts is not the easy answer. You owe it to yourself and each other to make an effort to save this relationship and fight for your right to be happy together. You fell in love once and the good news is that you can rekindle these feelings and perhaps even make your marriage stronger. Will it be easy? No! Will it be painful? Yes! Will it take time? Yes! But will it be worth it? Almost definitely. I say almost as only you know whether you are willing to put in the time, effort and commitment to saving your marriage.

You are going to need some outside help. For some this will take the form of relationship counseling while others would prefer to read a book in the privacy of their own home. Some people will want to do both. I would strongly recommend that you both read the Magic of Making Up. It will help you to put things into perspective. It will also show you that most couples are capable of resolving their issues and making their commitment to each other stronger and happier.
It really comes down to the question of whether you are prepared to fight for the potential your marriage once had or if you want to walk away. If you think you prefer the second option, remember that the grass can appear greener on the other side. In other words, it may seem that you will be happier with your partner out of the picture but the reality could be very different. Life is hard no matter what age or background you come from. Sharing the ups and downs that come along every day with someone you love and respect makes living a lot more fun and a lot more worthwhile.

So what are you willing to do to take your marriage on the rock and turn it into a happy love affair?

Sunday, March 21, 2010

What Does The Bible Say About Marriage

If you are wondering what does the Bible say about marriage, it really depends on which book you read. Obviously the views of the Old Testament are rather stricter than those expressed in the New Testament. You need to be careful when looking to the Bible for answers. Sure use it as guidance but the contents need to be interpreted in the light of the times those people lived in. Not all of the information contained in this book is relevant to the issues and crisis that can affect marriages today.

For example, the "What God has joined together let no man separate" teaching is wonderful if you are in a successful marriage and both of you are happy. But I don't believe God would want any woman to stay with an abusive husband or vice versa. And while I believe that marriage is for life, there are always exceptions to the rule. Unfortunately in our society today, the number of marriages breaking down is on the increase. This could be for a number of reasons, not least of which is that divorce is more socially acceptable these days. It could also be the fact that people often enter into marriage contracts without putting enough thought into whether the other person is the right match for them. Just look at any number of celebrities, some of whom appear to believe that a Wedding chapel should be fitted with revolving doors.

It is very easy to walk away when your marriage hits a bad spot and sadly that is the mistake a lot of people make. But the fact is that every relationship will hit the rocks on occasion. What is important is what you do to put it back on the happy track. Men and women are so different that it can lead to communication issues. Then you add in life hassles such as worries over children, money, mortgages, jobs etc and it is easy to see why romance may go a little cold.

But before you head for the divorce lawyer, why not invest a little money into some education. Buy the Magic of Making Up and see if you can apply these theories to your own situation. So many people will separate from their partner and end up living a life of misery on their own. Or they move onto the next marriage and then the next etc. If you once loved your partner, you can rekindle this lost love and it really doesn't take a huge effort. In fact it usually takes less time and energy than trying to find someone else to love and learning how to handle their faults. Better stick to the devil you know and usually love on some level!

So pay less attention to wondering what does the Bible say about marriage and start concentrating on getting those romantic feelings back into your own. You will be very glad you did.

Friday, March 19, 2010

What Are The Signs Ex Wants You Back

Do you know what are the signs ex wants you back? If you don't then you need to learn them or you could lose your relationship forever.

So what should you be looking for? Is your ex suddenly turning up everywhere you go? I don't mean in a way that would suggest stalking you but in a casual just happened to be at the same place type way? Don't forget that your ex knows you intimately so it wouldnt be difficult to work out where you are going to be. The fact he/she is making this effort to find you would suggest he or she wants you back.

Is he or she always smiling and well dressed? Again these are big clues that they want to rekindle romance with you as the advice is always to appear happy and well turned out as nobody wants to be with someone miserable.

Have they taken to calling or texting you about little things? Are they looking for excuses to talk to you? If this is the case, this is the strongest signal yet that they want you back. Do you want them back? If so, why not ask them to meet and sit down and have a chat. I don't believe in the rule that you should always wait for the other person to make the first move. You could end up waiting your entire life and that would be a waste for everyone involved.
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On the other hand you could find that your ex has disappeared into the sunset and is not to be found. This could also be a sign that they want you back but are following the "absence makes the heart grow fonder" approach. I don't understand why people bother with this technique as if you are not available to talk, how can you fix a problem in your relationship? But a lot of counselors suggest it as a way of dealing with a break up and unfortunately their clients listen. Worse still, some people will advise your ex to start dating someone else in the hope that this makes you jealous. I don't know about you but I would get angry if my ex did this to me but I suppose it would get my attention. I would never suggest to anyone they try this tactic as it could so easily backfire and it is never right to play with another person's emotions.

If you are looking for more hints on how to get your ex back, you should read the Magic of Making Up by T W Jackson. Just head over and read the testimonials to see how often this book has helped couples get back on track on the road to relationship happiness. Couples just don't say together through luck. Those in happy partnerships are there because they work at it and spend time together helping to deepen the bond that began with the initial attraction. If you want your ex back, go and get them and work together to try and find a way to rekindle the love and passion you both once shared.

Thursday, March 18, 2010

How Many Times Have You Heard Someone Say I Lost Love

How often have you heard someone say I lost love? How did you feel when they said that? Perhaps you are saying it yourself? It is relatively easy to lose love. Why? Men and women are very different creatures and often they have problems communicating with each other. Add to that the unrealistic expectations that Hollywood or TV productions nurture via their films and you can see why couples often split as soon as the going gets a little tough.

But the fact is that all relationships even the ones others consider to be successful will go through difficult patches. Ask any couple who have lasted the distance and they will tell you that it isn't all moonlight and roses. You can be living with someone, married to them even and have kids together yet feel that you hate them with a passion you never knew you had. You don't really, well most people don't! Life has just got in the way and over time you two have forgotten that you need to nurture your love much as a plant needs watering to survive.

