Being in love is a wonderful thing. But not being sure if your boyfriend loves you makes things really tricky. Yes, there are times you are convinced that he loves you, but then there are times when you're not so sure. It's enough to drive you nuts! See, if he does indeed have feelings for you, then you're ready to commit to him and stay with him forever. On the other hand, if he doesn't really care for you deep down, then why waste your time investing in a one-sided relationship? At the very least, you can try to get him to love you if his feelings aren't all that strong for you at this time.
All of this can be really confusing, and that only makes it harder. Fortunately, there are some signs you look for to tell if your boyfriend really loves you or not.
Buying gifts. If he surprises you with random gifts, then that's a good sign. It may be a somewhat superficial way of expressing love, but a lot of guys have a hard time expressing it any other way. So, accept his gifts graciously and know that it's his way of showing you that he cares for you.
Listening. It's great to have somebody that you can really talk to. Perhaps your boyfriend just has awesome communication skills and has always been a good listener. Either way, if he is listening to you then it shows that he loves you enough to care about what you have to say.
He knows you. We're not talking about him knowing your name or being able to recognize you in a crowd. One sign that your boyfriend really loves you is if he knows a lot of the details of your life. What was your nickname in grade school? Did you have childhood pets? Where did you grow up? What are favorite and least favorite foods? What makes you sad? Happy? Angry? What do you like to do? And the list goes on and on. Generally speaking, the more he knows, the more he cares.
He treats you well. If your boyfriend gives you the occasional massage, cooks you dinner, willingly goes shopping with you, or does anything else just to make you feel good, then that's a very strong sign that he cares for you.
Planning a future. A guy is usually only going to talk about the future if he loves you. Or, more specifically, your future together. If he's talking about having a family someday, buying a house, or maybe even looking ahead to where the two of you will retire, then you can take that as a sure sign that your boy really loves you.
While all of these are good signs, they are just signs. Maybe he already does one or two of these things, or maybe none at all. He can still love you either way, he just may have a different way of expressing that love. However, the more of them that describe your boyfriend, the better.
Sunday, February 27, 2011
Saturday, February 26, 2011
Husband Having An Emotional Affair - Spot It Fast
Is your husband having an emotional affair, or are you just worried that he is? In some ways emotional affairs may even be worse than the physical kind, though no one wants to have to deal with the aftermath of either. No one wants to think that their husband can actually be in love with someone else, at least if it was just physical you could console yourself with the idea that "didn't mean anything" but you have no such solace with an emotional affair.
It's often said that a man rarely leaves his wife for the other woman, but when love is involved the odds of him leaving to be with the woman he loves are a lot higher. That is part of the reason an emotional affair can be so damaging to a relationship and it is not something to be taken lightly.
It can be quite easy for anyone to get caught up in an attraction especially if they are spending a lot of time with someone, say a co-worker. When two people who have a lot in common are thrown together day in and day out (not to mention over night business trips and the occasional weekend retreat) it's no wonder that an emotional romance can happen.
Once that attraction and affection grows, it's often not long until the relationship turns physical and they act on the feelings they are having for each other. It's not uncommon for the people involved in the relationship to be in a state of denial, they don't even know that they are having feelings for someone other than their spouse or that what they are doing really is cheating.
Here are some signs that your husband is becoming too involved with a co-worker:
1. If your husband suddenly starts taking more time with his appearance before heading off to work. Or, he starts working out. Of course, you don't want to jump to any conclusions he might just have finally gotten fed up with his spare tire, but it is certainly something to keep an eye on.
2. If he seems to be working a lot of extra time, going to more after work meetings and gatherings. This is really something to worry about if he used to take you to after hours office functions but now he tells you that you would "just be bored" and he'll go alone.
3. If he suddenly starts acting differently; things like leaving the room to take a call, or closing the door when he is on his computer. These are definite signs that he is doing something he doesn't want you to know about. Further discussion between the two of you is in order.
4. This is probably the biggest sign that whatever is going on is emotional and not physical and that he may not even realize it: he talks about a certain person, female, from work a lot. If your husband suddenly starts a lot of sentences with "So and So said this" or "So and So did that" you might have a problem brewing.
Is your husband having an emotional affair? If you're not sure, there are some things to look for. Hopefully nothing is wrong but if it is, there is nothing to be gained by ignoring it.
is probably the biggest sign that whatever is going on is emotiona
It's often said that a man rarely leaves his wife for the other woman, but when love is involved the odds of him leaving to be with the woman he loves are a lot higher. That is part of the reason an emotional affair can be so damaging to a relationship and it is not something to be taken lightly.
It can be quite easy for anyone to get caught up in an attraction especially if they are spending a lot of time with someone, say a co-worker. When two people who have a lot in common are thrown together day in and day out (not to mention over night business trips and the occasional weekend retreat) it's no wonder that an emotional romance can happen.
Once that attraction and affection grows, it's often not long until the relationship turns physical and they act on the feelings they are having for each other. It's not uncommon for the people involved in the relationship to be in a state of denial, they don't even know that they are having feelings for someone other than their spouse or that what they are doing really is cheating.
Here are some signs that your husband is becoming too involved with a co-worker:
1. If your husband suddenly starts taking more time with his appearance before heading off to work. Or, he starts working out. Of course, you don't want to jump to any conclusions he might just have finally gotten fed up with his spare tire, but it is certainly something to keep an eye on.
2. If he seems to be working a lot of extra time, going to more after work meetings and gatherings. This is really something to worry about if he used to take you to after hours office functions but now he tells you that you would "just be bored" and he'll go alone.
3. If he suddenly starts acting differently; things like leaving the room to take a call, or closing the door when he is on his computer. These are definite signs that he is doing something he doesn't want you to know about. Further discussion between the two of you is in order.
4. This is probably the biggest sign that whatever is going on is emotional and not physical and that he may not even realize it: he talks about a certain person, female, from work a lot. If your husband suddenly starts a lot of sentences with "So and So said this" or "So and So did that" you might have a problem brewing.
Is your husband having an emotional affair? If you're not sure, there are some things to look for. Hopefully nothing is wrong but if it is, there is nothing to be gained by ignoring it.
is probably the biggest sign that whatever is going on is emotiona
Thursday, February 24, 2011
How To Know Mr Right And Dont Let Him Fool You
Many women have been fooled by a guy who has put on a good show, pretended to be very interested in them and as soon as he got them in to bed, he was gone. If you want to be able to tell the difference between a smooth talking fake and the real deal, and how to know Mr Right, keep reading for some helpful tips.
Men like to say that they don't understand women, but the truth is many men have women pegged. They have made it an art form to know just how to act and just what to say to convince the woman that they are really interested. The problem is that it's all a show. They are only acting that way because they want to get her into bed and afterwards they're gone.
That can be truly devastating to a woman who thought she may have found Mr. Right only to discover that he is just another schmuck.
There are many signs that the guy you are dating may not be the person who is claiming to be. Most of them are just common sense, and if you don't ignore your gut instincts you will be fine:
1. If you have a feeling that your would be Mr. Right is a cheat or a liar than he probably is. Trust your instincts. If you've heard stories about how someone is a player, don't ignore them, where there is smoke there is fire. When we ignore our instincts is when we get in trouble.
2. If the guy is interested in you, he will call you... often. If he is interested you will be on his mind all the time, it won't be a chore to talk to you.
3. A guy who is only interested in one thing and who is trying to pretend to be something more than he is, won't work that hard. If you pay attention he will let things slip, he will show his true colors. Like I said above, as long as you don't conveniently ignore the warning signs, you can be just fine.
4. When you are just falling in love, your instincts may be compromised, but your friends instincts won't be. If your friends don't like your new guy, don't just dismiss them. They are probably picking up on something you're just not able to see.
5. Watch carefully how he reacts when things don't go his way. If he gets really mad and has a hard time laughing at himself when he does something dumb, he really isn't going to be a lot of fun to be around.
How does he treat waiters and waitresses? Is he rude and abrasive or is he kind? He will tell you all you need to know, all you need to do is to keep your eyes open and don't ignore the warning signs.
Even though there are men out there who like to lie and pretend to be something they aren't, learning how to know Mr Right isn't that hard, keep your eyes open, trust your instincts and listen to your friends.
imself when he does something dumb, he really isn't going to be a lot of fun to be around.
How does he treat waiters and waitresses? Is he rude and abrasive or is he kind? He will tell you all you need to know, all you need to do is to keep your eyes open and don't ignore the warning signs.
Even though there are men out there who like to lie and pretend to be something they aren't, lear
Men like to say that they don't understand women, but the truth is many men have women pegged. They have made it an art form to know just how to act and just what to say to convince the woman that they are really interested. The problem is that it's all a show. They are only acting that way because they want to get her into bed and afterwards they're gone.
That can be truly devastating to a woman who thought she may have found Mr. Right only to discover that he is just another schmuck.
There are many signs that the guy you are dating may not be the person who is claiming to be. Most of them are just common sense, and if you don't ignore your gut instincts you will be fine:
1. If you have a feeling that your would be Mr. Right is a cheat or a liar than he probably is. Trust your instincts. If you've heard stories about how someone is a player, don't ignore them, where there is smoke there is fire. When we ignore our instincts is when we get in trouble.
2. If the guy is interested in you, he will call you... often. If he is interested you will be on his mind all the time, it won't be a chore to talk to you.
3. A guy who is only interested in one thing and who is trying to pretend to be something more than he is, won't work that hard. If you pay attention he will let things slip, he will show his true colors. Like I said above, as long as you don't conveniently ignore the warning signs, you can be just fine.
4. When you are just falling in love, your instincts may be compromised, but your friends instincts won't be. If your friends don't like your new guy, don't just dismiss them. They are probably picking up on something you're just not able to see.
5. Watch carefully how he reacts when things don't go his way. If he gets really mad and has a hard time laughing at himself when he does something dumb, he really isn't going to be a lot of fun to be around.
How does he treat waiters and waitresses? Is he rude and abrasive or is he kind? He will tell you all you need to know, all you need to do is to keep your eyes open and don't ignore the warning signs.
Even though there are men out there who like to lie and pretend to be something they aren't, learning how to know Mr Right isn't that hard, keep your eyes open, trust your instincts and listen to your friends.
imself when he does something dumb, he really isn't going to be a lot of fun to be around.
How does he treat waiters and waitresses? Is he rude and abrasive or is he kind? He will tell you all you need to know, all you need to do is to keep your eyes open and don't ignore the warning signs.
Even though there are men out there who like to lie and pretend to be something they aren't, lear
Tuesday, February 22, 2011
Warning Signs - Emotional Affair - Spot Them Qucikly
If you are worried about your spouse and fear that you see some warning signs emotional affair than there are a few things that you can be on the lookout for. Just remember that it's very easy to let your imagination run away with you. You have to be careful to not see things that aren't really there.
Many of the tips I'm about to give you can be signs of an affair but they can also be innocent and may not mean a thing. Just don't risk making things worse by assuming something that may not be the case. If something seems wrong don't accuse your spouse, instead open a dialog with them and ask them about your concerns.
In some ways emotional affairs can be the most damaging. It may actually be a little easier to forgive a physical indiscretion since it didn't mean anything anyway, but an emotional connection with another person is particularly upsetting and hard to get over.
Here are a few possible indicators that something is going on:
1. Your spouse suddenly starts working out or has a sudden interest in wearing new and nicer clothes. Again, this might be totally innocent but if it seems like it is coming out of the blue than it may be a sign of trouble.
2. If your spouse seems to be spending a lot more time at work than normal. A lot of sudden overtime may be a sign that something is going on. Keep your eyes open and don't accuse, but it can't hurt to talk.
3. If your spouse suddenly starts talking about a co worker a lot. If all of a sudden you are hearing your spouse talk about the same person and there is a lot of affection in their tone, it may be a sign of an emotional affair. Sometimes an emotional affair can sneak up on people. Even if your spouse is starting to have feelings for someone, they may not realize just what is going on yet; all the more reason to not jump down their throats.
4. If your spouse is suddenly very private about their phone conversations and computer habits, it is a strong indicator that they are doing something they don't want you to know about. You need to find out what that "something" is (or who it is).
It's all too easy to slowly have an attraction grow between two people who spend a lot of time together and have a lot in common. That's why work place affairs happen so often. But before you run off and accuse your spouse of something that you think they have done, you had better be sure or you can really make a mess of your marriage.
Looking for warning signs emotional affair? If you are at that point it's very likely that something has happened to make you suspicious. You know the saying "where there's smoke there's fire" so assuming that you aren't just overly paranoid and jealous, by the time you start to get suspicious it's likely that there is something happening.
But before you run off and accuse your spouse of something that you think they have done, you had better be sure or you can really make a mess of your marriage.
Many of the tips I'm about to give you can be signs of an affair but they can also be innocent and may not mean a thing. Just don't risk making things worse by assuming something that may not be the case. If something seems wrong don't accuse your spouse, instead open a dialog with them and ask them about your concerns.
In some ways emotional affairs can be the most damaging. It may actually be a little easier to forgive a physical indiscretion since it didn't mean anything anyway, but an emotional connection with another person is particularly upsetting and hard to get over.
Here are a few possible indicators that something is going on:
1. Your spouse suddenly starts working out or has a sudden interest in wearing new and nicer clothes. Again, this might be totally innocent but if it seems like it is coming out of the blue than it may be a sign of trouble.
2. If your spouse seems to be spending a lot more time at work than normal. A lot of sudden overtime may be a sign that something is going on. Keep your eyes open and don't accuse, but it can't hurt to talk.
3. If your spouse suddenly starts talking about a co worker a lot. If all of a sudden you are hearing your spouse talk about the same person and there is a lot of affection in their tone, it may be a sign of an emotional affair. Sometimes an emotional affair can sneak up on people. Even if your spouse is starting to have feelings for someone, they may not realize just what is going on yet; all the more reason to not jump down their throats.
4. If your spouse is suddenly very private about their phone conversations and computer habits, it is a strong indicator that they are doing something they don't want you to know about. You need to find out what that "something" is (or who it is).
