Ending A Relationship Is A Challange

Ending a relationship is a challenge. It's so easy to second guess yourself and wonder if you're making a horrible mistake. Then comes the guilt you'll feel by causing someone you used to love, and maybe still do, all that pain. Where should you have 'the talk'? When? What will you say? What should you make sure not to say? It's never easy to break up, but with some forethought you can lessen the pain and awkwardness a little bit.

Do yourself a favor and think long and hard about it before you actually do it. It's very hard, sometimes impossible, to get back with someone after a breakup so you want to make sure that you're sure this is the best thing to do...before you do it. Don't go off in a huff because the two of you just had a fight. You don't want to have to swallow your pride and eat your words if you've jumped the gun and then had a change of heart.

Of course, if you're being abused, don't allow yourself to be talked out of it. This is the one time that you have got to stand your ground. Other than that, though, take your time while making your decision, no matter what you may think, the grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence. Make sure you're really ready for all that will happen after the breakup. Don't expect that you'll go out and start dating everyone within a 50 mile radius. It's easy to be a little bored in a relationship and convince yourself that you can do better, but can you? Really? You better be sure.

If after all this soul searching you're still convinced that a breakup is the best way to go, than plan out the best way to go about it. Even though you want out of the relationship that's no reason to be mean and callous to your soon- to- be ex. Try to figure out the kindest and gentlest way to end the relationship. Oh, and don't be a schmuck and breakup with someone right before a major holiday or their birthday. You've waited this long you can wait a few days more. No need to tarnish their big day with memories of a painful breakup.

When it comes time to talk to them, pick a quiet place and take your time. Don't lie to them, be as honest as possible (though if you're already seeing someone else you may want to spare them that detail) but don't back down. You've given this a lot of thought and you're sure this is the right thing to do, so do it. They may cry, threaten and plead but you have to stand firm otherwise you' ll just be repeating the whole scene in a few days or weeks, and who wants to go through that?

Once you've done it and the two of you are through, don't give into temptation and call them, and don't take their calls if they call you either. You both have to move on and since you're the one who ended the relationship it's up to you to be the 'strong' one and cut off all contact. You may be tempted to talk to them, especially if the whole dating everyone within 50 miles thing hasn't worked out quite the way you planned, but don't. Make a clean break.

You can't take away all the pain and make things better for your ex when it comes to
ending a relationship, but you can handle the situation with thought and compassion to make things as easy as possible. And you should, because karma can be a witch.

Relationship Breakup - Dont Be Blindsided

Relationship breakup, what are the signs? Are you worried that your relationship is getting ready to crash and burn? Not sure what signs you should be on the lookout for? No one likes to be blindsided. Being blindsided always results in pain whether physical or emotional. Even if your relationship ends, the pain will be a little less if you can see it coming and brace for impact. There are some signs that all may not be well on the home front, if you keep your eyes open.

The first thing you need to remember is that we are usually pretty good at lying to ourselves. We are remarkably adept at keeping the blinders firmly in place if removing them would be to face certain pain. In the long run though you only do more harm than good by ignoring the inevitable. It's best to see things clearly, if you do you may actually have a chance to change the direction your relationship is taking and prevent the breakup.

Here are some signs that you need to keep an eye out for:

1. If you and your partner used to be joined at the hip but all of a sudden they seem to have a lot of more important things to do, you may be headed for a breakup. Of course, don't be a twit and ignore the fact that they just got a promotion and they're a lot busier at work. If they don't have a reasonable excuse for their sudden absence you may want to sit them down and have a talk with them to try and figure out what is going on.

Make sure that you ask them what the problem is and not accuse them of anything. If you accuse them of something and they are just feeling a little down or overwhelmed you may just give them cause to end the relationship. Be careful to not come off defensively. Stay calm and rational when you talk to them.

2. Does your 'better half' suddenly seem to need a lot of privacy? If their habits change and they become much more private it could be a sign that they are talking to someone and they don't want you to know. If they are suddenly leaving the room to talk on their cell phone, or they are taking their laptop into the other room, you may want to ask them, nicely, what's going on. If they say 'nothing' that might well be your answer since it's obvious that their behavior has changed and if they don't have a good reason why it could be that there isn't a good reason. Again, though, give them the benefit of the doubt. You'd look awfully stupid if you accused them of something when all they were doing was planning a great anniversary trip or surprise birthday party.

3. Sex, do you still have it as often as you once did? Is there a change in who initiates it? If your partner used to always want sex and suddenly they just don't seem interested, it could be a sign that they have found someone else. Of course, it could also be a sign that they're tired, overwhelmed, depressed, etc. Don't jump to conclusions, just ask.

Many times the signs of a relationship breakup are pretty easy to spot, as long as you're not so afraid to see them that you ignore them. By spotting them early you've got a much better shot at dealing with whatever the issues are before the actual breakup. You might just be able to save your relationship by keeping your eyes wide open.

Emotional Infidelity - Is It Trouble In The Making

We don't live in a bubble. We spend time out in the world with other people and sometimes we make a connection with those other people. This is great, and a wonderful part of life. But it can become emotional infidelity when you are being more intimate with this new person than you are with your partner, even if it isn't sexual. It may be hard to draw the line sometimes but if you find that you are thinking of another person a lot, and not just in a casual way, it may be that you need to assess your own relationship.

It's very common that this type of emotional affair will eventually lead to a sexual relationship. That's one of the main reasons it needs to be nipped in the bud right away. There is no reason to beat yourself up about it just because you happened to meet someone and found that the two of you had an amazing attraction. What you do need to do, however, is to recognize that any type of infidelity is wrong and you need to put a stop to it before it goes any further.

The longer you allow yourself to spend time with this other person, the stronger the attraction will become and the harder it will be to resist temptation, or break things off. If you are sharing things with this new person about your relationship with your spouse, you've crossed a line. It's one thing to confide some things to your friends, but not someone you are attracted to. Doing so will only create bigger problems for you and create an 'unnatural' bond with the new person.

Your spouse is the person you should be sharing these issues with, not someone who you are having feelings for. That is a breach of the trust you and your partner share. By letting this other person in, more and more every time the two of you talk, you are distancing yourself from your partner. If you do that for too long, your main relationship will completely fall apart. And even though you may think that's what you want so you can have the new person, it rarely works out quite so neatly.

It's unbelievably easy to make more out of the time you spend with your new friend. After all, the two of you don't bicker, you don't have any issues with money or how to deal with the kids, etc. The day to day things that can drag us all down aren't shared by the two of you so of course things may seem wonderful. Just remember, they felt that way at first with your spouse too. It's inevitable. But don't confuse that with having found your soul mate. Your soul mate is more than likely the person waiting for you at home.