It is too easy to take someone else for granted and assume that they are happy with the way things are between you. It is also easier to leave things be than to try and deal with any painful issues that may have developed between you. Sometimes there is an embarrassment factor as well. For example it is not uncommon for couples to start to experience sexual difficulties when they have been together for a while. This could be something simple like one partner has a higher sex drive than the other or it could be a medical reason such as the menopause causing problems or the man having difficulties maintaining an erection. Instead of dealing with these issues together, some couples let them come between then until such a time as the communication gap is so wide you believe you have lost love.

Other couples let their job, their kids or their friends take priority over their partners and this can cause anger and resentment. You should never let anyone not even your children come before your partner, at least not on a consistent basis. Kids grow up and leave home, friends come and go but your partner is the one person you want to remain by your side forever. The key is to remind them of this fact on a regular basis.

The good news is that most relationship issues can be sorted out with a little bit of guidance. You can seek marriage counseling or you could read a great self help book like the Magic of Making up. Perhaps you could do both. If you have already split up by the time you read this, don't despair. It doesn't mean you have to give up on your ex partner forever. You can get them back if you know the right way to achieve it. So stop thinking I lost love and start thinking about all the ways and means at your disposal to rekindle love and passion.

How Many Times Have You Heard Someone Say I Lost Love

How often have you heard someone say I lost love? How did you feel when they said that? Perhaps you are saying it yourself? It is relatively easy to lose love. Why? Men and women are very different creatures and often they have problems communicating with each other. Add to that the unrealistic expectations that Hollywood or TV productions nurture via their films and you can see why couples often split as soon as the going gets a little tough.

But the fact is that all relationships even the ones others consider to be successful will go through difficult patches. Ask any couple who have lasted the distance and they will tell you that it isn't all moonlight and roses. You can be living with someone, married to them even and have kids together yet feel that you hate them with a passion you never knew you had. You don't really, well most people don't! Life has just got in the way and over time you two have forgotten that you need to nurture your love much as a plant needs watering to survive.

It is too easy to take someone else for granted and assume that they are happy with the way things are between you. It is also easier to leave things be than to try and deal with any painful issues that may have developed between you. Sometimes there is an embarrassment factor as well. For example it is not uncommon for couples to start to experience sexual difficulties when they have been together for a while. This could be something simple like one partner has a higher sex drive than the other or it could be a medical reason such as the menopause causing problems or the man having difficulties maintaining an erection. Instead of dealing with these issues together, some couples let them come between then until such a time as the communication gap is so wide you believe you have lost love.

Other couples let their job, their kids or their friends take priority over their partners and this can cause anger and resentment. You should never let anyone not even your children come before your partner, at least not on a consistent basis. Kids grow up and leave home, friends come and go but your partner is the one person you want to remain by your side forever. The key is to remind them of this fact on a regular basis.

The good news is that most relationship issues can be sorted out with a little bit of guidance. You can seek marriage counseling or you could read a great self help book like the Magic of Making up. Perhaps you could do both. If you have already split up by the time you read this, don't despair. It doesn't mean you have to give up on your ex partner forever. You can get them back if you know the right way to achieve it. So stop thinking I lost love and start thinking about all the ways and means at your disposal to rekindle love and passion.

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

I Miss My Ex

How often do you hear people saying I miss my ex? Probably a lot and the sad thing is that most relationships that finish shouldn't. They end because of poor communication which can be easily improved if only you know how. Very few couples break up because of infidelity. In fact, being able to talk properly to each other would often make the reasons behind the infidelity disappear.
so why do we find it so difficult to communicate? There are a number of reasons but the main one is that our brains are wired differently. Our brains process information in various ways and generally speaking in women there are certain parts of the brain namely the language center that is more developed than in a mans. That doesn't mean that women are superior to men only that they are different. A woman tends to be more emotional whereas a man is more logical. So when discussing a problem, it can seem as if they are speaking different languages.

Other things get in the way as well such as pride and fear. When you have too much pride, you don't want to be seen as the weaker partner. Funnily enough the very things that you think are weak such as the ability to admit when you are wrong or that you miss your partner are actually a sign of strength of character. It is knowing what we want out of life and grabbing it with both hands that makes us happy not whether we were the ones to apologize last in an argument.
Fear is another big factor in the breakdown of partnerships. Most of us have an underlying fear of rejection. This may be caused by past experiences or a lack of self esteem or both. So instead of telling our partner that we love them and want to stay with them forever, we walk away for fear they don't feel the same way. The sad truth is that they probably do love you too but are also afraid of laying their emotions on the line for fear that they will get trampled.

It is very sad to see couples that are great together break up. It is especially so when they have been together a long time so have invested lots of emotional hours into the relationship. Often the break up is caused by life factors such as stress at work or worries over kids or finances. Other times one partner may feel jealous of the relationship between their partner and one of their own kids. Children can play a huge part in splitting up their parents not by choice but because children aged 5 -7 often become jealous of their parents. For example a boy may feel that his Dad is more important to his mum that he is so he will stir up trouble between them. Or a girl may feel jealous of her Dad's affection for her mum. This is completely natural and a phase in childhood that most kids grow out of. But while it is happening, it can prove very stressful to all concerned.
So the next time you hear someone say I miss my ex, tell them to contact their old partner and see if they can get together for a chat and just maybe they will get back together again.