It's all too easy to slowly have an attraction grow between two people who spend a lot of time together and have a lot in common. That's why work place affairs happen so often. But before you run off and accuse your spouse of something that you think they have done, you had better be sure or you can really make a mess of your marriage.
Looking for warning signs emotional affair? If you are at that point it's very likely that something has happened to make you suspicious. You know the saying "where there's smoke there's fire" so assuming that you aren't just overly paranoid and jealous, by the time you start to get suspicious it's likely that there is something happening.
But before you run off and accuse your spouse of something that you think they have done, you had better be sure or you can really make a mess of your marriage.
Monday, February 21, 2011
How To Get Over A Relationship - Tips For Moving Forward
You may be wondering if there are any tips on how to get over a relationship more quickly. The answer is yes, there are. But, that doesn't mean that it will still happen overnight, but it can happen a little more quickly and with a little less pain.
The very first thing to do is to acknowledge that you are hurt and that you will miss your ex and that you will go through some pain. No point in trying to pretend that everything is ok, it's not, yet, but it will be. Trying to ignore your pain or pushing it so far down that it doesn't seem real is only going to make things a lot worse in the long run.
For the first couple of days or weeks, give yourself permission to whine, wallow and wail. If you want to cry, scream, obsess and eat ice cream it's perfectly ok. The only things you should not do are those things that may cause more problems down the road. You know, self destructive things like drinking too much or having sex with lots of other people.
While we're on the subject of things you shouldn't do - you shouldn't listen to people who tell you that you should be over your pain in a certain amount of time. These people probably mean well, but it's just plain dumb to set a time limit on your grief. Everyone is different and it will take as long as it takes.
Once you've spent this much needed time venting, it's time to pull yourself back up and start living again. Now just to be clear, I'm not talking about dating. It's much to soon for that, I'm just talking about doing positive things that made you happy in the past and can, if not make you happy, at least lessen some of the pain you are feeling now.
Now is not the time to be alone either. You want to surround yourself with positive people, friends and family, who you can lean on and who will encourage you to pursue positive things that can help you heal a little faster.
If you really want to focus on things that make you feel better focus on doing the things that you have always wanted to do but never got around to. If you have always wanted to travel to another country, or take a class or learn to paint, whatever it is, do it now.
Learning a new skill or trying something new can be like a a balm to your damaged soul. These activities may not make the healing go any faster but learning something new and keeping your mind off of your ex and your pain may make it seem like it went faster.
So, to recap, the best advice on how to get over a relationship: stay positive, stay away from negative activities and negative people, allow yourself time to grieve, try new things, and take care of you. These things can help you feel a little better a little quicker and they can also help you avoid going into your next relationship with a lot of baggage.
ke the healing go any faster but learning something new and keeping your mind off of your ex and your pain may make it seem like it went faster.
So, to recap, the best advice on how to get over a relationship: stay positive, stay away from negative activities
The very first thing to do is to acknowledge that you are hurt and that you will miss your ex and that you will go through some pain. No point in trying to pretend that everything is ok, it's not, yet, but it will be. Trying to ignore your pain or pushing it so far down that it doesn't seem real is only going to make things a lot worse in the long run.
For the first couple of days or weeks, give yourself permission to whine, wallow and wail. If you want to cry, scream, obsess and eat ice cream it's perfectly ok. The only things you should not do are those things that may cause more problems down the road. You know, self destructive things like drinking too much or having sex with lots of other people.
While we're on the subject of things you shouldn't do - you shouldn't listen to people who tell you that you should be over your pain in a certain amount of time. These people probably mean well, but it's just plain dumb to set a time limit on your grief. Everyone is different and it will take as long as it takes.
Once you've spent this much needed time venting, it's time to pull yourself back up and start living again. Now just to be clear, I'm not talking about dating. It's much to soon for that, I'm just talking about doing positive things that made you happy in the past and can, if not make you happy, at least lessen some of the pain you are feeling now.
Now is not the time to be alone either. You want to surround yourself with positive people, friends and family, who you can lean on and who will encourage you to pursue positive things that can help you heal a little faster.
If you really want to focus on things that make you feel better focus on doing the things that you have always wanted to do but never got around to. If you have always wanted to travel to another country, or take a class or learn to paint, whatever it is, do it now.
Learning a new skill or trying something new can be like a a balm to your damaged soul. These activities may not make the healing go any faster but learning something new and keeping your mind off of your ex and your pain may make it seem like it went faster.
So, to recap, the best advice on how to get over a relationship: stay positive, stay away from negative activities and negative people, allow yourself time to grieve, try new things, and take care of you. These things can help you feel a little better a little quicker and they can also help you avoid going into your next relationship with a lot of baggage.
ke the healing go any faster but learning something new and keeping your mind off of your ex and your pain may make it seem like it went faster.
So, to recap, the best advice on how to get over a relationship: stay positive, stay away from negative activities
Sunday, February 20, 2011
Relationships And Cheating - Dont Go Hand In Hand
Some people have been burned by infidelity before and since they have had so many bad experiences they may mistakenly think that relationships and cheating go hand in hand. For the record, nothing could be further from the truth. There are many people who have resisted temptation and have never cheated on their partner. If you have a skewed idea of what a relationship should be like because of some past experiences, read on.
Many people believe that whether we like it or not, everything that happens in our life is a direct result of the choices and decisions we make. Now please note, that does not mean that when things to wrong it's your fault, it just means that often one thing leads to another and the choices and decisions you have made will help determine where things go.
So, if you continually have bad relationships then you have to determine what you are doing that encourages you to settle for people who are so flawed that they can't make a full commitment to you. What "vibes" are you putting out that attracts the wrong type of person to you?
So instead of repeating the same old habits and behavior and getting the same old results why not figure out what you do to attract the wrong person? Sometimes we unconsciously sabotage ourselves because we don't really believe that things will work out or because we don't really feel like we are deserving of happiness.
If you find that this pattern describes you than you really should take a little time and get some counseling so you can change your behavior and your expectations. You do not have to settle for being in a relationship with someone who you can't count on or who won't respect and love you. You deserve better.
You don't have to settle for an abusive relationship with someone who you can't trust. Cheating does not, and should not, be a part of a relationship... period.
A good therapist can work with you and help you determine why you settle for self destructive behavior. Once you find the root cause of your issues you can find a way to work on them and move past them.
It's never easy for anyone to admit they have problems and need some help, but for anyone who seems to always attract the wrong kind of person and who continually gets involved with people who only end up letting them down, they can benefit from some soul searching and some lifestyle changes.
A counselor can help you with that.
You need someone who can help steer you in the right direction and help you see things that you may be too close to see on your own. You want a non judgmental person by your side to help you face, and change, your issues so you can find happiness.
No matter who you are and no matter what your past relationships have been like, you can have a great, loving and respectful relationship. Relationships and cheating do not have to go together, you can break the cycle.
Many people believe that whether we like it or not, everything that happens in our life is a direct result of the choices and decisions we make. Now please note, that does not mean that when things to wrong it's your fault, it just means that often one thing leads to another and the choices and decisions you have made will help determine where things go.
So, if you continually have bad relationships then you have to determine what you are doing that encourages you to settle for people who are so flawed that they can't make a full commitment to you. What "vibes" are you putting out that attracts the wrong type of person to you?
So instead of repeating the same old habits and behavior and getting the same old results why not figure out what you do to attract the wrong person? Sometimes we unconsciously sabotage ourselves because we don't really believe that things will work out or because we don't really feel like we are deserving of happiness.
If you find that this pattern describes you than you really should take a little time and get some counseling so you can change your behavior and your expectations. You do not have to settle for being in a relationship with someone who you can't count on or who won't respect and love you. You deserve better.
You don't have to settle for an abusive relationship with someone who you can't trust. Cheating does not, and should not, be a part of a relationship... period.
A good therapist can work with you and help you determine why you settle for self destructive behavior. Once you find the root cause of your issues you can find a way to work on them and move past them.
It's never easy for anyone to admit they have problems and need some help, but for anyone who seems to always attract the wrong kind of person and who continually gets involved with people who only end up letting them down, they can benefit from some soul searching and some lifestyle changes.
A counselor can help you with that.
You need someone who can help steer you in the right direction and help you see things that you may be too close to see on your own. You want a non judgmental person by your side to help you face, and change, your issues so you can find happiness.
No matter who you are and no matter what your past relationships have been like, you can have a great, loving and respectful relationship. Relationships and cheating do not have to go together, you can break the cycle.
How To Catch A Cheating Spouse - 4 Tips And A Little More
First of all, let me say that I'm sorry. I'm sorry that you are even reading this article and that you suspect that your spouse may be cheating on you. For your sake, I hope you're wrong. But, if you need to find out how to catch a cheating spouse, than I have some information that may be helpful to you.
In some ways, it can be almost a relief once you know, but, that's when the pain will really start. If you have a good support system with a lot of friends and family it will make the process a little easier. Just remember that having a counselor to help you recover from your hurt and pain might be a great idea too.
It's important that you don't let paranoia get the better of you. All of these things can be a sign of an affair but they can also be totally innocent. Just start with these tips but do not jump to conclusions. Find the facts first.
Here are a few things that you can do that will help you find out whether or not your spouse is cheating:
1. First of all, it may be cliche, but one of the most common warning signs is a change in habits and patterns. If your spouse suddenly starts spending a lot of extra time at work, that may be a sign.
2. Is your spouse suddenly secretive? Do they leave the room to talk on their phone, do they spend time at the computer with the door shut? This is particularly telling if the habits are different. If they've always talked on the phone in the same room or worked on their computer with the door open and suddenly they start being more secretive, you may need to delve a little deeper to find out what is going on, if anything.
3. If you're ok with it, you can check their cell phone. You can look at the text messages they've sent and the phone numbers they've been getting calls from. If you see something that looks out of place you may need to find out a little more information.
4. Is your spouse suddenly taking more care with their appearance? Sometimes a gym membership and taking more time with their appearance is just because they want to look and feel better, but in a lot of cases it is a sign that they are trying to impress someone else.
The first thing you should do is to stop and think what you are going to do if you find your spouse is cheating. Do you have a plan for dealing with the situation? Of course, it's impossible to know exactly what you will do in such a difficult situation, but having an idea of whether or not you would be willing to work on the relationship or not can be helpful. These are things that you may want to think about.
These tips can help you find ways to learn how to catch a cheating spouse. I hope for your sake that you're wrong, but not knowing can be almost as hard as knowing the truth.
In some ways, it can be almost a relief once you know, but, that's when the pain will really start. If you have a good support system with a lot of friends and family it will make the process a little easier. Just remember that having a counselor to help you recover from your hurt and pain might be a great idea too.
It's important that you don't let paranoia get the better of you. All of these things can be a sign of an affair but they can also be totally innocent. Just start with these tips but do not jump to conclusions. Find the facts first.
Here are a few things that you can do that will help you find out whether or not your spouse is cheating:
1. First of all, it may be cliche, but one of the most common warning signs is a change in habits and patterns. If your spouse suddenly starts spending a lot of extra time at work, that may be a sign.
2. Is your spouse suddenly secretive? Do they leave the room to talk on their phone, do they spend time at the computer with the door shut? This is particularly telling if the habits are different. If they've always talked on the phone in the same room or worked on their computer with the door open and suddenly they start being more secretive, you may need to delve a little deeper to find out what is going on, if anything.
3. If you're ok with it, you can check their cell phone. You can look at the text messages they've sent and the phone numbers they've been getting calls from. If you see something that looks out of place you may need to find out a little more information.
4. Is your spouse suddenly taking more care with their appearance? Sometimes a gym membership and taking more time with their appearance is just because they want to look and feel better, but in a lot of cases it is a sign that they are trying to impress someone else.
The first thing you should do is to stop and think what you are going to do if you find your spouse is cheating. Do you have a plan for dealing with the situation? Of course, it's impossible to know exactly what you will do in such a difficult situation, but having an idea of whether or not you would be willing to work on the relationship or not can be helpful. These are things that you may want to think about.
These tips can help you find ways to learn how to catch a cheating spouse. I hope for your sake that you're wrong, but not knowing can be almost as hard as knowing the truth.
Saturday, February 19, 2011
Relationship Cheating - You Can Stop It In Its Tracks
When it comes to relationship cheating there are a lot of factors that can contribute to infidelity. I'm certainly not condoning any cheating, emotional or physical, but I am saying that if two people want to salvage their relationship after infidelity, it can help to know where it is coming from.
Few people really understand what cheating is really all about. People think that is is about love or sex, and sometimes it is, but more often than not cheating is simply a poor reaction to something that is going on in the primary relationship.
For example, if you have a couple that has been together for many years and things are not quite as easy as they once were, one partner may stray to alleviate their frustration, guilt, resentment, etc. In other words, cheating is usually the response of an immature and selfish person to something that is happening in their life that they don't like.
Instead of working to find solutions and facing and addressing the problem head on, they choose to bury their head in the sand and find someone who can help them forget their problems for a little while.
Of course, everyone knows that that won't work for the long term. Sure, they may be able to find some peace and maybe feel good or desirable for a short time, but it won't last. In the end they are only making matters much, much worse. They will have more problems to deal with when they finally decide to grow up and take care of business.
So, now that you know what cheating is, and isn't, here are some things you can do to repair the relationship after an affair:
1. The first thing you must understand, and this applies if you were the cheater or the one cheated on, is that this is a process and will usually take a long time. The road ahead is going to be painful and long and if you aren't going to commit to seeing it through you would be better off just ending the relationship right here and now.
2. Most couples won't be able to do all the rebuilding on their own, you may want to consider finding a counselor to work with. It's difficult for a couple to hold their own hurt, anger and frustration in check during this process but if you don't you and your partner won't be able to accomplish anything.
For that reason having an objective third party counselor can mean the difference between success and failure.
3. You must be aware that even if you and your partner are able to stay together and rebuild your relationship, the infidelity may come up again in times of stress. I don't mean that either of you will cheat, though that is always a possibility, but I mean that the old angers and frustrations of the affair may come back up and unexpected times and cause problems.
If you want to find a way back to the loving relationship you and your partner had before cheating, please understand that it may not be easy but it can be done. Relationship cheating doesn't have to mean the end of the relationship as long as you love each other and are willing to work together.