Emotional infidelity is very often the first step to a full fledged affair. It's very easy to have a connection with someone else, but when that connection seems to take on a life of it's own, you need to pull back before things get so far out of hand that you can't salvage the situation.

Questions Relationship - Perhaps You Should

If you have someone close to you who questions relationship that you are in, do yourself a favor and listen. More often than not your mother, or sister, or best friend will see signs that you know are there, even though you deny it. No one should subject themselves to a bad relationship, life is just too short.

I guess when it comes right down to it my first bit of advice would be to stay out of bad relationships in the first place. I know many people reading this would say, 'well I didn't know until I was in love". That may be true, I don't know you or your situation, But I can say that in the case of one of my friends and my sister, who are both in awful relationships that would be a lie.

The truth is that almost always the signs are there very early on. We just choose to ignore them, and usually for the wrong reasons. We usually ignore them because we don't want to be alone or the person looks really hot, etc. For dumb reasons. And before we know it we're in over our heads and feel trapped and unsure of what to do.

The good news is that there are things you can do. Here are a few ideas to get you started:

1. Of course, for the purpose of this article, when I talk about a bad relationship I don't mean an abusive one. I just mean that the two of you aren't compatible and don't get along. If there is abuse going on find help, go to a shelter, go to visit out of town friends, whatever you have to do to get away and be safe.

If, it's not that dire, try to determine (be honest) if the two of you can work on things and make them better. Sometimes the troubles in a relationship are minor and we can easily fix them as long as both parties are willing to try. If you truly think your partner might be willing to give it a try, than by all means give it a try.

2. Sometimes when one partner starts questioning the relationship, and suggesting that the two of you make changes, the other partner will start to get scared and suggest that the two of you take it to the next level. I know this sounds counterintuitive, but it happens. If you start noticing the flaws in your partner or the relationship your partner may start to feel unsure of them self and in order to keep you they might try to lock you in tighter by suggesting that you get married or move in together.

Don't be fooled. If your partner does this it means they are trying to avoid the real issue and they're trying to manipulate you and play on your emotions. Truthfully, if that happens, it should make you question the relationship even more, not less.

So, if someone you know and trust questions relationship your in, than you should take heed and listen. They are only looking out for you and they are more often than not, right to be concerned.

Affair Relationships - Can They Really Last

Affair relationships, can they really last? If your relationship has started off as an affair and the two of you are wondering if you should leave your spouses and try to make a go of your relationship, you have to carefully consider the consequences of such an action.

It's very tough to keep a relationship going if it has started off by both of you lying and cheating. For one thing you're both going to have a real problem trusting each other. I mean, you both know that you've both cheated, how can you ever really be sure that you won't each cheat on each other? Even if the two of you can overcome that, there are still all the other issues to consider.

For one thing, are there kids involved? This is by far the hardest situation to work through. No one wants to hurt their kids and it will be virtually impossible for the kids to ever feel warm fuzzies for the person who broke their other parent's heart (at least that's the way the kids will see it. More than likely they'll let their cheating parent largely off the hook and blame the other man/woman).

Even if there aren't kids involved, you have to remember that this relationship is just like any other: it starts off hot and passionate, but can you keep that alive? Your marriage probably started off that way too and look where that is.

One of the biggest reasons the two of you felt so free in the first place was because you didn't share any responsibilities. The day to day grind is almost always what slowly works it's way between couples and causes the problems. You have to be realistic enough to recognize that the very same thing will happen between the two of you over time. Your brand new 'soulmate' may not seem so brand new in five or ten years... just like your spouse.

Of course, having considered all of these facts there still remains one question you have to ask yourself, do you still love your spouse? If you can honestly say that you just don't feel love for your spouse (and I'm not talking about the fireworks, tingling toes feeling that always fades and changes in any relationship) than despite the pain it will cause you might be doing them a favor in the long run by leaving.

If it comes to that, it's best for everyone involved if you don't let them know that the catalyst for the breakup is your affair. That is one secret you should keep to yourself. Just let your spouse know that the marriage is over and be as compassionate as possible.

Affair relationships almost never work, but if the two of you have decided that even though you met in the wrong way, you still have a deep love for each other and that your marriages have been over for a long time, you might as well give it a go. Just keep the fact that you've been together while you were still married to other people, between the two of you. No need to cause unnecessary pain.

Marriage Infidelity - Gut Check Time

Let's face facts, not all marriages should be saved. Sometimes the two partner's just aren't compatible and just can't make thinks work. At other times there are real issues such as marriage infidelity, which can be virtually impossible to move past.

If you or your spouse has been unfaithful but you both feel that there is still something in the relationship worth saving, it's time for a gut check. Don't think that the road to save your marriage will be smooth or short. You had better prepare for a rough ride, and it's going to have a much better chance of working if you enlist the help of a professional counselor to help clear the path, as much as possible.

Here's a few things to keep in mind:

1. If the person who committed the adultery is a serial cheater, why stay at all? Come on,who are you kidding? No matter how much you may love them, they are flawed. They aren't ever going to change they are just going to make your life miserable at best, and at worst they'll bring some nasty disease home and clear out your bank account. Leave.

If this was a one time lapse in judgment, and let's be honest, in the right circumstances any of us could have one, than you might have a chance but only if the offending party is truly sorry and will, or already has, stopped seeing the other person. If they won't commit 100% to making things work, it won't work. Again, it's best to leave.

2. As hard as it may be to face, it might help if the two of you could talk openly about what they found so irresistible in the other person. It's going to hurt, but the reality is that people don't cheat for sex, though that is part of it, they cheat because they get something from the other person that they don't get from their spouse.

Sometimes it can be something 'real' like feeling needed or loved. Other times it's not 'real' it's childish, like feeling like they are the only one that matters in the relationship. Finding out what the attraction was might help the two of you recapture something that has been lost in your relationship, something that you may not even have realized was gone.

3. It's very important to the long term health of your relationship that the person who was cheated on can find a way to not throw it up in their partner's face every time there is a fight. And that will be hard. But unless you can truly forgive and forget, it won't work out.

On the other side of the coin, the person who strayed must understand that it can take a lifetime for their partner to really ever trust them again. Sorry, that's just the way it is.

Also, the person who strayed has to own it, period. Now is not the time to blame your spouse and use the classic line: "my wife/husband just doesn't understand me". B.S. You are every bit as guilty, maybe more so, in the failing of your marriage as your spouse. Don't blame your weakness and the fact that you cheated on your partner. You did it, period. Own it and you'll be a better person for it.