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

How To Stop A Divorce In Five Easy Steps

With the divorce rate rising on what appears to be a daily basis, it is no surprise that people are wondering how to stop a divorce. The good news is that it can be done, it is relatively easy when you put these five steps into action.
1) Find time for each other:
Your relationship will not survive unless you find time for each other and do this regularly. This doesn't mean throwing the odd comment at one another over the dinner table when the kids are fighting but actually making an effort to communicate. Put the kids to bed, switch the TV or computer off and sit down and have a chat. Talk about your day, your feelings and any issues that are worrying you. By maintaining open lines of communication you are less likely to have disagreements and misunderstandings over trivial things. Yes you will still fight but that is completely natural and can be a good thing if it leads to a nice making up session.
2) Always show respect for one another:
No matter how long you have been together you should always show respect for your partner. Give them time for themselves and don't expect to occupy their every waking moment. There will be times when your partner is going through a difficult time either because of work or personal problems that have nothing to do with your relationship. Be there for them at this time. This doesn't mean you have to solve the problem as that will not always be possible but if they know they have your support, it will help a lot.
3) Never put one another down
You should never put your partner down not even in private. When someone loves another person, they tend to open up to them and share intimate details that they wouldnt share with anyone else. If that partner then uses this knowledge to put them down, the hurt can be enormous. So be careful and try and think before you open your mouth. If you do insult them, be quick to apologize and reassure them you didn't mean it.
4) Show appreciation
We are all guilty of taking things for granted including our health, our jobs and probably our partners. You need to make a conscious effort to show your partner appreciation for their efforts. You know your partner and this means understanding how they like to be shown appreciation. For some people telling them verbally works while for others, they need gestures rather than just words. Taking time to complement your other half will increase your mutual appreciation and the bond between you making divorce less likely.
5) Show forgiveness
We all mess up occasionally and rather than holding onto this incident, why not practice forgiveness. You never know when you will mess up and you will want your partner to return the favor. Nobody is perfect and you will have a much happier life if you don't keep expecting them to be.
Follow these five tips and you should never need to know how to stop a divorce!

Monday, March 15, 2010

How To Win Love Back

If you are serious about answering the question how to win love back, you need to go and get a copy of The Magic Of Making Up. In this book, Mr Jackson will explain to you the various reasons why we fall out of love with our partners. More importantly he shows you the techniques you can employ to get your groove back. It is never too late to try to rediscover the passion and love you felt for your ex partner. From this book you will learn how to communicate properly.

He will go through certain things like when you are trying to sort out a problem you should always use sentences starting with I rather than you. "I feel hurt when you come home late from work" is a lot better than "you are always late home from work". The first is explaining how you feel and should lead to a discussion about whether the working late can be fixed and if not, how you can work around it. But the second sounds like an attack and if you deliver it just as the person walks through the door after a long day, it is easy to see how it can escalate into an argument.

Often we say things in the heat of the moment that either aren't true or are an exaggeration of how we are really feeling. An example would be when you are fed up with your partner but you tell them you hate them. You don't really hate them as a person but perhaps their behavior is a problem. When you are in the middle of a relationship that isn't working as well as it could, it is very easy to get caught up in a cycle of blame. You hold the other person responsible for everything that is going wrong. This isn't fair nor is it likely to be true. All too often, it is both parties that are causing the problems. Unfortunately one or other of you will have to be brave enough to take a stand and try and sort it out. Leaving it to fester will lead to the end of your partnership and often this is exactly what happens.

When you have already split up and are trying to win your lover back, you need to go back over the last few months or even year of your relationship and see what went wrong. Ask your ex to meet up with you and be honest about your reasons. Don't expect them to read your mind and know that you want to rekindle the love affair. Also don't expect miracles either. You didn't break up overnight so you are unlikely to be able to fix all your problems overnight either. But given the right attitude and some good luck and great advice, you should soon know how to win love back and be happy again. What have you got to lose? A little bit of pride is a small price to pay to get your lover back now isn't it?

Sunday, March 14, 2010

Are You Thinking I Am Still In Love With My Ex

Perhaps you are thinking I am still in love with my ex but it is hopeless as they don't love me. How do you know that? Perhaps they regret the break up as much as you do. Unfortunately when two people split up, they can let things drift between them rather than trying to reconcile and rediscover their former passion. There are a number of reasons why. They may feel hurt particularly if they were the one who were dumped. They may feel that they will only make a fool of themselves if they try to get their ex back. There are even some people that believe all break ups happen for a reason and therefore the relationship is best left finished.

Well I am happy to say that most if not all of these beliefs are garbage. It is extremely unusual for two people in a long term relationship to break up and not have any feelings left for the other person. Yes it is natural to be hurt regardless of who was the "guilty" partner. It is also completely reasonable to be scared of making the first move to reconcile. But think about this? Would you rather sleep with your pride or your lover?

Letting someone you love out of your life forever because you cannot bear the thought of him or her rejecting your advances is silly. Life is difficult enough without standing in your own way of happiness. Sure they may knock you back but at least you will know that you gave it everything and not spend the rest of your life wondering what if. Imagine you don't do anything now and you bump into your ex lover in twenty years time. On this future occasion he or she admits that they never stopped loving you and have wanted you back in their life all this time. Wouldn't you just kick yourself? Yet this is exactly the scenario you are risking by not being prepared to make the first move, admit you think you were wrong to break up and that you want to give things another go.
Come on now, what do you stand to lose? Really when it comes down to it do you want to waste time thinking I am still in love with my ex or do you want to grab life with both hands, find your ex partner and tell them how you really feel. If you want some hints and tips on how best to approach them, try reading the Magic Of Making Up. The testimonials on the sales page will tell you how often the hints in this diamond have worked. You have come to a crossroads in your life and the next move is up to you. You alone have to take 100% responsibility for your actions or lack of them and the results. Don't listen to your family or your friends. Think about what you want and how your life will look if you never get your ex back. Now make a decision and go for it. Don't live a life of regret due to misplaced pride or thinking you "know" the answer to how someone else feels.

Saturday, March 13, 2010

Saving A Relationship The Easy Way

If you are interested in saving a relationship go and buy The Magic Of Making Up now. This book is written by a happily married man who gives you cheerful down to earth practical advice on how to save your marriage or partnership. Just have a look at all the testimonials he has had to see that his advice works and fast.

Whether you want to save your marriage or are talking about saving a long distance relationship, you need help. You could try marriage counseling or even doing a course like relationship rescue. But for most of us, we don't want to air our dirty laundry in public; even if it is with someone who has heard it all before or at least something similar.

We want to cure our relationship woes in private. How do I know? Why would there be shelves full of books on dealing with relationship problems if we were all ready to use counselors. There is a billion dollar industry involved in producing books, DVDs and courses on how to fix your own partnership issues.

This would not exist if there weren't loads of people willing to pay good money for these products. Unfortunately while there are some great books out there some of the material produced will do more harm than good. So you need to be careful what you read and whose advice you listen to.
Men and women are wired differently. It is not just cultural but physical differences in our brain that we are trying to overcome when communicating with members of the opposite sex. On average women have a more developed hearing and language center in their brain which may explain why traditionally they make better communicators.