Few people really understand what cheating is really all about. People think that is is about love or sex, and sometimes it is, but more often than not cheating is simply a poor reaction to something that is going on in the primary relationship.
For example, if you have a couple that has been together for many years and things are not quite as easy as they once were, one partner may stray to alleviate their frustration, guilt, resentment, etc. In other words, cheating is usually the response of an immature and selfish person to something that is happening in their life that they don't like.
Instead of working to find solutions and facing and addressing the problem head on, they choose to bury their head in the sand and find someone who can help them forget their problems for a little while.
Of course, everyone knows that that won't work for the long term. Sure, they may be able to find some peace and maybe feel good or desirable for a short time, but it won't last. In the end they are only making matters much, much worse. They will have more problems to deal with when they finally decide to grow up and take care of business.
So, now that you know what cheating is, and isn't, here are some things you can do to repair the relationship after an affair:
1. The first thing you must understand, and this applies if you were the cheater or the one cheated on, is that this is a process and will usually take a long time. The road ahead is going to be painful and long and if you aren't going to commit to seeing it through you would be better off just ending the relationship right here and now.
2. Most couples won't be able to do all the rebuilding on their own, you may want to consider finding a counselor to work with. It's difficult for a couple to hold their own hurt, anger and frustration in check during this process but if you don't you and your partner won't be able to accomplish anything.
For that reason having an objective third party counselor can mean the difference between success and failure.
3. You must be aware that even if you and your partner are able to stay together and rebuild your relationship, the infidelity may come up again in times of stress. I don't mean that either of you will cheat, though that is always a possibility, but I mean that the old angers and frustrations of the affair may come back up and unexpected times and cause problems.
If you want to find a way back to the loving relationship you and your partner had before cheating, please understand that it may not be easy but it can be done. Relationship cheating doesn't have to mean the end of the relationship as long as you love each other and are willing to work together.
Friday, February 18, 2011
Relationship After Cheating - How To Rebuild Your Relationship
Have you ever wondered if there is any chance of a relationship after cheating? Well the answer to that question will depend on the two people in the relationship. If both of you are not able to, or willing to, forgive and forget than it is unlikely to work out.
Trust is extremely difficult to rebuild. Whenever you enter into a relationship with someone, you start with a blank slate. The other person still needs to learn to trust you but if you don't already have any negative baggage it's usually easier.
But, after they let their guard down, let you into their life and trusted you, it is going to be extremely hard to open themselves up to pain after you have shown them that their trust was misplaced.
Even though it will be difficult, that does not mean you should give up. Actually, the last thing you should do is to give up. You need to do everything you can if you want your partner to love and trust you again.
With time, love and patience anything can be rebuilt, but again, it will be imperative that you are both willing to work on it.
Sometimes the best thing to do in this situation is to give your ex some time and space. While you do that you should be spending time figuring out why you did something so self destructive as to cheat on someone you love.
Please don't make the mistake of thinking that infidelity is about sex, it's not. It's about ego, loneliness or insecurity. You need to address what your issues are that you thought would be cured by hooking up with someone else.
Before you can go back to your ex and expect them to take you back, you have to make sure that you know why you cheated before so you don't do it again.
This knowledge will likely take you quite a bit of time to figure out. It will most likely also be painful for you to look at your less than desirable characteristics. But, that is the best chance you have of convincing your ex that they should take you back and that they can trust you.
To complete this step and to figure out what your issues are that you "thought" would get solved by cheating, you might need the help of a therapist. It is not easy to identify your own b.s. most of the time. You will most likely need help and having a therapist gently point out things that you need to change about yourself. It may not be fun but it will help you become a better person, if you let it.
When love is present pretty much anything is possible, even having a relationship after cheating. Whether or not you are successful at keeping your relationship and earning your partners trust again, will take a lot of work and total commitment and honesty. If you don't think you can commit totally it's best if you just let things go.
Trust is extremely difficult to rebuild. Whenever you enter into a relationship with someone, you start with a blank slate. The other person still needs to learn to trust you but if you don't already have any negative baggage it's usually easier.
But, after they let their guard down, let you into their life and trusted you, it is going to be extremely hard to open themselves up to pain after you have shown them that their trust was misplaced.
Even though it will be difficult, that does not mean you should give up. Actually, the last thing you should do is to give up. You need to do everything you can if you want your partner to love and trust you again.
With time, love and patience anything can be rebuilt, but again, it will be imperative that you are both willing to work on it.
Sometimes the best thing to do in this situation is to give your ex some time and space. While you do that you should be spending time figuring out why you did something so self destructive as to cheat on someone you love.
Please don't make the mistake of thinking that infidelity is about sex, it's not. It's about ego, loneliness or insecurity. You need to address what your issues are that you thought would be cured by hooking up with someone else.
Before you can go back to your ex and expect them to take you back, you have to make sure that you know why you cheated before so you don't do it again.
This knowledge will likely take you quite a bit of time to figure out. It will most likely also be painful for you to look at your less than desirable characteristics. But, that is the best chance you have of convincing your ex that they should take you back and that they can trust you.
To complete this step and to figure out what your issues are that you "thought" would get solved by cheating, you might need the help of a therapist. It is not easy to identify your own b.s. most of the time. You will most likely need help and having a therapist gently point out things that you need to change about yourself. It may not be fun but it will help you become a better person, if you let it.
When love is present pretty much anything is possible, even having a relationship after cheating. Whether or not you are successful at keeping your relationship and earning your partners trust again, will take a lot of work and total commitment and honesty. If you don't think you can commit totally it's best if you just let things go.
Thursday, February 17, 2011
Catch My Husband Cheating - Common Sense Will Prevail
Are you asking the question: "How can I catch my husband cheating?" if so, then I'm sorry. Assuming you're just not paranoid and looking for something that isn't there, the fact that you are suspicious likely means that there is something going on. If you really have to know there are many simple things that you can do to find out once and for all.
If you really want to find out quickly you can even hire a private detective. Many people would consider this extreme, and expensive, but you can get the proof you need. One huge advantage of going this route is that you will be notified if their is no sign of an affair too.
With many of the other ways you may try to find out if your husband is cheating, you will never really have proof that they aren't cheating, only that they are. You may always wonder if they really are cheating but are just really good at covering their tracks. If you hire someone to follow them for a while, than either way you should have proof which can really set your mind at ease.
If hiring a private investigator simply isn't in your budget, you do have some other options. Most of these things are just common sense.
The first thing to look out for is a change in your husbands behavior and patterns. Of course, please do not let your imagination get the better of you. Many of these "signs' can also be totally innocent. Just because you witness one or more of these behaviors it isn't definitive proof of an affair, it just means that you should dig a little deeper to be sure.
So, if your husband is suddenly putting in a lot more time at work, look deeper.
Is your husband suddenly obsessed with improving his appearance? This is another tell tale sign of an affair. If, up until now, your hubby was perfectly happy going out in his sweats and an old t-shirt but suddenly wants to wear nicer clothes, you may want to dig a little deeper.
It could be something innocent, maybe he is just feeling a little unattractive, old or fat and wants to make himself feel better. On the other hand, it could be a sign that he is trying to impress someone else. It's worth a second look.
If your husband suddenly starts being more concerned about working out and / or eating right it could be a sign that he wants to impress someone. Of course, it could also be a sign that he is sick and tired of feeling sick and tired and is just trying to take better care of himself.
Men aren't known for their conversational skills. If your husband is taking more care of himself because someone at his work suddenly keeled over from a heart attack and your husband got scared, he isn't real likely to confess that to you. So as far as you can see, his behavior is out of the blue and suspicious, but in reality he is scared.
So before you ask the question: "How can I catch my husband cheating?" make sure you are ready to deal with whatever you find. Also make sure that you are keeping an open mind so you don't jump to conclusions.
If you really want to find out quickly you can even hire a private detective. Many people would consider this extreme, and expensive, but you can get the proof you need. One huge advantage of going this route is that you will be notified if their is no sign of an affair too.
With many of the other ways you may try to find out if your husband is cheating, you will never really have proof that they aren't cheating, only that they are. You may always wonder if they really are cheating but are just really good at covering their tracks. If you hire someone to follow them for a while, than either way you should have proof which can really set your mind at ease.
If hiring a private investigator simply isn't in your budget, you do have some other options. Most of these things are just common sense.
The first thing to look out for is a change in your husbands behavior and patterns. Of course, please do not let your imagination get the better of you. Many of these "signs' can also be totally innocent. Just because you witness one or more of these behaviors it isn't definitive proof of an affair, it just means that you should dig a little deeper to be sure.
So, if your husband is suddenly putting in a lot more time at work, look deeper.
Is your husband suddenly obsessed with improving his appearance? This is another tell tale sign of an affair. If, up until now, your hubby was perfectly happy going out in his sweats and an old t-shirt but suddenly wants to wear nicer clothes, you may want to dig a little deeper.
It could be something innocent, maybe he is just feeling a little unattractive, old or fat and wants to make himself feel better. On the other hand, it could be a sign that he is trying to impress someone else. It's worth a second look.
If your husband suddenly starts being more concerned about working out and / or eating right it could be a sign that he wants to impress someone. Of course, it could also be a sign that he is sick and tired of feeling sick and tired and is just trying to take better care of himself.
Men aren't known for their conversational skills. If your husband is taking more care of himself because someone at his work suddenly keeled over from a heart attack and your husband got scared, he isn't real likely to confess that to you. So as far as you can see, his behavior is out of the blue and suspicious, but in reality he is scared.
So before you ask the question: "How can I catch my husband cheating?" make sure you are ready to deal with whatever you find. Also make sure that you are keeping an open mind so you don't jump to conclusions.
Cheating In A Relationship - Will Destroy Trust
Nothing is more disheartening to a relationship than finding out that there has been infidelity. It can break your heart and can definitely knock the wind out of your sails. But, the good news is that cheating in a relationship can be overcome with time. Please take the time to focus on your relationship and try to work things out, in many cases you can. Don't give up.
One of the best things you can do is to take plenty of time to try to figure out what happened. Unless one of you is a chronic cheater, the cheating came from somewhere (not that this is an excuse) but to fix things you need to know what happened to create the situation in the first place.
If you or your partner has been going through some things and maybe that situation has put stress on your marriage or relationship than you may need to start there. But, I know I'm repeating myself but it's that important, that doesn't mean it was ok that either of you turned to another person to feel better about yourself. No matter what situations the two of you are dealing with, it doesn't make it ok to have an affair.
It's important to figure that out and fix the cause. You will also need to get help from a therapist. The hurt and anger that you can feel after someone has cheated can almost take on a life of it's own and it can be very difficult to work past it, especially on your own.
If the two of you understand that the process will take time and it will be painful yet you are still willing to do what needs to be done, than the two of you have a great chance of salvaging your relationship and maybe even making things better than they were before.
Of course, if one or the other of you has a long history of cheating than the problem runs much deeper than just some issue in your relationship. If either of you is like that than the best thing for you to do is for the "cheater" to get some serious counseling to figure out why they are so flawed that they think it's ok to do what they want to do no matter who they hurt and what promises you go back on.
When you make a commitment to someone, that is a promise. Even if you don't come out and say the words "I won't be with another person" once you and your partner enter into a committed relationship that is the same as making a promise.
If you just go about doing whatever you want to do no matter who you hurt, than you have problems. Sorry, if that sounds harsh, but it's the truth.
If this describes you than before you do anything please get yourself the help you need so you don't continue to go through life hurting yourself and anyone who has made the mistake of loving you.
Tough love can be...well, tough. Many of us come to a point in our lives sometimes where we have to face difficult choices and decisions. While it's not always fun and it's never easy, making changes and saving your relationship is possible but you have to start with you. Cheating in a relationship can be overcome, just be willing to put in the time and effort.
One of the best things you can do is to take plenty of time to try to figure out what happened. Unless one of you is a chronic cheater, the cheating came from somewhere (not that this is an excuse) but to fix things you need to know what happened to create the situation in the first place.
If you or your partner has been going through some things and maybe that situation has put stress on your marriage or relationship than you may need to start there. But, I know I'm repeating myself but it's that important, that doesn't mean it was ok that either of you turned to another person to feel better about yourself. No matter what situations the two of you are dealing with, it doesn't make it ok to have an affair.
It's important to figure that out and fix the cause. You will also need to get help from a therapist. The hurt and anger that you can feel after someone has cheated can almost take on a life of it's own and it can be very difficult to work past it, especially on your own.
If the two of you understand that the process will take time and it will be painful yet you are still willing to do what needs to be done, than the two of you have a great chance of salvaging your relationship and maybe even making things better than they were before.
Of course, if one or the other of you has a long history of cheating than the problem runs much deeper than just some issue in your relationship. If either of you is like that than the best thing for you to do is for the "cheater" to get some serious counseling to figure out why they are so flawed that they think it's ok to do what they want to do no matter who they hurt and what promises you go back on.
When you make a commitment to someone, that is a promise. Even if you don't come out and say the words "I won't be with another person" once you and your partner enter into a committed relationship that is the same as making a promise.
If you just go about doing whatever you want to do no matter who you hurt, than you have problems. Sorry, if that sounds harsh, but it's the truth.
If this describes you than before you do anything please get yourself the help you need so you don't continue to go through life hurting yourself and anyone who has made the mistake of loving you.
Tough love can be...well, tough. Many of us come to a point in our lives sometimes where we have to face difficult choices and decisions. While it's not always fun and it's never easy, making changes and saving your relationship is possible but you have to start with you. Cheating in a relationship can be overcome, just be willing to put in the time and effort.
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Getting Past A Break Up - Move On With Your Life
Life has a funny way of sneaking up on us when we least expect it. Things are going great, and then we experience a loss, a break up, or some other major change. Those around us may try to help by offering comfort or advice (depending on the circumstances). That may take away some of the sting, but it doesn't make it any easier to deal with. Break ups are the perfect example. They not only affect the relationship we were in, but they also have an impact in other areas of our lives.
It seems as though everything you do reminds you of your ex. And if the two of you were together for a while, then even going out can be a problem because you most likely have mutual friends. This makes doing even the most routine tasks more difficult, and--to put it mildly--you're a mess at work. Yes, the break up is taking its toll.