Marriage infidelity can be gotten past, but only if the two of you are willing to try, and try hard. Good luck.

Relationship Break Up Advice - Dont Let It Whip You

It seems like every time we turn around there is a new book or magazine article about relationship break up advice. The truth is that finding out the best way to deal with a breakup is information virtually every one will need at some point. Whether you want to try to get your ex back, or just move on with as little pain as possible, it will take time (and having some friends around won't hurt either).

The length of the relationship will often determine how long it will take you to move on. Most of the time, though not always, the longer the relationship and the more memories and baggage you have the longer it will take for you to stop grieving and feel like you want to meet someone new. Even if they cheated on you or did something really bad, it will more often than not still take quite a bit of time for you to finally separate from them emotionally.

Even though we may wish we could at times, we can't just flip a switch and turn off all the love and companionship we'd been feeling for such a long time. We will need to edge away slowly, in baby steps, until finally we can stand on our own and we'll have moved on. The first step to this process is to get away. Maybe not literally, but figuratively. Put away all the pictures and mementos the two of you collected during your time together. Don't call them or accept their call if they call you. You need space and time.

Everyone is different, for you it might be easier to have some friends come over and pack everything up all at once and put it in the attic. For others it may be easier to do it in small steps, a little each day until it's all out of sight. There is no wrong way, as long as it gets done. Even doing something like redecorating or painting may help you get the fresh perspective that will help you.

If you've been meaning to buy new furniture or paint the wall in the living room, now may be the perfect time. For one thing it will give you something to do, something positive, that will keep you at least a little distracted. Another thing is that you will be changing the look of your environment which will make it a little easier to forget and move on.

No one is suggesting that a coat of paint on the wall or a new couch will make all the pain go away, but it might give you something else to focus on and take away some of the things that will trigger the painful memories of the two of you watching movies or doing the crossword puzzle on Sunday mornings. Those little memories of the seemingly unimportant times are the toughest to forget. The best relationship break up advice I can give you is to keep moving forward in life, surround yourself with friends and family and hang in there, it does get better.

How Can I Get My Boyfriend To Love Me Again - Right Now

Sometimes a relationship can be over before it's over. The two of you may still be together but the warmth, love and companionship is gone. At times like this a woman may ask the question: how can I get my boyfriend to love me again? Answering this question will be easier if the two of you are still together, but not impossible if you aren't. You have to figure out what caused the relationship to cool and then try to reverse whatever that was.

If the two of you recently broke up the thing that you feel most like doing is the one thing you absolutely should never do: call him (text him, IM him, etc. ) This is especially important if he broke up with you. If you start acting like some sort of crazy stalker lady, at worst you're going to end up with a restraining order against you and at best he'll only think of you as his 'sure thing, back up plan'. Neither of those are terrific options. Give him space.

That doesn't mean that you have to go out and find another guy or hide under your bed. While you are giving your ex time, take some time for you. I'm sure that there are things that you wanted to do or liked to do that got put on the back burner while the two of you were together. Now is the time to remember those things and start doing them again.

Most men prefer a woman who is self sufficient and confidant. Those are probably traits you had at first, it's time to re introduce yourself to those traits and start having fun and doing all the things you meant to do or used to do. Your ex will hear about it through the grapevine and he will be intrigued. You might just find that he is calling you, by resorting to the woman you used to be you are reminding him of the woman he fell in love with. Plus, by keeping yourself busy you aren't allowing yourself time to wallow and obsess.

The same principle can hold true if you and your guy are still together, but just not feeling the love. Don't make a big issue out of it, just start doing some of the things that you were planning on doing but somehow got sidetracked when you and your guy got together. Whatever it was, whether it was going back to school, learning to cook, taking a trip, etc. This will remind both of you of the woman you used to be. That can help him remember the love he had for you and it can remind you of the person you used to be and make positive changes to be that woman again.

The question: how can I get my boyfriend to love me again, can seem so sad and hopeless. But it doesn't have to be. There are many things that you can do, many of which are much easier than you may have thought possible, that can help you and your boyfriend rekindle the love the two of you had before.

Win Over The Man You Love Dating - 4 Tips

Tired of dating? Want to move your relationship to the next level? Want to win over man you love dating? Well, if you go about it in the right way, you'll greatly increase the chances of making it work out just the way you hoped it would. Of course, your idea of what exactly the 'next level' is and his may be two different things. Your idea of the next level may be marriage, to him it may just mean living together, or vice a versa. Make sure that when you talk about the next level that you clearly define what exactly that means to you.

Here are some easy steps you can follow that may help 'push' things along:

1. Talk to him. Tell him what you want. Be careful how you approach this because you don't want to sound whiny or needy (if this is something you really want and you really feel strongly about it's easy to sound a little desperate if you're not careful). Again, don't just tell him you want to take things to the next level, be clear on what that means to you.

2. It's important that you don't push the issue. It's great to bring it up after all, you can't expect him to read your mind can you? You just have to make sure that you're going to be able to accept whatever he wants without getting upset. If the two of you have been together for a while and this topic has never come up it's almost a sure bet that he isn't interested in taking things to the next level, if he were he would have already brought it up (of course, it's possible that he's just shy or afraid to bring it up because he didn't know what you'd say and he got scared).

3. If he isn't interested in making any changes then have a mature, calm, conversation with him and ask him to explain what he means. Does he mean that he can see the two of you moving forward some time in the future, but he's just not ready right now? Or does he mean he doesn't see your relationship going much further than it is right now? These may be tough questions to ask, and tough answers to hear, but it's important that you find out where he's at when it comes to your relationship.

4. If the two of you have the same basic idea of where the relationship will go, you're just not on the same page when it comes to a time line, than that's actually ok. At least you both see the relationship heading in the same direction. If your guy doesn't see any future in the relationship you're going to have to face a really tough decision: stay or go. Many women will stay and think that they can change his mind, and maybe you can, but you shouldn't. Even if you can talk him (or threaten him) into moving the relationship along, is that really the best foundation for a future? You had to force someone to be with you? No so much, it'll be hard but you are better off just moving on.

Many people find themselves in a great relationship and they want to take things to the next level, whatever that may mean to them. If you want to stop dating and move up to the next level you can follow this advice to win over man you love dating and move things along a bit faster.

How Can I Get My Girlfriend To Love Me Again - Who Knows

If you and your girl have been together for a while you may find that the excitement is gone and you're just not sure she even loves you anymore. At times like these the one thing that keeps going through your mind is: how can I get my girlfriend to love me again? The truth is that this situation can be very common in any longer term relationship. Just because your girl isn't as affectionate as she once doesn't necessarily mean that she doesn't still love you. The two of you can regain what you've lost.