Men are programmed to fight first and ask questions later. This again is a result of genetics and not a judgment on men. You can perhaps understand why it is difficult to discuss the problems you may be experiencing. But you have to learn how to communicate properly or you will either end up alone or even worse, incredibly lonely while still involved in a relationship.

A great partnership means that you have to share common interests. You have to be able to trust each other and have the facility to discuss how you are feeling without being worried about retribution. You both have to be allowed to be honest even when what you are saying is not what the other person wants to hear. This is not the same as you have the right to hurt one another. Wanting to inflict emotional pain on your partner is not one of the hallmarks of a successful relationship.

The good news is that you can learn how to do all these so long as you have a good teacher and they don't come much better than Mr T W Jackson. Saving a relationship will be easy once you get his book. What are you waiting for?

Friday, March 12, 2010

Do You Need A Relationship Rescue Service

Are you wondering if you need a relationship rescue service? Are there warning signs that not all is well in your love life? Perhaps your partner is being evasive or non attentive? Perhaps they are busier than normal and not available to go on dates if you are not yet married or come home early if you are? When you are with them, do you get the feeling they would rather be anywhere else?

Before you panic there could be a million reasons why your partner has gone a little cold on you. He or she could be worried about their job, money or a health issue. They could have a friend going through a rough patch and be trying to help them. It doesn't mean, necessarily, that they don't love you.

In his book, The Magic Of Making Up, T 'Dub' Jackson talks about being able to communicate properly. This is one area that can be improved in almost all relationships. Did you know that most couples break up not because of infidelity but because of a lack of communication. They simply can't or won't talk to one another.

The problem is that if you do not chat openly about your concerns or worries about your relationship, seeds of doubt are grown and suddenly these seeds become huge bushes. While they were seeds, they would have been relatively easy to work out but now they have grown out of proportion, they become a lot more difficult to deal with.If you suspect there is an issue in your partnership you need to deal with it as soon as possible. Ask your partner to meet you for a drink or a meal on neutral territory. If you have kids get someone to babysit as this is important. Meeting on neutral ground means you are more likely to have a reasonable discussion than a full blown argument.

Don't attack him or her or accuse them of anything. Simply talk about how you are feeling in general terms trying very hard to keep any blame out of the equation. Give them a chance to talk and explain their feelings. Even if it is your relationship that needs rescuing, they may be very grateful that you have brought the issue out into the open.

Most of the time secrets are not good for relationships. The people who have been together for forty years will tell you that it takes hard work, mutual trust and respect to keep love alive. By trying to keep the lines of communication open between you as a couple, you go some way towards developing the trust and respect that you need to survive.

Stop second guessing yourself today and take some action. You and only you can resolve this and it won't happen by putting your head in the sand. Get a copy of the magic of making up, read it and then speak to your partner. Only by taking action can you prevent a relationship rescue service being required.

Thursday, March 11, 2010

If You Have A Bad Relationship - Self Help Techniques May Not Work

If you are in a bad relationship self help techniques may not work unless you seek the right type of advice. If you walk into any bookstore you will see shelves of books written on relationships. They will cover all topics and be written by men and women; some of whom will have very impressive credentials.

But how do you know they will work? How do you know that these same writers are themselves happily involved with someone? Quite frankly I believe you have to be in a great relationship before you can help other people with theirs. After all you don't go to a nun for sex help do you? So why ask a single person how a partnership should work?

You need to use self help books like The Magic Of Making Up i.e. a book written by a real person, who is very happily married and writes to help real people just like you; with similar relationship problems. You want someone who cares whether you and your partner make it or not. Someone who will answer your emails should you wish to ask them a personal question because just sometimes the books don't always cover everything.

Any relationship can be improved. There is no such thing as a 'perfect one' just as no human being is perfect. But you can have a great relationship with your existing partner. They are probably Mr or Ms right for you, just you have hit a couple of hurdles you need some help in getting over.

Self help marriage counseling may be an answer for those of us that don't want to sit down with a stranger; to discuss the intimate details of our relationship. But unless you know where to start and what to look for, you probably aren't going to achieve much more than another argument. The problem is that when you are involved in the situation you often can't see things from the other person's perspective. It is important that you learn as it takes two to tango as the old saying goes.

You will have to deal with painful issues and discussing these will take patience and practice. For example, sex may be causing an issue between you but it is often very difficult to discuss making love. Both of you may feel embarrassed or ashamed or annoyed that this subject is coming up again.

So before you dive into sorting out your relationship, make sure you have done some reading and thread carefully while you apply what you have learned. Take things slowly and don't let your discussions turn into an argument. If things get heated, walk away and cool down. You cannot make the other person speak to you, so if they are not into a chat at that time, then leave it, and wait for a couple of days. Usually you will find that your partner is just as eager as you are to sort things out. Pick your moment before applying the relationship self help approach.

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

How To Get Back With Ex - When It Seems Helpless

Are you wondering how to get back with ex partner? There are many steps you can take with the most important first one being to ask yourself are you sure this is what you want. Sometimes we try to get back with our old partner because quite frankly the dating game is difficult.
The devil you know is easier than the one you haven't yet met. Also if you have children or share a home mortgage breaking up is more difficult than if you have recently met. That being said, most people break up for all the wrong reasons and it is a real pity when they don't get back together. It is difficult to quantify the number of relationships with potential, that don't get a chance to mature and deepen, because of someone's pride and/or a silly argument, so don't let that happen to you.
So if you want your partner back what can you do? The old theory that absence makes the heart grow fonder isn't always true. You could easily say that out of sight out of mind applies instead. Why? Familiarity has a powerful affect on attractiveness i.e. the more familiar you are the more attractive your partner will find you. This explains why the initial physical attraction between two people often disappears and is replaced by something a lot deeper and longer lasting. After all beauty tends to fade as you get older. So the trick to getting your ex back is to bump into them very often but not to the extent where they think you are stalking them.
When you do meet make sure that you are smiling and look like you are having fun. You want to show your ex that he or she is missing something fantastic and being miserable won't do that. On the other hand if you project an image of happiness they will wonder why they were stupid enough to let you go. Make sure you keep up plenty of eye contact as all the studies say that this can boost your attractiveness factor. But again keep this in perspective and act naturally. You do not want your ex thinking that he has just landed on the set of Fatal Attraction.
Forget about fancy chat up lines and the other games that people play in the dating game. If you want your ex back why not just tell them. Apologize if you were in the wrong and say that you would like to give the relationship another go. Sure they may not want to and your pride may be a little damaged; but surely it is worth taking the chance. If you really want something in life you have to go and get it. As it says in Magic Of Making Up, there is very little that a relationship cannot weather and be improved by experiencing so long as both of you are adult enough to move on. Now you know how to get back with ex, off you go and put this advice into action.