Right now you have a choice to make: either try to get your ex back, or move on.
If you want to work things out with your ex then there is some good news in that the vast majority of relationships can be saved. It's going to take some work and you will have to follow a good plan, but it is possible if you are willing to do whatever it takes. There are plenty of guides available on how to make up with an ex, so get one and make it happen!
Perhaps you just want to move on. If so, that's great, too! The first thing to do is let go of any guilt you may be feeling because of it. It's your life and you are the only one who can decide what is best for you. If that means going ahead and living your life, then so be it.
We have already mentioned that a break up impacts all areas of our lives, so it makes sense that you would want to get past it. It can take some time, but it can be done.
A good start is to break off all contact with your ex. The less you have to deal with them, the better. If that means not answering the phone or not checking your email for a few days, then don't do those things. It's only temporary, but the positive effects will last much longer. But what if your ex won't leave you alone? Then you have to put your foot down and let them know you want nothing to do with them. If they are stalking you, then get help.
Another thing you must do to get past a break up is to avoid gossiping about your ex. You may want to tell other people how awful your ex was, or how it was their fault you broke up, but don't do it. This only prolongs your mental attachment to them. So, make it a rule to not spread and not to listen to gossip about your ex.
It seems as though everything you do reminds you of your ex. And if the two of you were together for a while, then even going out can be a problem because you most likely have mutual friends. This makes doing even the most routine tasks more difficult, and--to put it mildly--you're a mess at work. Yes, the break up is taking its toll.
Right now you have a choice to make: either try to get your ex back, or move on.
If you want to work things out with your ex then there is some good news in that the vast majority of relationships can be saved. It's going to take some work and you will have to follow a good plan, but it is possible if you are willing to do whatever it takes. There are plenty of guides available on how to make up with an ex, so get one and make it happen!
Perhaps you just want to move on. If so, that's great, too! The first thing to do is let go of any guilt you may be feeling because of it. It's your life and you are the only one who can decide what is best for you. If that means going ahead and living your life, then so be it.
We have already mentioned that a break up impacts all areas of our lives, so it makes sense that you would want to get past it. It can take some time, but it can be done.
A good start is to break off all contact with your ex. The less you have to deal with them, the better. If that means not answering the phone or not checking your email for a few days, then don't do those things. It's only temporary, but the positive effects will last much longer. But what if your ex won't leave you alone? Then you have to put your foot down and let them know you want nothing to do with them. If they are stalking you, then get help.
Another thing you must do to get past a break up is to avoid gossiping about your ex. You may want to tell other people how awful your ex was, or how it was their fault you broke up, but don't do it. This only prolongs your mental attachment to them. So, make it a rule to not spread and not to listen to gossip about your ex.
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
How To Avoid A Break Up - Step Back And Communicate
There is no question about it. Going through a break up is never an easy thing to do. Even the best of break ups have there fair share of problems and hurt feelings. And bad break ups, by definition, are that much worse. The pain, anger, confusion, depression and guilt all mix together to make you feel absolutely miserable. In fact, there are times it hurts so much that you wonder how you will even get through the day. But this isn't going to be an article about how to get your ex back after a break up; it will be about how to keep the break up from happening in the first place.
Look at it this way. Would you rather go through all the pain and hassle of a break up, or would you rather put some effort into keeping it from happening? Most people would choose the latter. However, you need to be realistic about it and realize that if your relationship is in trouble then it's going to take some work to hold it together. It may not always be easy, but it can be done.
The first thing you need to do is ask yourself what kind of shape your relationship is in right now. Maybe it's not as bad as you think, or maybe it's worse. One way to tell is by watching for various signs. Any sudden, major changes in your partner's behavior, good or bad, can indicate something else is going on. Now, it may not mean anything, but it is something you should be aware of. Another common sign of a relationship in trouble is a total loss of affection when there used to be plenty. This doesn't automatically mean your partner doesn't love you, but it definitely means something. The other major sign to watch out for is a change in the amount of physical contact you get from them. This includes both sexual and non-sexual contact.
Of course everybody goes through their ups and downs. Therefore, you need to pay attention to how severe these warning signs are, how long they last, and how often they happen. You know your partner well enough to tell if these signs mean anything or not. If you think there's a problem, then don't be in denial. You are trying to prevent a break up, not live in a fantasy world.
Once you have determined that your relationship needs help, you have to open the lines of communication. In other words, you have to talk to your partner about it. Do your best to stay calm and supportive. Your partner isn't on trial, you are simply trying to find out what's going on. There is a fine line between being curious, and being nosy; make sure you don't cross it. You are only doing this because you love them, and want to be with them for a long, long time. Let them know that, and keep it in mind as the two of you are talking and things will go much better.
Look at it this way. Would you rather go through all the pain and hassle of a break up, or would you rather put some effort into keeping it from happening? Most people would choose the latter. However, you need to be realistic about it and realize that if your relationship is in trouble then it's going to take some work to hold it together. It may not always be easy, but it can be done.
The first thing you need to do is ask yourself what kind of shape your relationship is in right now. Maybe it's not as bad as you think, or maybe it's worse. One way to tell is by watching for various signs. Any sudden, major changes in your partner's behavior, good or bad, can indicate something else is going on. Now, it may not mean anything, but it is something you should be aware of. Another common sign of a relationship in trouble is a total loss of affection when there used to be plenty. This doesn't automatically mean your partner doesn't love you, but it definitely means something. The other major sign to watch out for is a change in the amount of physical contact you get from them. This includes both sexual and non-sexual contact.
Of course everybody goes through their ups and downs. Therefore, you need to pay attention to how severe these warning signs are, how long they last, and how often they happen. You know your partner well enough to tell if these signs mean anything or not. If you think there's a problem, then don't be in denial. You are trying to prevent a break up, not live in a fantasy world.
Once you have determined that your relationship needs help, you have to open the lines of communication. In other words, you have to talk to your partner about it. Do your best to stay calm and supportive. Your partner isn't on trial, you are simply trying to find out what's going on. There is a fine line between being curious, and being nosy; make sure you don't cross it. You are only doing this because you love them, and want to be with them for a long, long time. Let them know that, and keep it in mind as the two of you are talking and things will go much better.
Monday, February 14, 2011
How Can I Stop My Divorce - Thinking It Through
Ah yes, your wedding day. A day that's supposed to be one of the happiest in your life. The two of you were so happy at first, but then reality set in. You stopped getting along so well, and the arguments seemed to get worse. Or, maybe the problem is that there was no arguing at all. Maybe one of you just didn't care enough to even bother. Whatever the case may be, you are now at the point where you want to know how to stop a divorce. For the record, it won't always be easy, but it can be done if you go about it the right way.
Before you start taking action, you need to be sure a divorce is on the horizon. If you have been served with divorce papers, then you already know the answer. But if it's only a general feeling you have, or one of you blurted out the threat of divorce during a heated argument, then take a closer look before making any assumptions one way or the other.
Okay, so there is no doubt that a divorce is about to happen, what can you do? the next steps depend if it was you or your spouse who initiated it. If it was you, then you have to start doing some damage control. Explain to your spouse why you wanted a divorce, but then follow that up by explaining why that is no longer the case. Your ex may not react the way you expect, but do your best to remain calm as you give your reasons for calling off the divorce.
If it was your spouse, then you have to use different tactics to stop a divorce. You can start by agreeing that things aren't going well. What normally happens is we try to defend ourselves and explain that things really aren't that bad. But if your spouse has asked for a divorce, then they obviously think things are bad. By agreeing with them on that point, you will be able to start a better conversation. A conversation that will put you on the right track to saving your marriage.
Sometimes a few conversations aren't enough. That's okay, it happens. However, you don;t have to give up yet. Do whatever you can to go see a marriage counselor. Don't be too pushy about it, but do your best to get your spouse to agree to it. If they don't want to go, then try to find out why. Don't be judgmental, you're just trying to find out what their objections are. Once you know those, you can put their mind at ease. A lot of people see marriage counselors. Some wait until they have to stop a divorce, and others go throughout the course of their marriage. Either way, they can work wonders in not only keeping your marriage together, but also making it a happier one.
Before you start taking action, you need to be sure a divorce is on the horizon. If you have been served with divorce papers, then you already know the answer. But if it's only a general feeling you have, or one of you blurted out the threat of divorce during a heated argument, then take a closer look before making any assumptions one way or the other.
Okay, so there is no doubt that a divorce is about to happen, what can you do? the next steps depend if it was you or your spouse who initiated it. If it was you, then you have to start doing some damage control. Explain to your spouse why you wanted a divorce, but then follow that up by explaining why that is no longer the case. Your ex may not react the way you expect, but do your best to remain calm as you give your reasons for calling off the divorce.
If it was your spouse, then you have to use different tactics to stop a divorce. You can start by agreeing that things aren't going well. What normally happens is we try to defend ourselves and explain that things really aren't that bad. But if your spouse has asked for a divorce, then they obviously think things are bad. By agreeing with them on that point, you will be able to start a better conversation. A conversation that will put you on the right track to saving your marriage.
Sometimes a few conversations aren't enough. That's okay, it happens. However, you don;t have to give up yet. Do whatever you can to go see a marriage counselor. Don't be too pushy about it, but do your best to get your spouse to agree to it. If they don't want to go, then try to find out why. Don't be judgmental, you're just trying to find out what their objections are. Once you know those, you can put their mind at ease. A lot of people see marriage counselors. Some wait until they have to stop a divorce, and others go throughout the course of their marriage. Either way, they can work wonders in not only keeping your marriage together, but also making it a happier one.
Sunday, February 13, 2011
Simple Steps To Get Your Girl Back
If you are reading this then it's a safe assumption that you were in a relationship that ended in a break up. Now you feel awful. Anger, guilt, a sense of loss and confusion have all set in to make your life miserable. Yet, deep down, you can't help but thinking of trying to get your girl back. While things may not have been perfect (they never are), you now realize just how much she meant to you, and now you want to see if you can work things out.
The first thing you should know is that well over 90% of all relationships can be patched up. However, you have to follow a good plan, take action, and be willing to do whatever it takes. But if you still love her and want to get your best girl back, then that should be enough motivation to do the work that needs to be done. It won't always be easy, but it is possible.
It may be painful, but you are going to have to take a look back to uncover what really went wrong. Be careful. It's easy to see the things on the surface and to assume they're the problem. Chances are, the things that you are most aware of are only the symptoms of the real problem. For example, you may think that arguing too much was why you broke up. The truth is that arguments are rarely the cause. Instead, you need to find out what was at the root of those arguments. Perhaps you were jealous or controlling, and that's what led to the constant disagreements. Whatever the case may be, keep digging until you get to the real problem.
Now that you understand the causes of the break up, you can start to work on solutions. If there were things you could have done better, then do what you can to improve yourself. On the other hand, you can't change your ex, so you will have to be ready to forgive them. There is always a chance that they will be improvements of their own, but you shouldn't make any assumptions.
Once you have all of this worked out, you can get in touch with your ex. Your first goal is to set up a time and place to talk to each other face-to-face. It should be noted that this is not a date, so don't treat it like one. Just let your ex know that you would like to talk. Try to use a matter-of-fact tone, be polite, but don't force the issue either.
When the two of you are talking, it's important to be respectful. This is not the time to try to prove you were right, and they were wrong. A good rule of thumb is to not discuss the past unless it is for the purpose of having a happier future together. If you can stick to that simple rule, then you are well on your way to getting your girl back by your side.
The first thing you should know is that well over 90% of all relationships can be patched up. However, you have to follow a good plan, take action, and be willing to do whatever it takes. But if you still love her and want to get your best girl back, then that should be enough motivation to do the work that needs to be done. It won't always be easy, but it is possible.
It may be painful, but you are going to have to take a look back to uncover what really went wrong. Be careful. It's easy to see the things on the surface and to assume they're the problem. Chances are, the things that you are most aware of are only the symptoms of the real problem. For example, you may think that arguing too much was why you broke up. The truth is that arguments are rarely the cause. Instead, you need to find out what was at the root of those arguments. Perhaps you were jealous or controlling, and that's what led to the constant disagreements. Whatever the case may be, keep digging until you get to the real problem.
Now that you understand the causes of the break up, you can start to work on solutions. If there were things you could have done better, then do what you can to improve yourself. On the other hand, you can't change your ex, so you will have to be ready to forgive them. There is always a chance that they will be improvements of their own, but you shouldn't make any assumptions.
Once you have all of this worked out, you can get in touch with your ex. Your first goal is to set up a time and place to talk to each other face-to-face. It should be noted that this is not a date, so don't treat it like one. Just let your ex know that you would like to talk. Try to use a matter-of-fact tone, be polite, but don't force the issue either.
When the two of you are talking, it's important to be respectful. This is not the time to try to prove you were right, and they were wrong. A good rule of thumb is to not discuss the past unless it is for the purpose of having a happier future together. If you can stick to that simple rule, then you are well on your way to getting your girl back by your side.
Saturday, February 12, 2011
Getting Over Your Ex - There Is Hope For You
Going through a break up or a divorce is a devastating experience. There was a time that you really believed the two of you were in love, but now you find yourself all alone and feeling horrible. You are angry, sad, confused and have even felt a twinge of guilt. To be blunt, it sucks. Regardless of why you are no longer together, you now know that it's to get over your ex. Here are some thoughts that will help you get on with your life, and eventually start feeling better.
Let's start by asking a simple question. Do you still want to get your ex back? While it may or may not happen, the point is that you will never be able to move on if you're holding on to the thought of working things out. That's because you won't get your feelings in check as long as you are dreaming about getting them back. You will also be thinking about them too much, and that's not going to help either. Now, I'm not saying you shouldn't try to get your ex back. But I am saying that you will never get over them as long as you are trying.
Assuming you have no intentions of getting back together, you can move on to the next step. If you are contacting your ex, or they are contacting you, then you need to make that stop. That means no phone calls, no emails, no texting and no bumping into them "accidentally". If your ex is the one doing these things then you need to make it very clear that they are to stop immediately. You have a right to your privacy, and they need to respect that right.