Over time people change. We all do. The problem is that when it comes to a relationship two people may not change in the same way. For example, if you and your girl loved to party every night of the week, but lately she just doesn't seem that interested, yet you still want to go, this is a classic sign of two people who are maturing at different rates. In a case like this there may not be anything you can do. It might be best to just end the relationship and find someone who shares your interests.

Sometimes though the changes may be unsettling but they don't have to be deal breakers. If you and your girl can talk and find some common ground you can not only re- ignite the passion in your relationship you can also find great new ways to spend time together.

Sometimes it's best to start at the beginning, as much as possible. More than likely you've changed since you and your girl have been together, and maybe not in good ways. Take stock of the way you act and the way you treat her. Can you honestly say that it's the same as it was when the two of you first met? Do you still do all the little things (hold the door, tell her you love her, compliment the way she looks, etc.) that you used to do? If not, why not? She would still like to hear that.

Have you gotten lazy? Do you still workout the way you did when the two of you first met? Do you like to go out and do the things the two of you used to do, or do you just want to lounge on the couch and watch t.v.? She might simply be getting bored with you if you've become a slug.

When the two of you first met did you have a lot of dreams and ambitions? Do you still? If not, you may have lost some of the passion you had for life and that may have been one of the things she found so attractive about you when you first met. It might be good for you and your relationship to find some of that passion and ambition again. You don't want to get in a rut, it's not good for you or your relationship.

If you're wondering: how can I get my girlfriend to love me again, you can start by evaluating your relationship. Honestly answering these questions can be a great way to start. Once you know the problem you'll have a much better time of coming up with solutions.

Win Back Woman You Love Dating - With Sugar And Spice

When you decide that it's time to win back woman you love dating than you're going to have to figure out the best approach, and that can vary depending on why she left. Did you end things and now you've come to the realization that you made a mistake and you've changed your mind? If so, that will require one type of approach. Did she leave you? Did you cheat? Did she cheat? All of these different scenarios will require a slightly different approach to get the best results.

For the most part, if you ended things and now you are having second thoughts it's usually best to let her know that you made a mistake. There's really no reason to wait. You broke up with her, she may still love you, time to find out. Of course, be aware that you may have to do a lot of groveling and begging, but in most cases she'll be happy to take you back (assuming you weren't a huge jackass when you ended things).

If she broke up with you just because things weren't going well, than your best approach is to give her a little space and after a period of time contact her as a friend. Try to spend time with her and have fun, remind her of the great guy she fell in love with. Don't push to get back together, take it slow. Try to forget that the two of you ever had a relationship and just act as you would when you first meet someone new. She may find that she has missed you and this reminder of how fun you are may just be the little push she needs.

If she broke up with you because you cheated, you owe it to her to make darn sure that it won't happen again. Be warned, infidelity is very very hard to get past (just take a look at all the celebrity divorces recently) Once you've trusted someone and they've betrayed you it can be almost impossible to allow yourself to trust again. This is the hardest of all the scenarios to get over, though if handled properly you may have a chance.

If infidelity or some other form of abuse was the reason behind the breakup, you may increase your shot at a reconciliation if you attend some counseling. Nothing will go further to show her that you are truly sorry and that you've truly changed than to go to counseling. And don't just make it a game either, if you've screwed up you should make changes, you can be a better man. Don't just pretend that you care and that you want to change... really care and really want to change.

So step one is to figure out why she left in the first place and then determine the best way to win back woman you love dating. No matter what you do, make sure you keep your ego out of the mix. Be straight forward and honest and if you're not sure you can commit to her and the relationship 100%, just let her go.

How Do I Get My Husband To Fall In Love With Me Again

If you want to find a way to not just save your marriage but to make it unbelievable again, like it was in the beginning (or maybe even better than it's ever been before) you are probably asking: how to get my husband to fall in love with me again, what can I do? The truth is that there are many things you can do and they will all help you with your marriage and make you a more well rounded, happier person at the same time.

Everyone changes over time. That's not a bad thing, the only thing that can be bad is if those changes aren't positive changes. If you've lost sight of the person you were when you and your husband first married you might have turned into some boring housewife without even knowing it. It's really easy to let go of some of what makes us 'us' as a relationship progresses.

When you and your husband first met you probably had a lot of friends, hobbies, work goals, etc. Do you still? If not have you gotten bitter about some of those 'lost opportunities'? Could it be that you are actually taking some of that frustration out on your husband? These are all things you need to seriously consider.

If that has happened without you realizing it, it's actually pretty easy to overcome. Just take a long look at yourself and determine if you are bringing as much to the relationship now as you did in the beginning. It might have been you that started to disconnect and your husbands coolness could simply be a result of that.

Do be careful though to not go too far the other way. While it's important to try and maintain some fun and intimacy in your relationship, especially if it was you who kind of lost track of it to begin with, it's not your sole responsibility. You and your husband have got to be equal partners in rebuilding your love and trust.

What things did you and your husband do when the two of you first got married? I realize that you can't go back in time and you might be a lot busier now with kids and careers, but there must be some elements of that earlier time that the two of you can try to recapture. Instead of a week long trip skiing how about just an overnight in a local resort town? Even if you can't get away overnight because of the kids, how about a sexy 'booty call' in the middle of the week in the afternoon (with your husband of course!)? Talk about spicing things up!

And don't forget, it's not all about sex. If the love life isn't what it used to be than you might want to try to add some more fun, but just spending time together talking and laughing about unimportant things can do wonders. For a short time forget about the kids, the bills, the careers, the new roof you need and just enjoy some time playing. When was the last time you and your husband just played and acted silly? Try it, it can do wonders for both of you.

There, you have your answer to the question: how can I get my husband to fall in love with me again? It's not that hard, just remember the fun the two of you used to have and try to have a little fun again.

Tips On How To Get My Wife To Love Me Again

No one wants to see their loving marriage dissolve into indifference. It can be a painful thing to watch, it can also leave you feeling utterly helpless and unable to stop it. If you just don't feel the love anymore and you want the answer to the question: how to get my wife to love me again, than there are a few things you can try. There is no guarantee it will work, sometimes by the time you ask the question it's already too late, but you've got nothing to lose by giving it a try.

Marriage can be a weird relationship. The longer the two of you are together the more comfortable you can feel with each other but at the same time there is more of a chance that the two of you will grow in different directions. This is a very common problem and since it happens slowly, over a period of years, it can be very easy to miss the signs until it's too late.