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Are You Studying Relationship Psychology

Are you studying relationship psychology in a bid to discover why you and your partner don't appear to be getting on very well? If so I would suggest you stop before you end up driving yourself nuts.
There are a huge number of relationship philosophy and psychology books out on the market but every one you read appears to contradict the others. In a recent interview, even Dr Phil, the relationship expert,admitted that most therapist and counselors don't know how to fix a partnership. Sure they will give you the theory and the reasons behind some types of behavior, but whether that sorts out your particular problem is more a matter of luck than anything else. Often they come from a background of broken relationships, but you won't know this as your counselor never divulges their personal details to their clients.
Every partnership is different and while some issues between men and women i.e. who wants more sex, who does the most housework, who earns the most money, who minds the kids more often; can be similar. However at the end of the day the issues you are facing are as a direct result of who you and your partner are.
Does that mean you can't find help? Of course not but you don't need a relationship psychology course to do it. What you need is a great self help book that will help you to communicate and relate to your partner better. Something for both of you to read and share.
I suggest the Magic of Making Up as it is written by a man which is rather unusual to start with. Mr Jackson is very happily married and committed to helping his clients either become that way or remain that way. You only have to read some of the comments from his readers to see what impact the book had on their lives. Perhaps you have come to the end of your partnership, as I am not going to lie and say every relationship can be saved, but at least wait before making your decision until you read this book. Then you will be armed with the knowledge to make the right decision for you, your partner and if appropriate your kids.
It takes guts to admit that there are issues in your partnership that need working on. It is so much easier to put your head in the sand and hope that they will go away. But the sad fact is that most won't disappear for good. They may go away for a little while but they will come back and perhaps even worse than before. Problems have a way of developing a life of their own if they are not dealt with quickly and efficiently.
You and your partner have invested a lot in each other and so you should be willing to take one more step to try to prevent a breakup. So forget about studying relationship psychology and instead concentrate on making each other happy once again.

Sweet Things To Say To Your Boyfriend Can Be Sweet Nothings

There are several routes to enter your boyfriend's heart of hearts and remain there. But perhaps one of the easiest and most effective route is to whisper "sweet nothings" into his ear. However, when you want to know the sweet things to say to your boyfriend, you should try to find the right and appropriate things that suit his personality. Of course, most men will fall for certain romantic words regardless if they are whispered or not.
By the way it's not necessary to choose a specific time for uttering these sweet things to your boy friend. You can do this at any time and anywhere, regardless of what either of you are doing. Well, on second thought, not if he's in a meeting with his boss. After all discretion is said to be the better part of valor.
Also you don't have to worry about whispering the sweet nothings to your lover. Very simply because you are in fact relieving his nervousness, that may be the result of his work or other stress of every day life.
When you want to choose the sweet things to say to your signfcant other, the best tools to help you are your true feelings. If a special thought or feeling, whelms over you, take the time to feel it and embed it into your own heart of hearts. Your heart is the storehouse of your love for him. Hence it is the right spring board, from which you can delve deep into the ocean of your emotions, to get various ideas for telling sweet things to your boy friend.
Your boy friend may not admit that he expects you to say such things but he has to admit the fact that your sweet words will make his life more pleasant and enjoyable.
A few examples of sweet things to say to your boyfriend are a bit corny, but hey they work:
- I miss your loving when you aren't with me.
- I love how you love me.
- You are my endless melody.
- How many stars did God steal from the sky when he made your eyes?
- You're so much better than any guy I ever met.
- You are my powerful, hot sunshine.
- Hey, Tiger Toes, where did you get that sweet tone of yours?
- I'm lost, can you keep me?
- If you were cheese, I'd want to be your macaroni.
- Hey Pookey Schmooky, I love your Pookem Schmookems.
- If I could wish for one thing on this planet, I would wish for your lips to touch mine, without a question, without a sound.
- You are my endless love.
- Pucker up, Pumpkin, because I want to be your Pumpkin Spice!
- I adore you, my little Bunny Rabbit!
- I love smelling the scent of you that lingers on my clothes after we part.
- Put your arms around me, because I want to be engulfed by your heat.
- I get goosebumps down my spine, every time your arm wraps around mine.
- When I close my eyes at night, you are all I see.
- I love the way I feel when I am with you.
- I couldn't have dreamed of a better mate.
- Your thoughtfulness touches my heart.
- I thank God for placing you in my life.
These examples will help you get started on a positive note. But whenever you have sweet things to say to your boyfriend, they will be most effective when you are both in a relaxed and romantic mood. By throwing in a bunch of romance and passion, along with the words, and you will definitely keep the home fires burning, hotter and hotter.