The next part of the process can be harder, but it is necessary. The idea is to forget about them for a while by erasing as many traces of them as you can; at least temporarily. So, if you have photographs of the two of you, store them away, or give them to a trusted relative for safe keeping. Take their number off your cell phone, delete them from your Facebook account, and anything else you can think of. Again, this doesn't have to be permanent. It's really just a way to reset your life without having constant reminders of your ex gumming up the process. You can get those things back after you are completely over your ex.
If, despite your best efforts, you just can't seem to get over your ex, then you should give serious consideration to seeing a counselor. They have had lots of experience with helping people deal with various things in their lives, and that includes getting over an ex. Some people feel embarrassed about getting professional help, but there is no need to feel that way. After all, if it means you will be able to feel better and live a more well-balanced life, then it will definitely be a smart decision.
Let's start by asking a simple question. Do you still want to get your ex back? While it may or may not happen, the point is that you will never be able to move on if you're holding on to the thought of working things out. That's because you won't get your feelings in check as long as you are dreaming about getting them back. You will also be thinking about them too much, and that's not going to help either. Now, I'm not saying you shouldn't try to get your ex back. But I am saying that you will never get over them as long as you are trying.
Assuming you have no intentions of getting back together, you can move on to the next step. If you are contacting your ex, or they are contacting you, then you need to make that stop. That means no phone calls, no emails, no texting and no bumping into them "accidentally". If your ex is the one doing these things then you need to make it very clear that they are to stop immediately. You have a right to your privacy, and they need to respect that right.
The next part of the process can be harder, but it is necessary. The idea is to forget about them for a while by erasing as many traces of them as you can; at least temporarily. So, if you have photographs of the two of you, store them away, or give them to a trusted relative for safe keeping. Take their number off your cell phone, delete them from your Facebook account, and anything else you can think of. Again, this doesn't have to be permanent. It's really just a way to reset your life without having constant reminders of your ex gumming up the process. You can get those things back after you are completely over your ex.
If, despite your best efforts, you just can't seem to get over your ex, then you should give serious consideration to seeing a counselor. They have had lots of experience with helping people deal with various things in their lives, and that includes getting over an ex. Some people feel embarrassed about getting professional help, but there is no need to feel that way. After all, if it means you will be able to feel better and live a more well-balanced life, then it will definitely be a smart decision.
Friday, February 11, 2011
So You Have An Ex Boyfriend To Get Back
Breaking up is always such a drag. Even the best of break ups come with their fair share of problems and hurt feelings. However it happened, you have now have an ex boyfriend to get back together with. Maybe you have already tried to plead and beg, and have promised to do anything, or maybe even have done something as drastic as splitting up his new relationship in an attempt to win him back. Stop! These things only make you look worse in his eyes and will only push him further away. The good news is that there is a better way to go about it.
The first thing you need to do is be realistic. Assess your real chances of getting back together, then be willing to accept the facts. Now, don't assume you can't work things out. While it can be discouraging at times, the large majority of relationships can be saved when you know how and are willing to do whatever it takes. You also need to be realistic about the effect your current actions are having. The fact that you're reading this suggests that he still hasn't taken you back, and that most likely means that what you're doing isn't working as well as it could.
Now that you are firmly grounded in reality, it's time to move on to the next step. Okay, you have an ex boyfriend to get back, so you figure you need to let him know how you feel. Be careful here! If you have been calling him every day (or 10 times a day), then you are overdoing it. You will come across as desperate, and that's not an attractive trait. The best thing you can do right now is to cut off all contact with him for a while. That means no phone calls, no emails or texts, and no bumping into them "accidentally" in public places.
The real secret isn't to convince him to get back together with you; it's to make him convince himself that you're the kind of person he wants to be with. Therefore, you need to exercise a bit of psychology in your efforts. The two of you are broken up right now, so the more push, the more he's going to pull away. But what can you do? Keep living your life. Go out with friends and have a good time. Take care of yourself as well.
After you have given him enough time without hearing from you, he will start to wonder what you've been up to. Now, you've been out living your life, and there's a good chance that word of this will get back to him (just make sure you're not the one to tell him). Be patient, and he'll eventually call. When he does, be polite, but don't start pushing the idea of getting back together. Simply arrange a meeting for both of you to talk face-to-face. Remember, you have an ex boyfriend to get, and following these tips are a good start to making that happen.
The first thing you need to do is be realistic. Assess your real chances of getting back together, then be willing to accept the facts. Now, don't assume you can't work things out. While it can be discouraging at times, the large majority of relationships can be saved when you know how and are willing to do whatever it takes. You also need to be realistic about the effect your current actions are having. The fact that you're reading this suggests that he still hasn't taken you back, and that most likely means that what you're doing isn't working as well as it could.
Now that you are firmly grounded in reality, it's time to move on to the next step. Okay, you have an ex boyfriend to get back, so you figure you need to let him know how you feel. Be careful here! If you have been calling him every day (or 10 times a day), then you are overdoing it. You will come across as desperate, and that's not an attractive trait. The best thing you can do right now is to cut off all contact with him for a while. That means no phone calls, no emails or texts, and no bumping into them "accidentally" in public places.
The real secret isn't to convince him to get back together with you; it's to make him convince himself that you're the kind of person he wants to be with. Therefore, you need to exercise a bit of psychology in your efforts. The two of you are broken up right now, so the more push, the more he's going to pull away. But what can you do? Keep living your life. Go out with friends and have a good time. Take care of yourself as well.
After you have given him enough time without hearing from you, he will start to wonder what you've been up to. Now, you've been out living your life, and there's a good chance that word of this will get back to him (just make sure you're not the one to tell him). Be patient, and he'll eventually call. When he does, be polite, but don't start pushing the idea of getting back together. Simply arrange a meeting for both of you to talk face-to-face. Remember, you have an ex boyfriend to get, and following these tips are a good start to making that happen.
How To Stop Divorce And Save Your Relationship
Getting married is supposed to be one of the happiest days of our lives, and it usually is. However, we often go into marriage thinking that everything is going to be wonderful and that our love for one another will only grow stronger. It may even seem that way at first, but then reality sets in as time goes on. Then...all of sudden you find out your spouse wants a divorce! What happened? Whatever it was, all you want to know right now is how to stop divorce. It won't be easy, but it is possible to patch things up in most cases.
When it comes to stopping a divorce, you have to convince your spouse to give the marriage another chance, right? That only makes sense. But the problem is that such an approach doesn't really work. Your spouse has already made the decision to split up, and the more you push the idea of staying together, the more they will pull away. You obviously don't want that to happen. As you will see, there is a better way.
The first thing to do is accept the fact that they want a divorce. Don't be in denial, and don't pretend like it will just get better on its own. Be calm and let them know that you don't want a divorce but understand that things are not going as good as they could be. In other words, try to be as understanding of your spouse's feelings as you can and listen to what they have to say. Don't get angry, and don't use your emotions to manipulate them. Your goal is to start an open discussion with your spouse.
Do not try to convince them of anything at this point. If you do, they will only see it as you trying to stop divorce. Yes, that's what you are doing, but your spouse will only become more stubborn about wanting a divorce if they know what you're up to. So, focus on trying to see where your spouse is coming from.
Once you understand their reasons for wanting a divorce, agree with them. Yes, agree with them. This will put them more at ease, and it shows that you are taking their concerns seriously. This is like having your foot in the door. This alone may be enough to make them reconsider. If not, that's okay, there are still some things you can do.
If the divorce papers have not been filed, then you have an even better chance to stop divorce. After the two of you have talked, give your spouse some time to think things over. Don't pester them, and don't ask them, "so do you still want a divorce?" If they still don't want to work things out then you can always propose a trial separation as a last resort. This may not be the best solution, but there is always a chance that your spouse will change their mind once they are on their own.
When it comes to stopping a divorce, you have to convince your spouse to give the marriage another chance, right? That only makes sense. But the problem is that such an approach doesn't really work. Your spouse has already made the decision to split up, and the more you push the idea of staying together, the more they will pull away. You obviously don't want that to happen. As you will see, there is a better way.
The first thing to do is accept the fact that they want a divorce. Don't be in denial, and don't pretend like it will just get better on its own. Be calm and let them know that you don't want a divorce but understand that things are not going as good as they could be. In other words, try to be as understanding of your spouse's feelings as you can and listen to what they have to say. Don't get angry, and don't use your emotions to manipulate them. Your goal is to start an open discussion with your spouse.
Do not try to convince them of anything at this point. If you do, they will only see it as you trying to stop divorce. Yes, that's what you are doing, but your spouse will only become more stubborn about wanting a divorce if they know what you're up to. So, focus on trying to see where your spouse is coming from.
Once you understand their reasons for wanting a divorce, agree with them. Yes, agree with them. This will put them more at ease, and it shows that you are taking their concerns seriously. This is like having your foot in the door. This alone may be enough to make them reconsider. If not, that's okay, there are still some things you can do.
If the divorce papers have not been filed, then you have an even better chance to stop divorce. After the two of you have talked, give your spouse some time to think things over. Don't pester them, and don't ask them, "so do you still want a divorce?" If they still don't want to work things out then you can always propose a trial separation as a last resort. This may not be the best solution, but there is always a chance that your spouse will change their mind once they are on their own.
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Im Still In Love But My Ex Is Not
There was a time when the two of you were so much in love. Everything seemed to be going great, but then you split apart. Maybe both of you were glad to be rid of one another, or maybe you wanted to stay together. Whatever the case may be, all you know is that right now you're saying, "I'm still in love but my ex isn't." If so, then there is no need to feel alone. Lots of people have been in the same situation. And some of those same people worked things out and have figured out ways to make you feel better if you're in the same situation.
You should know that it's okay to want to work things out with your ex, but don't just dive into it head first. Before you do anything else, you need to get to the root of your feelings. Do you really love your ex, or is it just the idea of being in love? How did they make you feel when you were together? Are you trying to change them, or are you willing to love for who they really are? You have to be honest when answering these questions. If you happen to find you don't love your ex as much as you thought, that's okay.
The other thing you have to try to figure out is if your ex may have any feelings for you at all. While you may be saying, "I'm still in love but my ex isn't" there isn't any way to know that for sure. Even if your ex said they don't love when you broke up, there is always a chance that they have changed their minds. Granted, their feelings may not be as deep as yours, but any hint that they still care can be taken as a positive sign.
On the other hand, the questions you are asking may only strengthen your suspicions. If that's the case, then you have a choice to make. You have to decide if you're willing to do whatever it takes to get your ex to love you again. That may sound like an impossible task, but it can be done if you go about it the right way.
Whatever you do, don't try to convince your ex to love you. for now, you need to give them some time and space to be alone. After all, they say absence makes the heart grow fonder for a reason. Don't contact them for a while; no phone calls, no emails or text messages, and no bumping into them "accidentally". The secret isn't to make them love you, but to let them convince themselves to love you again. Giving them time is only the first step. You should also look into other ways of patching things up. That way "I'm still in love but my ex isn't" will soon turn into "I'm still in love and so is my ex."
You should know that it's okay to want to work things out with your ex, but don't just dive into it head first. Before you do anything else, you need to get to the root of your feelings. Do you really love your ex, or is it just the idea of being in love? How did they make you feel when you were together? Are you trying to change them, or are you willing to love for who they really are? You have to be honest when answering these questions. If you happen to find you don't love your ex as much as you thought, that's okay.
The other thing you have to try to figure out is if your ex may have any feelings for you at all. While you may be saying, "I'm still in love but my ex isn't" there isn't any way to know that for sure. Even if your ex said they don't love when you broke up, there is always a chance that they have changed their minds. Granted, their feelings may not be as deep as yours, but any hint that they still care can be taken as a positive sign.
On the other hand, the questions you are asking may only strengthen your suspicions. If that's the case, then you have a choice to make. You have to decide if you're willing to do whatever it takes to get your ex to love you again. That may sound like an impossible task, but it can be done if you go about it the right way.
Whatever you do, don't try to convince your ex to love you. for now, you need to give them some time and space to be alone. After all, they say absence makes the heart grow fonder for a reason. Don't contact them for a while; no phone calls, no emails or text messages, and no bumping into them "accidentally". The secret isn't to make them love you, but to let them convince themselves to love you again. Giving them time is only the first step. You should also look into other ways of patching things up. That way "I'm still in love but my ex isn't" will soon turn into "I'm still in love and so is my ex."
Can I Save My Marriage Before It Ends
There is an oft-quoted statistic that says more than 50% of marriages end in divorce in the United States. While there is some evidence that that number is actually lower, there is no doubt that divorce is a problem. After all, who gets married with the idea of getting a divorce? No one. But yet it happens far too often. The sad thing isn't so much the economic impact it has, but rather the emotional impact it has on all parties involved. Perhaps that's why the question of "can I save my marriage" is so common when people sense they are headed for trouble.
The most important thing you should know is that it is quite possible to save all but the most troubled of marriages. You have to be willing to seek good advice, follow through on it, and be willing to whatever it takes to make things work. But just knowing it's possible can you plenty of motivation and inner strength as you go through the process of saving your marriage.
You need to assess just how close you are to really getting a divorce, as that will determine what you need to do. For example, if your spouse has just served you with divorce papers, and you had no idea it was about to happen, then you need to pull out all the stops and go into "emergency mode". On the other hand, if you recently had a heated argument and you feel like things aren't as good as they used to be, then you probably have a bit more time and can take a long view approach.
One thing you should keep in mind is that there is no such thing as a perfect marriage. So don't feel bad if it's not going as well as it could be; that's absolutely normal. There isn't anybody in the world who is perfect, and a marriage is comprised of two imperfect people. Therefore, it only makes sense that there will be some problems.
If things are getting to be more than you can handle alone, then seeking help from a marriage counselor can help a great deal. They can help each of you to see things from a different point of view. Even more importantly, they will be able to give you advice on how to get along better and communicate more effectively.
When you learn how to communicate with each other, you will notice a huge improvement in your relationship. Good communication needs honesty, openness and respect. A spirit of compromise will also go a long way in keeping things running smoothly.
By following these tips you will be able to give a positive answer to the question of "can I save my marriage". Yes, it will take some work and commitment, but most of the good things in life do. These are only the first steps. You need to take action, and it's also a good idea to find more information to help the two of you work things out.