That is the first thing you should do, try to identify how you've changed since you and your wife have been together. Have the changes you've had been positive or negative?For most of us, we can say that a lot of the changes are negative. We used to have big plans, dreams and ambitions, but now we come home from work and veg out in front of the t.v. until it's time for bed. Boring. If you used to be full of hope and promise and now you seem like you've given up, you may simply not be the same man your wife originally fell in love with.

The sad thing is that not only may your wife not feel the same way about you now, you may not feel the same way about yourself. If you've just given up on your dreams you are probably unhappy with yourself deep inside. Try to rekindle some of those passions, it will make you happier and remind your wife of the man she fell in love with all those years ago. It's a win/ win.

Have you let yourself go? If you used to be fit and strong but now you're more pudgy than toned, maybe you should hit the gym. It will be good for you and it might help rev up her enthusiasm a little bit too.

Do you treat your wife the way you used to? Probably not. We can all fall into the trap of taking our partner for granted, the longer you are together the easier it is to do. She may well do the same thing to you. Try to get back to some of the patterns of behavior you used to have in the early days of the relationship. If you used to get her flowers every now and then 'just because' it may be time to start that tradition again.

Don't make things harder than they have to be. The answer to the question how to get my wife to love me again, might be as simple as going back in time and acting more like the man you used to be rather than the man you've become. It might just be good for both of you.

Can My Wife Love Me Again - Yes

Can my wife love me again? I don't know, what did you do? I don't mean to sound flip when you are in pain, but getting someone to forgive and love you again will depend on a lot of factors, not the least of which is what caused the problems in the first place. Getting to the root of the problem has got to be the first step you take.

Trying to get the love back in your marriage might be hard, or impossible, due largely to what happened to kill that love in the first place. How long has the love been dying? For example, if you have been married for some time and you haven't treated your wife very well throughout your marriage, she may not love you anymore, and that may just be that. Love can die.

Think of a garden, if you don't water it and nurture it the only plants you're going to grow are weeds. Your marriage is similar. If you've spent the past several years of your marriage completely oblivious to your wife and her needs and you haven't shown her that you care about her and love her, than the love she felt for you might already be past the point of saving.

If the troubles are a little more recent, and not all your doing, you will usually have a better chance of saving your marriage and rekindling the love the two of you once had. With the economy so difficult right now a lot of families are really feeling the strain of money issues. If that's what's happened to you and your wife you need to slow down and consider what's really important. I know, you've got people calling, you've got food to buy and there is never enough money. But in the long run, this will just be a blip on the screen. Your marriage should be the one thing that you can count on for the rest of your life. Try (even though I know it's hard) to always remember that.

One of the simplest things you can do to win back your wife's affections is to remind her, with actions and not words, of the man she fell in love with in the beginning. It's easy to let life get in the way, we can lose our sense of humor and romance and then everything else starts to fall apart. Try to recapture a little of the magic the two of you used to share. It can be something as simple as a walk together in the local park, just some time together to unplug from all the other crap that may be going on in your world.

There are many reasons why a marriage can fall apart, most of them are silly and can be fairly simple to overcome once you realize what they are. For you men who are asking: can my wife love me again, yes, just make sure you give her a good reason.

Win Back The Man You Love Dating With TLC

No matter how desperate you may feel and how hopeless the situation may seem, you can win back man you love dating in most cases. True, not all relationships can be given CPR, and not all relationships should be given a second chance, but in many cases getting back together with the man of your dreams is just a matter of knowing what to do... and what not to do.

Sexist as it may sound, men are driven by ego. Of course, some men are worse than others but for the most part a man likes you to stroke his ego (hey, I said ego!) which is why you have to be careful how you go about the process of reconciling with your ex. If you're not careful all you'll end up doing is giving him a huge ego boost and making a fool of yourself. Many guys would love the idea of having the ex follow them around begging for scraps, especially if she broke up with them, make sure that you don't fall into that trap with him. Even while you are trying to get him back, always keep your dignity intact and if he isn't giving as much as he's getting, move on, it's just a game to him.

Here are a few things that you should try to get him back:

1. First of all, if the relationship has just broken up recently, wait. Don't go trailing after him telling him how much you miss him and love him, especially if he broke up with you. It's best to let him stew for a while until he realizes that he misses you. That's when you can let your feelings be known... not before.

If it's been a while since the breakup and he's had enough time to get to the point where he realizes he misses you, then you can contact him casually and see if he'd like to meet for coffee or lunch as friends. I know I used the dreaded 'F' word, but it's best that you keep everything very low key or you may scare him away. What you're really trying to do in this step is to spend time with him to remind him of all the fun the two of you used to have together and of the fun loving, free spirit he fell in love with when you two first met.

2. While you are waiting for enough time to pass make sure that you don't obsess about him and getting him back. I know this will be tough, but you have to face the fact that things may not work out the way you want. You have to have a Plan B, and it shouldn't be to get revenge on your ex by dating that hot guy you work with.

A good Plan B would be something that you can do no matter what happens between you and your ex. Something that will move you forward in your life and help you accomplish some worthwhile goal. It doesn't matter what it is as long as it meets those two criteria. It can be anything from a new haircut to taking a world cruise, to going back to school. Just as long as it's positive and will move you forward in your life.

We've been kind of conditioned to think that the really good things have to be complicated and hard. That's why many people reading this article may be skeptical and ignore this advice on how to win back man you love dating, don't make that mistake. Just because this advice is simple doesn't mean that it isn't effective too, in most cases it will work like a charm.

How To Get Ex Girlfriend Back Easily

How to get ex girlfriend back all depends on the circumstances. Who left who? Did she leave you? Or did you leave her? What was the reason for breaking up? How is it the romance came to a grinding halt? Why did the relationship end?And what do you want to do about it?

If it was she who left you,how to get ex girlfriend back is to find out what it was that she didn't like about you that caused her to break up with you. Was it because you treated her poorly? Maybe it was because you didn't deserve her or thought you didn't,so you need to make some new choices. The choices wont be simple. This is a great time to put yourself under the magnifying glass and think about the way you appear to others.

What did she complain about before she left you? Review those complaints and maybe ask others if they agree. How will you ever get ex girlfriend back if you don't want to take the extra step to get her back.

Or did you leave her? Maybe you made the mistake of letting her go and you want to get her back,you just need to realize how bad you hurt her. You need to find out if she hates you because of what you did. Maybe she needs a little time away. Let her have some time alone. You shouldn't be too far away but you shouldn't stalk her either.

You need to prove to her that you made a mistake in dumping her and you won't do it again. The best way to accomplish this is to give her the space and gain her trust back slowly. You made a mistake,and as with every mistake you now have to deal with the consequence. If she's worth it to you,you'll do it.