Monday, March 8, 2010

Tips On How Can I Tell If My Boyfriend Really Loves Me

If you have the question of "how can I tell if my boyfriend really loves me" in your mind, there is no doubt you have a tinge of apprehension and uncertainty about his love. Trust me when I tell you; you're not alone with your doubts. Many girls have similar doubts, because the signals they are getting from their boyfriends, just aren't strong enough to really answer the all important question; "Does he really love me?"
I also want you to realize that it may well not be your fault that these doubts enter into your mind. Simply because your significant other may belong, to that 'herd', of men who have extreme difficulty in showing affection. Even when they are deeply in love, it is almost impossible for them to convey it openly or even overtly to you.
When you are with him, you may have a feeling that everything is all right. But once you are out of his sight, it looks as if he has completely forgotten your existence. But once these "doubts" enter into your thoughts, they can quickly become an obsession and consume you. And the end result can destroy your relationship; with someone who does love you. Therefore it's important for you to learn the skills of reading and interpreting your lovers signs; of his true love for you. The following are a few tips that will enable you to help you to resolve the doubts you have been experiencing
- When you are having a conversation with him, you should maintain eye contact. If he is serious about you and the conversation, he will also look directly into your eyes. You will quickly learn he's not being distracted by the other things going on around you both and it's a sure sign of his true feelings for you.
- If your beau puts your priorities before his, you can pretty well conclude that you are special to him and he cares deeply for you.
- Another sign you can look for if he is willing to discuss his 'personal life' openly with you or even obliquely. This shows that he holds you in very high esteem and he believes you will give your moral support and advice on solving the issues. Yes, he will have his own ideas to sort these issues out, he will respect your thoughts and perhaps implement your suggestions. And when a man does that you can bet, your are more than just a girlfriend.
- As you may know, a great many men have trouble remembering those "special days." A sure sign of true feeling for you is when he will try hard to remember those special days such as your birthday, the anniversary of your first meeting with him, etc. and present you with gifts that are unique. These gifts may be inexpensive but they will speak volumes of his love towards you.
If you observe that the behavior of your boy friend conforms to the above clues, you can conclude that he really loves you, though he is not the type who expresses it openly. These signs provide an answer to your question, "how can I tell if my boyfriend really loves me?".

Friday, March 5, 2010

3 Tips On Things To Talk About With Your Boyfriend

Love can be better explained by the oxymoron, painful pleasure, because sometimes you have to do certain things you don't like doing; choosing things to talk about with your boyfriend may be one of those things. The fact is men get bored with topics in which they don't have a real interest in. Which means the majority of the time it's left up to you, as his significant other, to quickly discover where his true interest lies. But Hey! Let's face it! Sometimes it's extremely difficult to get our lover to open up and tell us what they truly like.
Think about it this way, your man may be one of the ones, who finds it difficult to share his true feelings. If so you have to knock those naturally raised barriers down and earn his trust. And one of the easiest ways to do that is to talk about what he likes to do. Yes! I know what you're thinking, "Oh my gosh, what if I don't have any interest or knowledge about the topic at all?" Well, guess what girlfriend, if you want to have a protracted conversation, with your beau, you're going to have to suck it up; project some interest and at least a little bit of understanding about the topic being discussed. But it doesn't have to be a complicated process either.
One of the easiest things to talk about with your man is food. Almost everyone enjoys talking about food and beverages. And I'm willing to bet you and your man really enjoy good food and a great drink along with it. Chances are your first date involved having a meal or drink together. Therefore you know right off the bat, food is something you both have interest and perhaps a passion about. The wonderful thing about talking about food is it often opens the door for moving on into talking about another of his interest.
And music happens to be one of those open end conversations, that most men like to talk about. Once again another subject you and he both will very likely have an interest in. Even if you both have a different taste in the type of music, it is really easy to find a common ground about songs you both enjoy. The truth is discussions about music, can often lead into talking about love and romance, which in turn can lead into a more intimate conversation.
Naturally you know where I'm headed with this conversation. Yep! You guessed it; sex or you might prefer bedroom talk. Talk about a way to grab your man's attention and hold it; face it girlfriend you will have his undivided attention. You may have to lose a little bit of your inhibitions, to talk about the more intimate parts of your relationship and sex life, but it will serve you well by doing so.
These are just 3 tips on things to talk about with your boyfriend. There are many more such as reading, movies, world events, politics and hundreds of others. However, it still comes back on you to learn what truly interest your man.

Thursday, March 4, 2010

Cheating Boyfriend Test 4 Types of Tests

Girls who think that their boyfriends are cheating will often turn to Internet websites to find answers to their suspicions. Most will run into a "cheating boyfriend test" that will gauge their situation, and give advice based on the information provided. It is important to take the information you find through these quizzes with a grain of salt. It is also important to be able to differentiate between the four types of tests, and how they can affect your results and your relationship.
The "Hunch" Test
The first type of test that many will run into can be referred to as the "Hunch" test. This test simply asks you questions that are based on your gut instinct. Questions on these tests will include phrases like 'Do you assume that he's or "If you had to guess, when he goes out with his friends he...". These questions are based on your hunches, and are not based on actual evidence. These tests lead to paranoia, and never manage to prove whether or not your boyfriend is cheating on you.
The "Changes" Test
Another type of test will focus on the irregularities of your relationship. The test will simply ask you about any changes that you may see in your boyfriend, or in your relationship. Questions may ask if he acts toward you like he used to, or if he does simple tasks in the same way that he used to. This test aims to gauge any irregular behavior, but suffers the same fate as the hunch test. This test simply makes you more paranoid, and doesnÕt actually prove anything at all.
The "Professionals" Test
Professional tests are tests that are designed by psychiatrists and behavior specialists. These tests claim to give you a professional opinion on your boyfriend. These questions cause nothing but trouble; most are not actually designed or supported by any professionals. These tests simply pretend to have more clout than they actually have.
The "Personality" Test
The final type of test is the only type of test that may be somewhat legitimate for those who are trying to figure out if their boyfriend is cheating on them. The 'personality' test looks at the personality of your boyfriend. The test will not state whether or not your boyfriend is cheating on you. The answers will simply tell you whether or not their personality type is prone to cheating. This test is the most positive of them all because it gives you hints and tips about the personality of your boyfriend without assuming that he is actually cheating on you.
There are certain types of test that could be considered more reliable than others. It is important to understand, however, that no test can actually tell you whether or not your boyfriend is being unfaithful. You must simply trust that they are being faithful, or confront them about their cheating ways.