The most important thing you should know is that it is quite possible to save all but the most troubled of marriages. You have to be willing to seek good advice, follow through on it, and be willing to whatever it takes to make things work. But just knowing it's possible can you plenty of motivation and inner strength as you go through the process of saving your marriage.
You need to assess just how close you are to really getting a divorce, as that will determine what you need to do. For example, if your spouse has just served you with divorce papers, and you had no idea it was about to happen, then you need to pull out all the stops and go into "emergency mode". On the other hand, if you recently had a heated argument and you feel like things aren't as good as they used to be, then you probably have a bit more time and can take a long view approach.
One thing you should keep in mind is that there is no such thing as a perfect marriage. So don't feel bad if it's not going as well as it could be; that's absolutely normal. There isn't anybody in the world who is perfect, and a marriage is comprised of two imperfect people. Therefore, it only makes sense that there will be some problems.
If things are getting to be more than you can handle alone, then seeking help from a marriage counselor can help a great deal. They can help each of you to see things from a different point of view. Even more importantly, they will be able to give you advice on how to get along better and communicate more effectively.
When you learn how to communicate with each other, you will notice a huge improvement in your relationship. Good communication needs honesty, openness and respect. A spirit of compromise will also go a long way in keeping things running smoothly.
By following these tips you will be able to give a positive answer to the question of "can I save my marriage". Yes, it will take some work and commitment, but most of the good things in life do. These are only the first steps. You need to take action, and it's also a good idea to find more information to help the two of you work things out.
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
Relationship Counseling Is Powerful Magic
Relationships can be tricky things. One moment we're as happy as can be, and love each other so much. The next moment we're arguing and wish the other person would be out of our lives for good. This kind of emotional roller coaster can its toll on even the strongest of relationships. A lot of people tend to think of relationship counseling as the last resort; either they get counseling or they will break up. However, there are also some couples who see a counselor even when things seem to be just fine. This makes a lot of sense as it can keep smaller problems from getting blown out of proportion.
The good news is that seeing a counselor doesn't have the same stigma it used to have. Sure, you may not want to broadcast it to the entire world, but there is no need to be embarrassed about it either. What does it really mean when you seek relationship counseling? It means that you both care enough about each other to get a little professional guidance. It doesn't matter if you have been dating for a year or two, or have been married for 50 years; a counselor can help the two of you get along better. Nothing wrong with that.
While you may be interested in relationship counseling, your partner may not. So, what can you do to help them see the benefits of doing so? You can start by reminding your partner that you love them. Then go on to explain that you think having some help from a counselor would be good for building an even stronger relationship. Whatever you do, don't rattle off a list of things about your partner that drive you nuts. Your partner could surprise you at this point and agree to go.
If they still don't want to go, then you should take the time to find out why. Perhaps they think it will cost too much, have had bad experiences with counselors in the past, are concerned about a breech of confidentiality, are embarrassed, unsure of what to expect, or are worried you and the counselor will team up against them. Whatever reason they give, listen to it without being judgmental. At least they are telling you why they don't want to go, and that's a good start. Then do your best to calmly explain why it's not a problem.
After you have done your best to ease their worries, it is up to them as to whether they agree to go. Remember, you can always get relationship counseling on your own. This way you can learn how to make some changes on your own that will improve your relationship. And, with a bit if luck, your partner will notice those changes and see that counseling isn't as bad as they thought. While you can go alone, it should only be done as a last resort, and with the idea of your partner eventually joining you.
The good news is that seeing a counselor doesn't have the same stigma it used to have. Sure, you may not want to broadcast it to the entire world, but there is no need to be embarrassed about it either. What does it really mean when you seek relationship counseling? It means that you both care enough about each other to get a little professional guidance. It doesn't matter if you have been dating for a year or two, or have been married for 50 years; a counselor can help the two of you get along better. Nothing wrong with that.
While you may be interested in relationship counseling, your partner may not. So, what can you do to help them see the benefits of doing so? You can start by reminding your partner that you love them. Then go on to explain that you think having some help from a counselor would be good for building an even stronger relationship. Whatever you do, don't rattle off a list of things about your partner that drive you nuts. Your partner could surprise you at this point and agree to go.
If they still don't want to go, then you should take the time to find out why. Perhaps they think it will cost too much, have had bad experiences with counselors in the past, are concerned about a breech of confidentiality, are embarrassed, unsure of what to expect, or are worried you and the counselor will team up against them. Whatever reason they give, listen to it without being judgmental. At least they are telling you why they don't want to go, and that's a good start. Then do your best to calmly explain why it's not a problem.
After you have done your best to ease their worries, it is up to them as to whether they agree to go. Remember, you can always get relationship counseling on your own. This way you can learn how to make some changes on your own that will improve your relationship. And, with a bit if luck, your partner will notice those changes and see that counseling isn't as bad as they thought. While you can go alone, it should only be done as a last resort, and with the idea of your partner eventually joining you.
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
The Skills You Need To Get A Boyfriend - Strong Tips
Have you been longing to find the perfect man but just don't have much luck in the boyfriend department? Does it feel like guys are just not interested in you? Are you the only one in your friend group that doesn't have a boyfriend? Perhaps it's time you developed some new skills that might help you to get a date.
It is actually possible to acquire new skills that can help you to overcome the obstacles that you face when trying to find a boyfriend. You can make some mental and physical changes, become more motivated, plus a few more ideas and you will be on your way to having that special man in your life.
You may be thinking that it's always the boy’s fault that you haven't found the right man, but you also need to consider that it could be something that you are doing. Perhaps you are very shy and find it difficult to approach a man can initiate conversation. When you first meet a guy, he doesn't know the real you and only see's the outer girl, so he may not realize that you are very shy and might mistake your shyness for being a bit snobby or stand offish. This can possibly turn a guy off and he may never get to know the real you. It isn't easy meeting new people, particularly of the opposite sex, if you are a shy person so this may be the first obstacle that you need to overcome.
Look at your body language
You need to consider your body language and behavior as these could give the wrong message to a potential boyfriend. If you are shy and withdrawn, men may see you as not approachable, but if you are outgoing and friendly then it will be reciprocated by any men you meet. Shyness can often be mistaken for pride and coldness, although that isn't who you really are, this is what your body language and behavior may be portraying.
You might be a great person who is friendly and caring and that is fantastic, but a guy needs to know that to be attracted to you. You need to build up your self confidence so that you can show the 'real you' to everyone that you meet, rather than them miss out by not getting to know you better. If you have been rejected a number of times you may be thinking that you aren't good enough or attractive enough, but chances are that you are attractive and a great person and it may just be your body language that is letting you down.
Look at your past
Think about your past and the times when you have received compliments about your beauty, your skills, and your personality and so on. I'm sure if you think about it you will remember occasions when you have received compliments and all of these compliments are proof of your worth. Whenever you are feeling low in confidence and lacking self esteem, think back to a time when someone complimented you and it will give you a boost.
Put in an effort to be extra friendly
Even though you really are a friendly person, your shyness and lack of self confidence may stop you from being outgoing and as friendly as you could be. Put in an effort to be friendly more by doing simple things like smiling at a stranger, greeting people with a 'good morning' or helping someone whenever you have the opportunity. Try to do these little things as often as you can and you will soon become more comfortable talking to strangers. This is a big skill for you to use to meet a nice guy.
You need to develop the skill of initiating a conversation with someone and by saying hello and smiling at a stranger is a good place to start. You can also ask questions about a product you want to buy instead of just picking it up and buying it. By asking questions you are initiating a conversation with the shop assistant and helping to develop your new skill.
It is a matter of practising and developing your social skills to overcome your shyness and be a little more outgoing. Men will soon look at you in a different way and will be more likely to approach you and begin a conversation. You will soon find yourself having more fun, being happier and others will see you happier and they will enjoy your company.
When you develop your social skills you will soon find yourself fighting guys off and will have the pick of the bunch. It isn't always easy to change the way that you are, but with a bit of practise you will soon have those skills you need.
It is actually possible to acquire new skills that can help you to overcome the obstacles that you face when trying to find a boyfriend. You can make some mental and physical changes, become more motivated, plus a few more ideas and you will be on your way to having that special man in your life.
You may be thinking that it's always the boy’s fault that you haven't found the right man, but you also need to consider that it could be something that you are doing. Perhaps you are very shy and find it difficult to approach a man can initiate conversation. When you first meet a guy, he doesn't know the real you and only see's the outer girl, so he may not realize that you are very shy and might mistake your shyness for being a bit snobby or stand offish. This can possibly turn a guy off and he may never get to know the real you. It isn't easy meeting new people, particularly of the opposite sex, if you are a shy person so this may be the first obstacle that you need to overcome.
Look at your body language
You need to consider your body language and behavior as these could give the wrong message to a potential boyfriend. If you are shy and withdrawn, men may see you as not approachable, but if you are outgoing and friendly then it will be reciprocated by any men you meet. Shyness can often be mistaken for pride and coldness, although that isn't who you really are, this is what your body language and behavior may be portraying.
You might be a great person who is friendly and caring and that is fantastic, but a guy needs to know that to be attracted to you. You need to build up your self confidence so that you can show the 'real you' to everyone that you meet, rather than them miss out by not getting to know you better. If you have been rejected a number of times you may be thinking that you aren't good enough or attractive enough, but chances are that you are attractive and a great person and it may just be your body language that is letting you down.
Look at your past
Think about your past and the times when you have received compliments about your beauty, your skills, and your personality and so on. I'm sure if you think about it you will remember occasions when you have received compliments and all of these compliments are proof of your worth. Whenever you are feeling low in confidence and lacking self esteem, think back to a time when someone complimented you and it will give you a boost.
Put in an effort to be extra friendly
Even though you really are a friendly person, your shyness and lack of self confidence may stop you from being outgoing and as friendly as you could be. Put in an effort to be friendly more by doing simple things like smiling at a stranger, greeting people with a 'good morning' or helping someone whenever you have the opportunity. Try to do these little things as often as you can and you will soon become more comfortable talking to strangers. This is a big skill for you to use to meet a nice guy.
You need to develop the skill of initiating a conversation with someone and by saying hello and smiling at a stranger is a good place to start. You can also ask questions about a product you want to buy instead of just picking it up and buying it. By asking questions you are initiating a conversation with the shop assistant and helping to develop your new skill.
It is a matter of practising and developing your social skills to overcome your shyness and be a little more outgoing. Men will soon look at you in a different way and will be more likely to approach you and begin a conversation. You will soon find yourself having more fun, being happier and others will see you happier and they will enjoy your company.
When you develop your social skills you will soon find yourself fighting guys off and will have the pick of the bunch. It isn't always easy to change the way that you are, but with a bit of practise you will soon have those skills you need.
Monday, February 7, 2011
Add Some Romance By Sweet Talking Your Boyfriend
Women are very lucky in they hold the ultimate weapon - sweet talk. When we use sweet talk combined with our natural grace and style, we can impress a guy and have him hooked. If you don't think you have the skill of sweet talking, don't worry, you can acquire that skill quite easily. Sweet talking a guy is really simple and any woman can do it, you don't need to be well-bred and 'proper' to be able to sweet talk, all you need are your words, some flirtatious body language and you will have that man right where you want him!
Here are some tips for you to learn the skill of sweet talking:
1. The first thing you need to do is learn to listen when your boyfriend is talking and respond with the right comments at the right time. A man feels comfortable with a girl that is attentive when he speaks and he will also be quite impressed with this. By creating this comfort level you are creating a sound base for your relationship.
2. You need to have the right modulation in your voice when sweet talking a guy. You don't want to say something sexy in a rough or boring tone, rather, when you are sweet talking him you want to use a soft and seductive tone. A soft and seductive voice will have a comforting, calming effect on him. It isn't only the words that you way that are important but also the tone of voice that you say them in.
3. When you have a calming, romantic moment don't ruin it by talking about politics or something completely unrelated to the moment. Once you start talking about something unrelated or even boring you will ruin the romantic mood and the moment will be gone. When you are having a romantic moment your conversation should always stay on romantic talk. You can talk about things like your dreams; ask him about his dreams or fantasies. These romantic moments don't have to be confined to the bedroom either, you can talk romantically while strolling along the beach or having a picnic.
4. When you are using sweet talk on your boyfriend try to use flirtatious body language. You can also add some humor to your sweet talk as long as it is still along romantic lines and not the hurting type.
5. When you talk romance always have passion in your voice, but at the same time if the conversation seems to be going too long then you might want to break the mood and shift the conversation back elsewhere. Sometimes a romantic conversation can go on too long and then become a little boring, so if there is nowhere for the conversation to go then it needs to change.
6. When you are sweet talking your man you need to stay focused on him and don't get distracted by anything going on around you. When you are talking to him, look into his eyes so that you have his full attention also. This will bring a joint romantic conversation where you are both interested in nothing else but each other.
7. Don't be overly proud with your boyfriend or it will show in your talk and could spoil the moment and the relationship.
8. When sweet talking your boyfriend it can be effective to whisper 'sweet nothings' in his ear. This will encourage the romance in him and will bring for a very romantic moment.
Here are some tips for you to learn the skill of sweet talking:
1. The first thing you need to do is learn to listen when your boyfriend is talking and respond with the right comments at the right time. A man feels comfortable with a girl that is attentive when he speaks and he will also be quite impressed with this. By creating this comfort level you are creating a sound base for your relationship.
2. You need to have the right modulation in your voice when sweet talking a guy. You don't want to say something sexy in a rough or boring tone, rather, when you are sweet talking him you want to use a soft and seductive tone. A soft and seductive voice will have a comforting, calming effect on him. It isn't only the words that you way that are important but also the tone of voice that you say them in.
3. When you have a calming, romantic moment don't ruin it by talking about politics or something completely unrelated to the moment. Once you start talking about something unrelated or even boring you will ruin the romantic mood and the moment will be gone. When you are having a romantic moment your conversation should always stay on romantic talk. You can talk about things like your dreams; ask him about his dreams or fantasies. These romantic moments don't have to be confined to the bedroom either, you can talk romantically while strolling along the beach or having a picnic.