If the relationship didn't hit it off because it dissolved,let her know you want to get back with her. She needs to know she's special and you are willing to work hard to get back with her. If she believes you and you'll work hard she may get back with you without any further convincing and she'll be back in your arms.

The best way of how to get ex girlfriend back is to be honest and open in communication,don't lie or cheat. Don't just look at her mistakes,look at yours too and do something about them. You can't change her but you can change yourself,and when you do she'll love you more and that’s how to get ex girlfriend back and resume your relationship.

Show Some Tenderness To Get Lover Back

If your relationship ended badly, you may have to try some tenderness in order to get lover back. The end of your relationship may have resulted in a fight that caused emotional pain and a lot of hurt feelings. Maybe a tragedy happened to cause the breakup. A wrong may have been committed that ended in humiliation for the other party. Feelings were hurt and either party may still be feeling pain,if you want lover back,you will have to be gentle and work to heal the wounds.

You may have to look at yourself and the other party if you wish to get lover back. If you are not careful and do not handle things correctly, you may make the situation worse. It may be things that you do not even realize. Maybe the one you love is struggling and may be a little fragile.

Some things may not be a big deal for you, however for them they could be. Take a good look at yourself before you make an attempt at reconciliation.

You may have to seek relationship advice to find areas that you could improve on. You have to be willing to accept criticism and realize that they may be right. You will have to ask a complete stranger, "What can I work on so that I can get lover back?" Be ready for what they have to say. Will you be bothered when you hear what they say? It is possible but it will be good for you and may help you get lover back. Learn to be sensitive and take the advice you receive seriously.

Whatever your ex may be feeling, those feelings will be very real to them. You need to understand that their feelings can be deeply troubling and you should go to them with the intention of understanding. Do not react, when they get upset. Becoming emotional and fighting back will not help you get lover back. It will only drive a wedge between the two of you. You will have to help them heal and learn to nurture them. They will also need time and space and you will have to give that to them. A tender touch does not have to be physical. Just showing that you are there for them and showing you care can be more powerful.

There is a time when you need to knock some sense into a person and this is not that time. Tenderness and compassion will win this fight. Often when true love is involved you will be required respond and act in a manner that does not seem natural for you. If the relationship has deep meaning for you, then you will make adjustments accordingly. Tenderness may not be natural for you, however if you want to get lover back, you will learn.

How To Win Love Back For Good

Of the many people who have loved and lost, the predicament of how to win love back is a popular trend. Maybe you felt it was not the right time for your love to end. If your marriage or relationship failed you may want to try again. For some reason or another the love that was once there is gone.If you are not ready to let go then you may be wondering how to win love back. If you look at love as if it was a war then you will begin to understand how easy it is to lose the battle. Maybe you were winning your battles left and right and with a toss of a dime the tide has now turned on you.

At one point it appeared as if you would win the war and now it looks as if you will lose. If you are not ready to admit defeat or give up, then you need to fight. Many tears have likely fallen and if they were worth it then you need to find a way to win love back. It is a hard fight to win love back, however it can definitely be done. You should only continue to fight the battle if you are sure to win the war. Step back and look at the whole situation. Make sure the outcome will be best for you and the other party.

It may be best to cut your losses if it will not be a good situation. In any war a person has to better themselves if they wish to win. Look at the past and what has happened. What could you have done differently? Figure out what those things were. It is not likely that the one you love will go back to a situation that was lousy.

Change those things that are possible so that you will be who your love wants you to be. Be sure to ask for relationship advice you may be able to learn how to win love back. By asking for advice you will learn how to fight the war and win love back. You may also want to find out how to be a better friend and lover. Those are two important keys to having a better relationship.

Those two important keys are what you will need to know to win love back. You do not want your effort to be in vain. When you get back together, you want your relationship to be stronger than ever. You can do your part by being a better person and making yourself worth the risk. Learn to fight for your love and you will win love back for good.

How To Win Ex Back - Play To Win

What is the way to win ex back? Get your game on. Not to make light of the situation, but it really is like a competition. It is like a game, though a very important game.This may be the most important game of your life. The results will impact you directly for a long time. You have to believe that you can do this. This is something that you need to try and do. How to win ex back is to give it your all and do not hold back.

How to win your ex back is playing to win the game. Is getting your ex back especially important? Have you put much thought into it? How much time have you spent analyzing yourself and trying to make improvements in your short comings? In reality, unless you decide that it is a top priority, you may never know how to win back ex.

You are much more likely to see success if you treat it as if it is the most important thing in your life. When you seek advice about your relationship and need to know "how to win back ex" the advice you receive will not even matter unless you are positive that it is something you will be able to do. If you wish for your romance to return, then you must believe that you are able to do it. If you do not believe that you can win ex back, then why even bother playing the game? You must have confidence in your ability and believe that you deserve this happiness.If you strongly believe in yourself, you will find out how to win ex back.

If you feel your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend is worth the effort then it will be worth your effort to get them back. Would you like to know how to win ex back? You need to play the game! Do not sit around and think about it. You must do something! The greatest ideas in the world will be meaningless unless you put those ideas into practice. Knowing is half the battle and a half fought battle has never been won.

If you wish to get your ex back then you need to do something. The real way to win ex back is to jump in and fight with everything you have. Which ever strategy that you decide to use, do not mess around. Put in 100% effort and take it seriously. If you have an idea of what your ex wants then meet their needs. Find out what you must do and put your all into it. Getting your ex back can be a challenge, but it is something that you can accomplish.

How To Save Marriage - From Ending In Disaster

How to save marriage from ending can be stressful and a catastrophic situation. It could be hard to accomplish, but it can be done. Several times in life,terrible things will happen and sometimes stress is too much to bear. This is why it is important you know how to save marriage. The ability to know how to save marriage can result in something or an issue that has complicated the marriage and put a wall between the two spouses. Usually it happens after a death of a loved one such as a child. It could happen after a fatal car accident. Or perhaps because of some natural disaster no one was aware of. Illness could result in a marriage crisis as well.

You need to know how to save marriage from ending. First you need to grasp the concept that people tend to react differently to certain events. Obviously women and men will deal with things differently. Some people may detach themselves from their feelings while others are more obvious about how they feel. Grasping this and accepting it will help you in the long run and improve your ability on how to save marriage. It's ignorant to expect your spouse to react exactly like you.

Another thing you need to know is grief can bring out the worst in some people,and may reveal certain traits you didn't know about before. You need to have patience and understand why negativity can take over their personalities. But first you need to see how those changes effect you. Don't dismiss the behavior and avoid harmful behaviors,as these can put more of a strain on the situation.