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

4 Types of Cute Boyfriend Quotes

Cute quotes can be the perfect way to convey your emotions to the person that you love. These quotes will help people to put their feelings into words when they may not be able to do so themselves. These quotes can be perfect for cards, scrapbooks, gifts, and notes. If you are looking for cute boyfriend quotes, there are four types of cute boyfriend quotes for you to choose from.
Poetry Quotes
Poetry quotes can be some of the best quotes to use to convey your emotions. Poems are often eloquent, providing the perfect words to describe your emotions. If you are not good at conveying how you feel to your boyfriend, look for poems. Simply look online through different free poem databases to find poems, both old and new, that talk about relationships and love.
Movie Quotes
At first, the idea of using movie quotes for quotes for your boyfriend may seem corny. Most movie quotes are over the top, and may come across as insincere. The more you look into movie quotes, however, the more that you will realize how true they can be. Movies tend to take emotions and word them in a way that is easy to understand.
Song Lyrics
Song lyrics generally revolve around love. Most of these quotes can be directed toward your boyfriend and your relationship. The quotes are often short and simple, making it easy to understand the emotions that are being explained. Use song lyrics from your favorite singers and bands. If you are trying to impress your boyfriend, use song lyrics for their favorite bands and artists.
Comedian Quotes
Emotions can be expressed in different ways. Most will try to aim for the cute and sappy type of boyfriend quotes. Others will take a more humorous approach. If your boyfriend can take a joke, use comedian quotes. These quotes will give your boyfriend a good laugh, but will still convey your emotions fairly well. There are multiple websites online that will bring you to multiple comedian quotes.
If you are looking for humorous quotes, use discretion. While humor can be a fun way to explain your emotions, it can easily go too far. Quotes that are too funny or to insincere may ruin the cute but emotional feel that you are looking for.
These four types of cute boyfriend quotes will work in any situation. If you are giving your boyfriend a gift, include these quotes in the card. If you are making a scrapbook, use these quotes next to your favorite photos. If you want to make your boyfriend's day extra special, use these quotes on post-it notes in random places.
There are tons of quotes out there for you to use. By looking for these four types of quotes, you can be sure that you will find the best quotes for your boyfriend.

Serious Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend

When you first get into a relationship, you are simply excited about your new love. You will often avoid many important relationship topics and conversations when you first fall in love with someone. With that being said, there are multiple questions and topics that should be covered by these who are in a more relationship. These are some of the serious questions to ask your boyfriend as you relationship continues to get more serious.
What Do You Think about Kids?
If you find that your relationship is getting more and more serious, you need to start thinking about your future goals. If you are dead-set on having a kid, and your boyfriend is dead-set on not having children, you may have an issue. While it may not be grounds to break up right away, it is something to keep in the back of your mind as you find your relationship to be more serious.
Is This Long Term?
You need to be upfront with your boyfriend about your wants and needs. IF you are looking for a long-term relationship, you need to tell them this. They will then be able to tell you whether or not they are on the same page.
What Are Your Thoughts on Monogamy?
It is important to be on the same page as far as monogamy is concerned. You need to ask this relatively soon. Be clear and firm about your stance on the issue, and make sure that you clearly understand their thoughts on monogamy as well.
Am I a Priority?
Talk to your boyfriend about their priority list. While you should not expect to be first on the list of priorities, you should not be last. Find out where you rank in their life to fully understand how committed they are to you and your relationship.
Do You Love Me?
This simple question may seem pointless, and may not seem serious. This question can actually have a strong purpose. When you ask your boyfriend if they love you, you are reaffirming their feelings. Sometimes, it is simply good to be verbally reassured that they love you and care about you.
Are You Willing to Work for Our Relationship?
Relationships are not easy to maintain. They require work and patience to be successful. You need to talk to your boyfriend about your relationship to understand if they are willing to do the work necessary to maintain a good and healthy relationship.
It is important to space these questions out; do not ask them all at once. While you want to have serious talks, you do not want to bombard your boyfriend with serious questions. IT is also important to keep an understanding tone while talking about these questions. An accusatory tone can ruin your relationship.
You should be asking these questions to understand your boyfriend. You need to think about serious questions to ask your boyfriend to ensure that you are not surprised by something later on in your relationship.

Tuesday, March 2, 2010

Does My Boyfriend Still Love Me 4 Positive Signals to Look For

It is normal to have some doubts about your relationship. Many will feel these doubts as their relationship continues to grow; While they know that their boyfriend is interested, they will question whether or not their boyfriend still loves them. If you find yourself asking 'Does my boyfriend still love me?', there are a few simple signals that you can look for. These 4 positive signals will give you a better idea of your beau's feelings toward you.
He Cares about your Emotions
Does your boyfriend constantly ask you about your emotions? If you find that our boyfriend asks you if you are ok, or if you are upset, you can know that they still love you. This shows that your boyfriend is interested in your emotions, and your emotional well-being. If they didn't love you, they would not be interested in your emotions or feelings.
He Buys you Gifts
Does your boyfriend surprise you with small gifts? Is he paying attention to the things that you want, or the things that you like, and getting them for you? This can be a clear signal for you, highlighting how your boyfriend feels about you. If your boyfriend is buying you gifts, you can be sure that he still loves you.
He Hates Break-Up Talk
You may be questioning the emotions of your boyfriend because of talks that you may have had. If you and your boyfriend have talked about breaking up, it can be easy to feel as though they do not love you.
You need to look into the nuances of your conversation to understand how you should take the conversation. Does the conversation topic bother your boyfriend? If he doesn't like thinking about the idea of breaking up with you, he still loves you.
He's Planning for the Future
It can be easy to question the strength of your relationship. It is normal to wonder about your boyfriend and whether or not he still loves you. One of the easiest ways to calm these fears is to notice when your boyfriend includes you in his future. If your boyfriend is planning his future and includes you in these future plans, you know that he loves you. He would not think about you and consider you in his future plans if he did not love you.
These 4 signals will all be able to give you a good indication of your significant others emotions. If you want to fully understand these emotions, however, you need to talk to your soul mate. Have a serious talk with them about their feelings and about your relationship. When you find these four positive signals and have a positive talk with your boyfriend, you will feel as good about your relationship as possible.

