How To Get A Guy Back After A Breakup

Are you certain that you want to get your guy back after a breakup? It could be difficult to know precisely how you feel in the days following the breakdown of your relationship. Feelings of loneliness and wounded pride could be confused with real love. It's always a good idea to try and analyze your relationship and why it failed. If the reason is that long term you're not compatible then do yourself a favor and move onto the next guy. You and your ex deserve to be happy but this doesn't necessarily mean that will be as a couple.

But if you're truly pining for him try these tips:

1) Never stalk a guy to get back with him. He will not find it flattering but will think you have lost your mental capacity. You need to project a confident image even if your insides resemble melting ice-cream.

2) Always look your best whenever you go out. As Helena Rubenstein once said, there's no such thing as an ugly woman, only lazy ones. Now isn't the time to let yourself go. Get your hair done, always wear make up and wear the clothes that show off your body in the best light. Do not change your image. He fell for you the way you're so now isn't the time to change.

3) Try to ascertain why you were dumped. Did you behave badly? If you did, then you need to apologize and do this properly. Men have feelings also although they typically manage to hide them better than women.

4) Did you play too many games? I do not know what it's about us women but for some reason we occasionally treat relationships as if they were a game of Chess. If I do this, he will do that approach does not work in most cases and men, like all human beings, don't like being played. Honesty is always the best policy. If you have been playing games as you were trying to see if your feelings were returned, then just ask him out straight. Most men like the direct approach - they are not really good at reading signs and subtle hints.

If you do get back together, make certain that you have sorted out the problems that caused the break up to begin with. Failure to do so just means that you are postponing your heartache. If you're looking to spend your life with this guy you need to be sure that you are compatible in all areas. While sexual attraction is tremendous and in my view a essential part of every good relationship it isn’t the only thing that matters. Mutual respect, appreciation and shared values go a long way to avoiding having to deal once more with the question of how to get a guy back after a break up.