Marriage counseling is needed if these problems effect you or your spouse. Marriage counselors are there to help you and your spouse through these hard times. Even if its a Christian Marriage or other marriage,people and places exist out there to help you and your love overcome any obstacles.

These suggestions could be useful and help you get through this hard time:

* Devote yourself to each other and commit to getting through this together.
* Support each other and try to understand where the both of you are coming from. When either of you are weak at some point,be there to help support them and even the load.
* Assemble your team to help support you. Close friends and family can help you out. None of you have to do this alone. Seek others who have had similar problems.
* Find reasons to smile or laugh again. Watch a movie that the both of you will enjoy. Or you could watch a comedy show on tv. Spend your time around positive people who you tend to have a good time with.Laughing is the cure to everything and it is uplifting.

No matter what the circumstance is, your marriage doesn't have to come to a screeching halt. Any difficulties overcome can make the bond between you stronger.

How To Get Ex Girlfriend Back From A Abusive Situation

Do you wonder how to get ex girlfriend back from an abusive situation? No matter what has to happen, it is important that she gets out of the situation. It can break your heart knowing that your ex girlfriend, whom you still love is with the entirely wrong person and in an abusive situation. No person deserves that.

You need help whether you are trying to get ex girlfriend back or just get her out of the bad situation. You have a decision to make. Which is more important? To save her from a horrible nightmare or to get ex girlfriend back. If it appears that you have her best interest at heart it will make a big difference. You will need to analyze what is motivating you so that you do not use this as an attempt to further your interest.

On the other hand, she may not want rescuing and you will have to accept that. Being a hero may go a long ways if you save her not only from an abusive situation but a life threatening one. It is a known fact that often a person who has been abused will go back to the abuser. If she knows that she can be safe with you she is less likely to return to the bad situation. First you need to let her know that she is safe with you. Hopefully you have proven that you can take care of her. If you did not do a very good job the first time, let her know that you are a changed person. She will need to know that she can depend on you and that you will be able to listen. Make her aware that she deserves much better. An abusive person likes to belittle the abused and make them feel as if they deserve the abuse. She may be suffering from low self esteem. You need to make her feel special.

You need to get ex girlfriend back because she deserves so much better. Your motivation for saving her should be apparent and will make it easier to get ex girlfriend back. You may compromise her safety if you make it blatantly apparent that you are trying to get ex girlfriend back. If the person abusing her gets suspicious that someone is trying to steal her away, the situation may turn even worse. An abuser can be a control freak and be very jealous.

When trying to get ex girlfriend back, you need to think of her safety. If you see your ex girlfriend in trouble, you should try to help. When someone is in need, it is easy to turn away. Your own life may get messy for a little while, however a lot of good can come of it. If your attempts are successful, you will get ex girlfriend back and save her life too.

I Still Love My Ex - Its On You

If you have been saying, "I still love my ex" then you need to know what you want to do. Residual love may be hanging on and that is perfectly natural. You shared special moments together and built up closeness. That closeness and the love you feel is not broken easily. Does the love that you still feel mean that you may want the one you love back?

What does it mean when you say, "I still love my ex?" When a person says "I still love my ex" that is actually a good sign that means that there truly was love at one point. That love is a gift that can't be easily taken from you. It is normal for love to still be there due to the many memories from your relationship. Many will be memories of good times. Because you may still feel love it does not necessarily mean that you should get back together. You should ask yourself,"I still love my ex, but do I want my ex back?" If you take the time and step back to think about it, you will be able to see if the two of you were meant to be.

If you find that you are saying,"I still love my ex" it may due to the lingering feelings of fondness and there should be no rush to go in any certain direction. You should go with the flow. One of two things will happen. You will either remain friends for a long time or drift apart. Being friends is something that few have and it's really quite special. Great friends are hard to find. If you are saying, "I still love my ex", and you really mean that you want to get back together with them, then you have some work to do. First you need to know if the other person has any interest in you still. As with the advice above, this should happen naturally. Do not push the issue one way or the other and you will be able to see if the feeling is mutual.

When both of you mutually agree to try again, you will need to be ready to work. If this was a failed marriage, you should seek a marriage counselor. It does not really matter what type of relationship that was failed, you should seek the advice of a relationship expert so that you can rebuild your relationship into a stronger union. It is obvious that mistakes were made and that the two of you were not capable of resolving them on your own. If you were already receiving counseling then change providers.

You will need a fresh start and should have help to make your relationship stronger. If you find that you are saying "Help! I still love my ex!" You do not need to panic. Let things take a natural course and then seek help to find the right path. Soon you will no longer be saying,"I still love my ex." Instead you will be saying "I am in love."

How To Win Ex Boyfriend Back With Dignity

When you want to win ex boyfriend back you may feel as if you have to lower yourself and lose your pride. Your pride may be hurt as it is, due to the breakup, however there is no need to damage your pride even more. You should be able to win ex boyfriend back and keep your dignity intact. You may feel that you have to beg him to come back, however there are other things you can do.

If you were the one that was dumped that may have hurt your self esteem. If you broke up with him, then you may feel you have to beg for forgiveness. That may not be what is needed to win ex boyfriend back. If you wish to rekindle your love, try to put the elements into place that drew you to each other in the beginning. Make yourself visible to him. Allow him to see that you are the same person that he once loved. If he does not take notice, it may not be such a bad thing after all. As the saying goes, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. If another horse is available, they may appreciate what you are offering.

If you are the one that did the breaking up and now you feel it was a mistake, be honest and let him know. Tell him that he has a right to be angry and that you do not expect him to come back to you. Let him know that whatever happens from this point on is fine with you. Let him know that you feel that you made a big mistake and apologize for hurting him. Ask for his forgiveness but do not beg.

Begging is not the way to win ex boyfriend back. Do not ask to get back together. Let him know that you are not expecting a second chance because you do not feel that you deserve one. However, do tell him that you wished that things had turned out different. Say what you need to and walk away. If he has any interest in you still, then let him be the one to make a move. It takes character and courage to admit that you made a mistake and the same amount to handle the consequence.

If he is truly special, he will take notice and will want to reunite. If the result is supposed to be marriage or a long term relationship, it will happen. The secret is to make him feel involved and as if he is the one doing the pursuing. You need to make him want you again. It may seem difficult and even humiliating but you should be reassured that there is a way to win ex boyfriend back and keep your dignity in the process.

How To Get Lover Back In Love With You

Usually the beginning of a love affair is the brightest of a romance. Things seem exciting and new and both lovers wonder if this is "the one".This period in the relationship is called the honeymoon. It never seems to last long enough. After a while something goes wrong and the other is asking how to get lover back in love.When reality sets in,you come to be disappointed and then realization that things are not as great as they seemed and this may not work out. The perfect relationship they thought they had at one time,is not as perfect as it was before.