Does My Boyfriend Really Love Me 5 Actions to Look For

It can be hard to fully understand the emotions of your partner. While you may try to get into their mind, you may still struggle to understand how they feel. You may find yourself asking, 'Does my boyfriend really love me?' Each relationship will have different signs and signals that will answer this question. With that being said, there are five different actions that may show that your boyfriend loves you.

He Does the Small Things

People tend to focus about the larger aspects of relationships. They often fail to look at the smaller aspects of their relationship. This is unfortunate, as most of the tell-tale signs of love can be found in the small things. Does your boyfriend work to make you smile? Is he extra-corny just to make you laugh? Is he making you dinner, or letting you pick the movie? All of these small things show that your boyfriend is looking out for your feelings and emotions, and that he does have strong emotions for you.

He's Talking about the Future

One of the biggest indicators of love is any talk that discusses the future. If he is talking about future dates, or future actions, you can know that he sees you in his future. Whether it be the immediate future, or a distant future, you can be sure that he loves you or at the very least cares deeply for you.

He's Taking you Out

Does your boyfriend take you out to dinner, or out on the town? If your boyfriend likes to entertain you, he has strong emotions for you that could be love.

He's Showing you Off to Friends

Your boyfriend would not show you off to his friends if he did not love you. Is your boyfriend inviting you to hang out with his friends? Does he constantly talk to his friends about you? These are clear signs that he values your relationship.

He Wants you to Meet the Family

One of the biggest steps in a relationship is the step that introduces you to your boyfriends family. Most men will not introduce a partner to their family unless they see potential in the relationship. If your boyfriend did not see this future, he would not introduce you to parents, brothers, or sisters. If he wants you to meet the family, you can be sure that he loves you.

Your boyfriend may not be the best at verbalizing his love for you. If he does struggle to vocalize his feelings, look at his actions. If you notice that his actions signify a deep emotion, you can know that your boyfriend loves you. If you find yourself asking 'Does my boyfriend really love me?', simply look for these few actions. If you notice one or more of these actions, you can be sure that your boyfriend loves you or cares deeply for you.

5 Types of Love Letters to Write to a Boyfriend or Girlfriend

A love letter can be the perfect way to convey your emotions to the person that you care about. Unfortunately, writing this love letter can prove to be a difficult task. While some people can write down their emotions easily, others struggle with the idea of a love letter altogether. If you want to pen a love letter, here are five different types of love letters to write to a boyfriend or girlfriend.

Things Unsaid

The first type of love letter to consider is the love letter that holds all of the things that you do not say. This is the perfect love letter for those who are shy about your emotions. You can write down all of the positive things you see in your significant other and in your relationship. When you write down the things you never say, you open your lover up to a new side of your emotions. This is a powerful way to show your soul mate how much he means to you.

Things You Always Say

Another love letter to consider is a letter that simply consists of the things that you say on a normal basis. Putting these thoughts and words into a letter will give your sweetheart a simple reminder of your love, commitment and emotion. They can take the letter with them wherever they go, reminding themselves of the things they usually hear from you.

Poetry

If you are feeling creative, write a poem. You can easily write poems that convey all of the emotions that you feel for your one and only and for your relationship. A poem will show your sweetie that you care enough to take the time to craft something special for them.

Song Lyrics

If you enjoy music, consider writing song lyrics about your lover. You can write lyrics to a song that already exists, or create a brand new song. Either option will show your honey that you are thinking of them and will let them know exactly how you feel about them.

There are some relationships that thrive off of sarcasm and humor. If you have this kind of relationship, consider a humorous love letter. This love letter will still convey your emotions, but will do so in a way that your boyfriend will find enjoyable.

There are multiple approaches that you can take to the love letter-writing process. You simply need to think about the person that you are dating, and the kind of relationship that you have. Certain types of love letters will fit your relationship, while others will not. Take the time to consider what you want to say, and to find the correct way to say it. While it may take a little extra work to take these things into consideration, it will help you to know what love letters to write to a boyfriend or girlfriend

Monday, March 1, 2010

4 Ways to Use Cute Quotes for your Boyfriend

If you are trying to think of interesting ways to make your boyfriend happy, consider the use of cute quotes. Cute quotes can be placed anywhere and can be used in nearly every situation. These quotes can be a great way to convey feelings and emotions. They can also be a great way to make your normal relationship talks more interesting, and more romantic. Here are 4 ways to use cute quotes for your boyfriend.

Cards

A simple gift card can be the perfect way to use a cute quote. Find some of the best quotes that you can find and write them in the card. These quotes make the card more personalized, and can easily convey your thoughts and emotions.

You can also find cards that already have cute quotes on them. These cards are less personal, but will still be able to explain your feelings and emotions.

Scrapbooks

Scrapbooks are a simple and easy way to work cute quotes in to a gift. You can easily make a scrapbook for your boyfriend that features these quotes. Simple find quotes that are appropriate for your relationship, and for the pages of the scrapbook that you plan on making. The cute quotes take on a more serious and deeper meaning when they are paired with pictures from some of your favorite memories together.

Cute Notes

If you want to be somewhat spontaneous, grab some note cards or some post-it notes. Gather all of your favorite cute quotes, and write them on these notes. Then, place these notes in random places for your boyfriend to find. Hide them in places in his apartment or home when he is in a different room. These surprise quotes will take your boyfriend off guard, making them more interesting, more thoughtful, and more enjoyable.

Emails

A simple way to brighten up your boyfriend's day is to send them cute quotes through emails. You can send them one single email with multiple quotes, or you can send them one email a day with a different quote per day. This will help your boyfriend to think of you every day, but will also help to make each and every day a little more enjoyable. While it may take some effort to keep up with the cute quote emails over time, it will be worth it in the end.

Many people fail to realize that a simple hand-made card can be one of the best gifts that a boyfriend or girlfriend can receive. Personalized scrapbooks, notes, and emails can all make your boyfriend's or girlfriend's day. Take the time to find some of the best cute quotes for your boyfriend or girlfriend. When you find the right quote, and find the right way to deliver that quote, you will have found a strong way to connect with your significant other.