4. When you are using sweet talk on your boyfriend try to use flirtatious body language. You can also add some humor to your sweet talk as long as it is still along romantic lines and not the hurting type.
5. When you talk romance always have passion in your voice, but at the same time if the conversation seems to be going too long then you might want to break the mood and shift the conversation back elsewhere. Sometimes a romantic conversation can go on too long and then become a little boring, so if there is nowhere for the conversation to go then it needs to change.
6. When you are sweet talking your man you need to stay focused on him and don't get distracted by anything going on around you. When you are talking to him, look into his eyes so that you have his full attention also. This will bring a joint romantic conversation where you are both interested in nothing else but each other.
7. Don't be overly proud with your boyfriend or it will show in your talk and could spoil the moment and the relationship.
8. When sweet talking your boyfriend it can be effective to whisper 'sweet nothings' in his ear. This will encourage the romance in him and will bring for a very romantic moment.
Sunday, February 6, 2011
What Should You Talk About With Your Boyfriend
Love is such a fantastic feeling, but at times you will find yourself doing things that you might not enjoy doing. One thing that can sometimes be difficult in a relationship is knowing what to talk about with your boyfriend. Men aren't always the best communicators and they often don't like to participate in conversation unless it is about something that interests them, but how do you know what might interest him?
The longer you are in a relationship the more you will get to know your boyfriends interests. When you know what his interests are you should initiate conversations based around his interests. You might even want to do some research about the topics he is interested so that you know what you are talking about when you converse with your boyfriend about the topic. This can become difficult if it is a topic that you yourself are not interested in but sometimes you might have to bite the bullet and discuss his interest just to have a good conversation with him.
Let's take a look at some topics that might possibly be of interest to your boyfriend:
1. Sex. Sex is a topic that all men are interested in and I'm sure your boyfriend isn't any different. You can talk about sex in general or sex between you both. You can share your feelings on how you enjoyed sex with him or even discuss different positions that you like or ask him what he likes. I'm sure your boyfriend will enjoy this conversation and by discussing sex you will also get to know what each other likes and this can keep your sex life strong and exciting.
2. Cars and Motorbikes. There aren't too many men that don't like either cars or motorbikes or both. This might not be a topic that you are particularly interested in but they will surely be impressed if you show interest in the topic. You could talk about cars or motorbikes in general, or your boyfriend might have particular interests with a particularly type of car or motorbike that you can learn more about.
3. Food. You have probably heard the saying 'the way to a man's heart is through his stomach', well men love to eat and they enjoy food, so this is one topic that they might be interested in. You may need to find out what particular foods he likes and then he may have interest in the conversation about those foods, cooking and recipes.
4. Travelling. Most people like to travel, both men and women so this could be an interest that you might share. If your boyfriend has travelled or has dreams to travel then this can be a great topic for conversation. You can discuss places that you have travelled to in the past and places that you would like to travel to.
When looking for interests to talk about with your boyfriend, you will want to stay from emotional conversations. Men are never comfortable talking about feeling and emotions so you will soon lose his attention if you talk about them. Although there are occasions when feelings and emotions need to be discussed, you don't want to use them for general conversation topics.
If you are initiating a conversation about an interest he has, but you don't have much knowledge about, just ask him questions. He will be glad that you are showing an interest and that you want to learn more about the topic. It also makes the conversation easier as he will do a lot of the talking when answering your questions.
When you are talking to your boyfriend you want to pay attention and not get distracted because you are bored with the topic. Even if it is a topic that you aren't really interested in, don't make it obvious to him that you really aren't interested. The longer that you are in a relationship, the easier conversation becomes, so just be patient and soon the conversations will flow easily.
The longer you are in a relationship the more you will get to know your boyfriends interests. When you know what his interests are you should initiate conversations based around his interests. You might even want to do some research about the topics he is interested so that you know what you are talking about when you converse with your boyfriend about the topic. This can become difficult if it is a topic that you yourself are not interested in but sometimes you might have to bite the bullet and discuss his interest just to have a good conversation with him.
Let's take a look at some topics that might possibly be of interest to your boyfriend:
1. Sex. Sex is a topic that all men are interested in and I'm sure your boyfriend isn't any different. You can talk about sex in general or sex between you both. You can share your feelings on how you enjoyed sex with him or even discuss different positions that you like or ask him what he likes. I'm sure your boyfriend will enjoy this conversation and by discussing sex you will also get to know what each other likes and this can keep your sex life strong and exciting.
2. Cars and Motorbikes. There aren't too many men that don't like either cars or motorbikes or both. This might not be a topic that you are particularly interested in but they will surely be impressed if you show interest in the topic. You could talk about cars or motorbikes in general, or your boyfriend might have particular interests with a particularly type of car or motorbike that you can learn more about.
3. Food. You have probably heard the saying 'the way to a man's heart is through his stomach', well men love to eat and they enjoy food, so this is one topic that they might be interested in. You may need to find out what particular foods he likes and then he may have interest in the conversation about those foods, cooking and recipes.
4. Travelling. Most people like to travel, both men and women so this could be an interest that you might share. If your boyfriend has travelled or has dreams to travel then this can be a great topic for conversation. You can discuss places that you have travelled to in the past and places that you would like to travel to.
When looking for interests to talk about with your boyfriend, you will want to stay from emotional conversations. Men are never comfortable talking about feeling and emotions so you will soon lose his attention if you talk about them. Although there are occasions when feelings and emotions need to be discussed, you don't want to use them for general conversation topics.
If you are initiating a conversation about an interest he has, but you don't have much knowledge about, just ask him questions. He will be glad that you are showing an interest and that you want to learn more about the topic. It also makes the conversation easier as he will do a lot of the talking when answering your questions.
When you are talking to your boyfriend you want to pay attention and not get distracted because you are bored with the topic. Even if it is a topic that you aren't really interested in, don't make it obvious to him that you really aren't interested. The longer that you are in a relationship, the easier conversation becomes, so just be patient and soon the conversations will flow easily.
Saturday, February 5, 2011
Giving Gifts To Keep The Romance Alive
When you are in love you are living on cloud nine and enjoying every minute of it. To keep that love alive it can be nice to give your boyfriend a gift every now and then. When a relationship is reasonably new it is sometimes difficult to think of gift ideas for your boyfriend as you might not know him well enough yet to know just what he likes. There are so many different types of gifts to choose from but how do you know which type your boyfriend will enjoy?
There are two categories of gifts that you can buy for your boyfriend. Firstly you can buy him something that he would like to have and the second category is gifts that he would find useful. Within both of these categories you are sure to find something that he would love, whether it is something to suit his needs or his wants. You should try to choose a gift that will also suit his personality.
When choosing a gift for your boyfriend you need to change your way of thinking and don't buy a gift that suits your tastes. Your taste of gift might not match his taste so you need to remember that you are buying for him and need to choose a gift that will suit his tastes, even if it is something that you don't particularly like all that much.
One tip for choosing a gift is to consider his interests. It is much easier to buy a gift if you know his interests as you can then shop for something along those lines. For example, if he is interested in football you could buy him some football gear or even a book or DVD about football. If he is a businessman and is passionate about his business, then perhaps you can buy him something for the office.
If your boyfriend loves the outdoors and is very adventurous then you can maybe buy him some equipment to use for his adventures or perhaps even a ticket for an adventure like hot air ballooning. It really makes it much easier to buy for your boyfriend if you know what he likes to do or what he is passionate about.
If you know his interests but are still unsure about what to buy him, then you can do a search on the internet for his interests and you will find many gift ideas and suggestions. If you don't really know what his interests are then you can always search the internet for the general question 'gift ideas and suggestions for my boyfriend' and you will get some good results. It certainly does make it easier though if you have some idea of what he likes or what he needs. If you buy a gift that is completely unrelated to his interests, needs or personality then that may reflect on how much attention you have shown him.
If you don't know his interests or passions then think about his personality as a person’s personality can also give you lots of ideas for gifts. If you are creative you may even consider making him something which will have sentimental value when he knows that you put the effort into making it.
If you aren't creative, there are places where you can have gifts made. It could be something as simple as having his name engraved on a pen if he is a business man, or a football Guernsey with his favorite player’s number put on the back. Try to combine your creativity with his personality and interests and you have a winning combination.
The main aim of giving your boyfriend a gift is to express your love and affection toward him so it really doesn't need to be anything expensive or too outgoing, something simple is often the best.
There are two categories of gifts that you can buy for your boyfriend. Firstly you can buy him something that he would like to have and the second category is gifts that he would find useful. Within both of these categories you are sure to find something that he would love, whether it is something to suit his needs or his wants. You should try to choose a gift that will also suit his personality.
When choosing a gift for your boyfriend you need to change your way of thinking and don't buy a gift that suits your tastes. Your taste of gift might not match his taste so you need to remember that you are buying for him and need to choose a gift that will suit his tastes, even if it is something that you don't particularly like all that much.
One tip for choosing a gift is to consider his interests. It is much easier to buy a gift if you know his interests as you can then shop for something along those lines. For example, if he is interested in football you could buy him some football gear or even a book or DVD about football. If he is a businessman and is passionate about his business, then perhaps you can buy him something for the office.
If your boyfriend loves the outdoors and is very adventurous then you can maybe buy him some equipment to use for his adventures or perhaps even a ticket for an adventure like hot air ballooning. It really makes it much easier to buy for your boyfriend if you know what he likes to do or what he is passionate about.
If you know his interests but are still unsure about what to buy him, then you can do a search on the internet for his interests and you will find many gift ideas and suggestions. If you don't really know what his interests are then you can always search the internet for the general question 'gift ideas and suggestions for my boyfriend' and you will get some good results. It certainly does make it easier though if you have some idea of what he likes or what he needs. If you buy a gift that is completely unrelated to his interests, needs or personality then that may reflect on how much attention you have shown him.
If you don't know his interests or passions then think about his personality as a person’s personality can also give you lots of ideas for gifts. If you are creative you may even consider making him something which will have sentimental value when he knows that you put the effort into making it.
If you aren't creative, there are places where you can have gifts made. It could be something as simple as having his name engraved on a pen if he is a business man, or a football Guernsey with his favorite player’s number put on the back. Try to combine your creativity with his personality and interests and you have a winning combination.
The main aim of giving your boyfriend a gift is to express your love and affection toward him so it really doesn't need to be anything expensive or too outgoing, something simple is often the best.
Friday, February 4, 2011
Romantic Ideas For Your Boyfriend
All new romances start off very romantic and exciting, but after a while the romance fizzles a little and you can soon find yourself wondering where the romance went. If you would like to keep your live life alive then start thinking about some romantic ideas for your boyfriend. Although it is nice if your boyfriend is the romantic one, but if you are romantic toward him you will find that he will return the favor and be more romantic with you. You can plan romantic moments or you can be romantic on the spur of the moment and it is often these spontaneous romantic moments that have maximum effect.
When thinking of something romantic try to think outside the box and be a little creative. If you open up your mind to new ideas you are sure to come up with many exciting, romantic ideas. Your boyfriend will love any little romantic gestures that you come up with.
Continuing romance in your life will help your relationship to stay strong and your love life to remain alive and exciting. Your boyfriend will enjoy being romanced and will love you or making the effort to shower him with romance. I'm sure he will soon be showering you with romance and the candle you have for each other will continue to burn brightly.
When you are bringing romance into a relationship it needs to be done with love, passion and sincerity. If you see being romantic as a chore then it just won't have the same effect as if you are romantic with passion. You don't have to plan a bit three course candlelit meal to be romantic; often it is simple little gestures that bring the most romance to a relationship.
Even if you feel that your boyfriend is romantic enough so you don't need to worry about being romantic, this isn't true. You should also show romance to him and not leave it all up to him. He will love to receive romantic gestures and surprises from you and with you doing this he will likely continue to shower you with romantic gestures. When both parties in a relationship participate in romance it will keep the romance in the relationship alive. If you want to encourage your boyfriend to be more romantic here are some steps that might help:
1. Let your boyfriend know how you feel and that you would like to see some romance from him. Ask him how he really feels about you and then let him know that you would like to hear him tell you from time to time. He can be romantic just by telling you how much he loves you and expressing his feelings. Tell him that you know he loves you but you still like to hear it from him.
2. Encourage your boyfriend to express his feelings in the presence of others as this truly is a romantic gesture that shows you that he truly loves you and is not ashamed of it.
3. Your boyfriend should ask you how your day went or if you enjoyed your meal. Little questions like these that show he is interested in your feelings and comfort are very romantic and make you feel special.
4. Your boyfriend should listen when you have any problems that you want to talk about and he should offer advice and help you through any rough times. This shows that he is concerned about you and your feelings and will always be there for you when you need him.
5. Your boyfriend should be respectful of your likes and dislikes and work around them to some degree. He should be well-dressed and well-mannered to keep you happy and keep your romance alive.
6. You will want to receive lots of hugs and affection from your boyfriend so that you feel loved.
7. He should offer you comforting words at times when you need to hear them. He can't solve all your problems for you but he should be there to comfort you when required.
Not all men are romantic at heart and some need a little encouragement to be romantic. You will find that if you do these things to him he will likely reciprocate and do them back to you. When you both treat each other with affection and romance you will continue to have a happy and healthy relationship for a long, long time.
When thinking of something romantic try to think outside the box and be a little creative. If you open up your mind to new ideas you are sure to come up with many exciting, romantic ideas. Your boyfriend will love any little romantic gestures that you come up with.
Continuing romance in your life will help your relationship to stay strong and your love life to remain alive and exciting. Your boyfriend will enjoy being romanced and will love you or making the effort to shower him with romance. I'm sure he will soon be showering you with romance and the candle you have for each other will continue to burn brightly.
When you are bringing romance into a relationship it needs to be done with love, passion and sincerity. If you see being romantic as a chore then it just won't have the same effect as if you are romantic with passion. You don't have to plan a bit three course candlelit meal to be romantic; often it is simple little gestures that bring the most romance to a relationship.
