This is the question my husband’s brother asked me the other day. Why did you break up was my response when truly what I wanted to ask was how could you be such a donut to dump her?
He looked a little sheepish and told me that he had met this girl at work and she smiled at him. Apparently she's young, very pretty and looks rather like she belongs in Baywatch. So he, being a macho-man type, decided that he had to dump his lovely girlfriend to date this beach babe. Needless to say, he before long discovered that she had been smiling at his mate and looked on him like he was something on her shoe.
Well he deserved that but I believe he had ditched his girlfriend for a less obvious reason. He loves her and was scared of making a commitment to her. He had began thinking about settling down and having children and nobody had made him feel this way before. But he was worried that being a career girl, this wasn't the future she had planned.
Regrettably he's not really good at expressing his feelings so determined that it was better to end the relationship instead of try to find out if his partner shared his vision of the future. Doh!
Honestly, how can somebody so intelligent on a professional level be so emotionally backward. Anyway his ex partner is a lovely lady who, God love her, adores him so I knew that getting back with his ex girlfriend was possible. It was also a good idea as despite his obvious faults, they make a good couple and he does love her.
So I told him to write her a letter. He decided an e-mail would do but I insisted it had to be a letter. A hand written letter is such an old fashioned way of courting somebody that it almost always assures a positive response. So off he went to purchase some paper and a pen and as I thought complete the task at hand.
Then he was back. “But what do I write?” He asked. Seriously he would have let me write the whole thing for him. So I told him to tell her how he felt. An MBA from Harvard and he's looking at me like I advised him to pull out his finger nails. I said “Tell her you love her and that you're really sorry for the way you behaved and that you would like to take her out this Saturday to her favourite restaurant”.
Believe me that this approach works much better than a text, a bunch of roses and a takeaway. Thankfully his partner knows him well and saw the funny side, and my brother in law is no longer asking "how to get back together with my ex girlfriend".
His new question is what to say to his future father in law when he pops the question but I will leave my husband to deal with that one!
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