Even if you feel that your boyfriend is romantic enough so you don't need to worry about being romantic, this isn't true. You should also show romance to him and not leave it all up to him. He will love to receive romantic gestures and surprises from you and with you doing this he will likely continue to shower you with romantic gestures. When both parties in a relationship participate in romance it will keep the romance in the relationship alive. If you want to encourage your boyfriend to be more romantic here are some steps that might help:
1. Let your boyfriend know how you feel and that you would like to see some romance from him. Ask him how he really feels about you and then let him know that you would like to hear him tell you from time to time. He can be romantic just by telling you how much he loves you and expressing his feelings. Tell him that you know he loves you but you still like to hear it from him.
2. Encourage your boyfriend to express his feelings in the presence of others as this truly is a romantic gesture that shows you that he truly loves you and is not ashamed of it.
3. Your boyfriend should ask you how your day went or if you enjoyed your meal. Little questions like these that show he is interested in your feelings and comfort are very romantic and make you feel special.
4. Your boyfriend should listen when you have any problems that you want to talk about and he should offer advice and help you through any rough times. This shows that he is concerned about you and your feelings and will always be there for you when you need him.
5. Your boyfriend should be respectful of your likes and dislikes and work around them to some degree. He should be well-dressed and well-mannered to keep you happy and keep your romance alive.
6. You will want to receive lots of hugs and affection from your boyfriend so that you feel loved.
7. He should offer you comforting words at times when you need to hear them. He can't solve all your problems for you but he should be there to comfort you when required.
Not all men are romantic at heart and some need a little encouragement to be romantic. You will find that if you do these things to him he will likely reciprocate and do them back to you. When you both treat each other with affection and romance you will continue to have a happy and healthy relationship for a long, long time.
Thursday, February 3, 2011
Sweet Comments Can Spice Up Your Romance
There are many ways that you can spice up your romance and one great way is by using sweet comments that will make him smile. Little romantic quotes will go a long way to spice up your love life and you will soon find your boyfriend becoming more romantic toward you too.
There doesn't need to be a specific time of day to use sweet talk, you can tell your boyfriend sweet things at any time or any place. In fact, it doesn't always need to be said, but you can also write a note with a sweet quote and leave it somewhere where he will find it when you are not there.
By using sweet quotes in your relationship you can help to relieve any nervousness or anxiety about a new relationship. If you feel nervous saying sweet things, then you shouldn't because it will actually relieve your nervousness in the long term and also his.
When trying to think of sweet things to say to your boyfriend you should first consider your feelings toward him. Grab a piece of paper and a pen and write down your feelings and emotions that you have when you think of him or when you are with him. Your heart will tell you how you feel and these are the things he wants to know so use your own feelings to come up with some sweet comments to give him.
Not many men will admit that they want you to say such sweet things to them, but they do enjoy hearing them and they will bring a smile to his face and his love for you will grow.
Here are a few examples of little sweet comments that you can say to your boyfriend:
- My life is so much better since I met you.
- My world is empty when you aren't with me.
- You are the sunshine of my life.
- It's been said that you only truly fall in love once, but I don't believe it. Every time I see you, I fall in love all over again
- Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice but falling in love with you I had no control over.
- Thank you for your sweet, sweet love. You'll never truly know just how happy that you make me and how much I love you
- Grow old along with me! The best is yet to be
- If I know what love is, it is because of you.
- You are my endless love.
- Before I met you I never knew what it was like; to look at someone and smile for no reason
- You had me at hello
- You make me melt like hot fudge on a sundae
- There must be something wrong with my eyes; I can't take them off you
- You must be from out of space cause I can see the stars in your eyes
- Did the sun come out or did you just smile at me?
- I dropped a tear in the ocean, the day I find it is the day I'll stop loving you
- My heart smiled when you kissed my lips. What a sweet surprise
- You are the prince in my fairytale life
- You are so sweet to me, you take the place of icing on my cake.
- Baby you are the whip cream on my hot fudge sundae.
- You are the olive in my martini.
These are just some examples to help you get started, often some quote will just come to you when you aren't expecting it and these are often the best. Otherwise you can search the internet to find many more quotes that you can use. Whenever you want to get your boyfriend in a romantic mood, then try using some of these sweet quotes and you will soon have him relaxed and full of romance.
There doesn't need to be a specific time of day to use sweet talk, you can tell your boyfriend sweet things at any time or any place. In fact, it doesn't always need to be said, but you can also write a note with a sweet quote and leave it somewhere where he will find it when you are not there.
By using sweet quotes in your relationship you can help to relieve any nervousness or anxiety about a new relationship. If you feel nervous saying sweet things, then you shouldn't because it will actually relieve your nervousness in the long term and also his.
When trying to think of sweet things to say to your boyfriend you should first consider your feelings toward him. Grab a piece of paper and a pen and write down your feelings and emotions that you have when you think of him or when you are with him. Your heart will tell you how you feel and these are the things he wants to know so use your own feelings to come up with some sweet comments to give him.
Not many men will admit that they want you to say such sweet things to them, but they do enjoy hearing them and they will bring a smile to his face and his love for you will grow.
Here are a few examples of little sweet comments that you can say to your boyfriend:
- My life is so much better since I met you.
- My world is empty when you aren't with me.
- You are the sunshine of my life.
- It's been said that you only truly fall in love once, but I don't believe it. Every time I see you, I fall in love all over again
- Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice but falling in love with you I had no control over.
- Thank you for your sweet, sweet love. You'll never truly know just how happy that you make me and how much I love you
- Grow old along with me! The best is yet to be
- If I know what love is, it is because of you.
- You are my endless love.
- Before I met you I never knew what it was like; to look at someone and smile for no reason
- You had me at hello
- You make me melt like hot fudge on a sundae
- There must be something wrong with my eyes; I can't take them off you
- You must be from out of space cause I can see the stars in your eyes
- Did the sun come out or did you just smile at me?
- I dropped a tear in the ocean, the day I find it is the day I'll stop loving you
- My heart smiled when you kissed my lips. What a sweet surprise
- You are the prince in my fairytale life
- You are so sweet to me, you take the place of icing on my cake.
- Baby you are the whip cream on my hot fudge sundae.
- You are the olive in my martini.
These are just some examples to help you get started, often some quote will just come to you when you aren't expecting it and these are often the best. Otherwise you can search the internet to find many more quotes that you can use. Whenever you want to get your boyfriend in a romantic mood, then try using some of these sweet quotes and you will soon have him relaxed and full of romance.
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Bring Fun Into Your Relationship With Funny Questions
You should feel comfortable enough in a relationship to be able to ask your boyfriend any question, even if your questions or comments are really about sweet nothings, you should both enjoy them. You don't want to spend your whole life together talking about the serious stuff in your relationship or your boyfriend will soon get bored, so you want to keep the relationship light and fun at times. It is good to sometimes just throw in some fun questions that might confuse your boyfriend a little but will also get a laugh from him.
Life is meant to be enjoyed so having a bit of fun within your relationship will make it more enjoyable. You may even find that your boyfriend enjoys the funny questions so much that he will start asking you some.
Here are some examples of fun questions to throw into your relationship:
- Will you still love me when I'm old and grey?
- What would you do if I punched you in the face right now?
- Do you want 10 children or 15 children?
- What's your favorite thing about our relationship?
- What's the silliest name you'd call a child?
- What is the worst date you ever had?
- What is your favorite movie that you never get bored of watching?
- Do you have a nickname? How did you get it?
- What are the five material possessions you will like to save, if your house is on fire?
- What is the craziest thing that you have ever done?
- What is the most embarrassing moment of your life?
- Is there anything in me that you will like to change?
- If you are given an option to be born as an animal what would it be?
- Who is your favorite superhero?
- If you found a magic lamp, what will be the three wishes that you will ask for?
- Have you ever been attracted to a person of the same sex?
- Do you have a secret sexual fantasy?
- What is important for you in life - money or love?
- Tell me about an experience in your life that you can never forget.
- How will you describe yourself in five words?
- Were you ever attracted to any of your teachers?
- What are your future plans?
- If you are marooned on a deserted island, what one thing would you take with you?
There are just thousands of fun questions that you can ask your boyfriend and have a bit of fun with him.
Having a bit of fun in your relationship will strengthen your relationship and bring you and your boyfriend closer. You can also find out some very interesting things about your boyfriend by asking these fun questions. When you are comfortable asking and answering fun questions then you can be truly happy together knowing that you aren't hiding anything.
A bit of fun and flirting is great for your relationship and will bring you closer and strengthen your love for one another.
Life is meant to be enjoyed so having a bit of fun within your relationship will make it more enjoyable. You may even find that your boyfriend enjoys the funny questions so much that he will start asking you some.
Here are some examples of fun questions to throw into your relationship:
- Will you still love me when I'm old and grey?
- What would you do if I punched you in the face right now?
- Do you want 10 children or 15 children?
- What's your favorite thing about our relationship?
- What's the silliest name you'd call a child?
- What is the worst date you ever had?
- What is your favorite movie that you never get bored of watching?
- Do you have a nickname? How did you get it?
- What are the five material possessions you will like to save, if your house is on fire?
- What is the craziest thing that you have ever done?
- What is the most embarrassing moment of your life?
- Is there anything in me that you will like to change?
- If you are given an option to be born as an animal what would it be?
- Who is your favorite superhero?
- If you found a magic lamp, what will be the three wishes that you will ask for?
- Have you ever been attracted to a person of the same sex?
- Do you have a secret sexual fantasy?
- What is important for you in life - money or love?
- Tell me about an experience in your life that you can never forget.
- How will you describe yourself in five words?
- Were you ever attracted to any of your teachers?
- What are your future plans?
- If you are marooned on a deserted island, what one thing would you take with you?
There are just thousands of fun questions that you can ask your boyfriend and have a bit of fun with him.
Having a bit of fun in your relationship will strengthen your relationship and bring you and your boyfriend closer. You can also find out some very interesting things about your boyfriend by asking these fun questions. When you are comfortable asking and answering fun questions then you can be truly happy together knowing that you aren't hiding anything.
A bit of fun and flirting is great for your relationship and will bring you closer and strengthen your love for one another.
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
Use Cute Quotes To Express Your Love
Cute quotes might seem a little corny, but they really are cute and can keep the fire going in a relationship. Cute quotes help to boost the love and affection in a relationship and they can keep the romance and the relationship strong. Telling your boyfriends lovely quotes shows him affection and he will feel love and passion toward you in return.
There are different ways to use cute quotes with your boyfriend, you can write them on notes and put them in his lunch box or under his pillow, or you can text him quotes or say them to him during conversation. When he reads notes or a text it will give him a good feeling and can even lift his spirits if he is otherwise having a bad day. These little messages can mean a lot to him when he reads them.
There are many different quotes that you can use too that may suit different situations and you can even include some humour in them to put a smile on his face. It really doesn't matter what stage of a relationship you are at, you can always use quotes at any time to keep the relationship strong.
If you look around on the internet you are sure to find various sources for love quotes as there are hundreds available. Here are some quotes below that you might like to use:
- When I saw you, I was afraid to meet you... When I met you, I was afraid to kiss you... When I kissed you, I was afraid to love you... Now that I love you, I'm afraid to lose you.
- Your words are my food, your breath my wine. You are everything to me.
- My heart is ever at your service.
- It's been said that you only truly fall in love once, but I don't believe it. Every time I see you, I fall in love all over again
- Every time I hear your voice, I hear another reason to keep you forever
- If kisses were the water I would give you the sea, if hugs were the leaves I would give you a tree, but if love was time, I would give you eternity
- Come live in my heart, and pay no rent
- Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice but falling in love with you I had no control over
- Sometimes your nearness takes my breath away; and all the things I want to say can find no voice. Then, in silence, I can only hope my eyes will speak my heart
- Hey, are you my sleeping tablets? 'cause every time I see your blue eyes I start dreaming 'bout you and me ;)
- Two souls with but a single thought, two hearts that beat as one
- Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice, but falling in love with you was beyond my control
- A kiss is just a kiss till you find the one you love. A hug is just a hug till you find the one you're always thinking of. A dream is just a dream till it comes true. Love was just a word till I heard it from you
Sometimes it can be difficult to put how you are feeling into words. Cute quotes are great for expressing the way that you feel in a way that you might not otherwise be able to do. If you are looking for a great little way to improve your relationship then try giving your boyfriend some cute quotes.
There are different ways to use cute quotes with your boyfriend, you can write them on notes and put them in his lunch box or under his pillow, or you can text him quotes or say them to him during conversation. When he reads notes or a text it will give him a good feeling and can even lift his spirits if he is otherwise having a bad day. These little messages can mean a lot to him when he reads them.
There are many different quotes that you can use too that may suit different situations and you can even include some humour in them to put a smile on his face. It really doesn't matter what stage of a relationship you are at, you can always use quotes at any time to keep the relationship strong.
If you look around on the internet you are sure to find various sources for love quotes as there are hundreds available. Here are some quotes below that you might like to use:
- When I saw you, I was afraid to meet you... When I met you, I was afraid to kiss you... When I kissed you, I was afraid to love you... Now that I love you, I'm afraid to lose you.
- Your words are my food, your breath my wine. You are everything to me.
- My heart is ever at your service.
- It's been said that you only truly fall in love once, but I don't believe it. Every time I see you, I fall in love all over again
- Every time I hear your voice, I hear another reason to keep you forever
- If kisses were the water I would give you the sea, if hugs were the leaves I would give you a tree, but if love was time, I would give you eternity
- Come live in my heart, and pay no rent
- Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice but falling in love with you I had no control over
- Sometimes your nearness takes my breath away; and all the things I want to say can find no voice. Then, in silence, I can only hope my eyes will speak my heart
- Hey, are you my sleeping tablets? 'cause every time I see your blue eyes I start dreaming 'bout you and me ;)
- Two souls with but a single thought, two hearts that beat as one
- Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice, but falling in love with you was beyond my control
- A kiss is just a kiss till you find the one you love. A hug is just a hug till you find the one you're always thinking of. A dream is just a dream till it comes true. Love was just a word till I heard it from you
Sometimes it can be difficult to put how you are feeling into words. Cute quotes are great for expressing the way that you feel in a way that you might not otherwise be able to do. If you are looking for a great little way to improve your relationship then try giving your boyfriend some cute quotes.
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