Sometimes it takes years before they finally realize that the coals are now stone cold. Usually this is when the relationship is in danger of a break up or divorce.Some aren't willing to let that happen and they seek help. Getting advice on relationships from someone who has experienced the same problems may help you and your lover out. Ask a professional about how to to get lover back in love. You will most likely get advice such as communicate more often,go on vacation and maybe reminisce the past.

Communicate This really shouldn't be a new thing.Relationships are like a delicate balance.You both have to contribute or the relationship is going to fall apart. You don't need to have these long discussions about whats going or something that may start a fight between the two of you. Keep discussions small. Maybe even talk about your day. Ask open ended questions that require more than just a "yes" or "no" for an answer.

Go On Vacation With Each Other This can be a great bonding activity for the two of you. Perhaps you could try going somewhere where the both of you use to go earlier in the relationship,or maybe somewhere new. A short or long trip,it doesn't really matter.Either way good could come of it This is a great step towards acquiring information on how to get lover back and possibly your romance might re spark.

Reminisce The Old Times Why not take the walk down memory lane and think about all the things the two of you did in the past. Visit places that had a significant meaning when things were exciting and fresh. Play an old song or a movie that the two of you use to listen to and enjoy.

You could do more things however these are just a few of the basics in exploring your options on how to get lover back. In order for this to work,you will need to make everything seem like random events.

Seeking Guidance In Christian Marriage Counseling

Many couples who strive to follow God's will and seek His guidance will use Christian marriage counseling services when they are faced with difficulties in their marriage. When a marriage is going through difficulty a marriage counselor can be good for any type of couple. If you are a Christian then it would be beneficial to seek marriage counseling from someone that has the same beliefs as you do. The problem with your marriage may be an inability to relate to one another. Or there could be more serious issues such as lying, pornography, or adultery.

For whatever reason, it is extremely important to seek the advice of a counselor so that you may help yourself to help your marriage. A secular marriage counselor may give good advice, however it may not be guidance that comes from the word of God. There are numerous choices in counseling that you could turn to before you end up divorced. The best way to avoid divorce is Christian marriage counseling. Most churches have family and marriage counselors on their staff and some may even have a counseling center. Many types of counseling services may be offered, but Christian marriage counseling is what you need. They will be able to help solve problems with your marriage and strengthen your marriage and your relationship with God.

A decent Christian marriage counseling program will be able to help you and your spouse become closer as well as draw both of you closer to God. With the help of the marriage counselor your priorities will become apparent once again, and as a couple you will be able to focus on the things that are important to both of you. If you are having problems in your marriage, it is very important that you not hesitate in seeking help. It will be harder to fix your problems, the longer you wait. This is not the time to be in denial. It is important to get your marriage back on track and Christian marriage counseling can help with that.

The most difficult thing for you will be convincing your spouse that counseling will help your troubled marriage. You may even have to seek the advice from a counselor on how to get your spouse to go to counseling sessions. Either way, there is a lot at risk. During counseling some issues may come up that are not comfortable to talk about, however facing the problem and talking about it will help. You may need to learn humility as you could be the source of some of the marriage issues. If you are a Christian and having marriage difficulties then a Christian marriage counseling program could be your saving grace.

How To Get Ex Girlfriend Back Easily

How to get ex girlfriend back all depends on the circumstances. Who left who? Did she leave you? Or did you leave her? What was the reason for breaking up? How is it the romance came to a grinding halt? Why did the relationship end?And what do you want to do about it?

If it was she who left you,how to get ex girlfriend back is to find out what it was that she didn't like about you that caused her to break up with you. Was it because you treated her poorly? Maybe it was because you didn't deserve her or thought you didn't,so you need to make some new choices. The choices wont be simple. This is a great time to put yourself under the magnifying glass and think about the way you appear to others.

What did she complain about before she left you? Review those complaints and maybe ask others if they agree. How will you ever get ex girlfriend back if you don't want to take the extra step to get her back.

Or did you leave her? Maybe you made the mistake of letting her go and you want to get her back,you just need to realize how bad you hurt her. You need to find out if she hates you because of what you did. Maybe she needs a little time away. Let her have some time alone. You shouldn't be too far away but you shouldn't stalk her either.

You need to prove to her that you made a mistake in dumping her and you won't do it again. The best way to accomplish this is to give her the space and gain her trust back slowly. You made a mistake,and as with every mistake you now have to deal with the consequence. If she's worth it to you,you'll do it.

If the relationship didn't hit it off because it dissolved,let her know you want to get back with her. She needs to know she's special and you are willing to work hard to get back with her. If she believes you and you'll work hard she may get back with you without any further convincing and she'll be back in your arms.

The best way of how to get ex girlfriend back is to be honest and open in communication,don't lie or cheat. Don't just look at her mistakes,look at yours too and do something about them. You can't change her but you can change yourself,and when you do she'll love you more and that’s how to get ex girlfriend back and resume your relationship.

After Relationships Help - Do And Dont Do

If you're reading this article, I guess you've just got out of a relationship. It doesn't matter if it was a mutual decision, your decision or if the decision was made for you, it's still a very difficult thing to go through. Most of us would like to end the suffering and pain (and maybe guilt) as soon as possible but many people turn to the wrong things and the wrong people to help them get over a breakup. Avoid making the mistakes that will only add to your pain in the long run, use these after relationships help tips so you can move on quickly and with your dignity.

When it comes to handling a breakup there are two distinct lists you need to follow: a list of what to do and a list of what not to do. If you follow both lists you can move on a lot easier. Here are the dos and don'ts:

DO:

Enjoy yourself. Have fun (as much as possible at least). Even though it may seem impossible if you surround yourself with a good group of friends you can actually have a little fun during this time, you just have to let yourself. Allow yourself to be distracted and don't hang on to your pain, try to learn to let it go or at least learn to put it (and leave it) in the back of your mind. Spending time with your pals doing fun things can help you accomplish that goal.

Go for that makeover you've been thinking about. Now is a great time to focus on you in a positive way. It may be time to get n shape, move, learn a new skill, take up a new hobby, get some new clothes, or just get a new hairstyle. It doesn't have to be big it just needs to be something that will make you feel more positive about yourself and the future and give you a reason to smile.

Only allow yourself to think about your relationship from the standpoint of what you can learn from your mistakes. This is not the time to wallow and obsess over every conversation and all the endless what ifs. This is the time to analyze what went wrong and what you can do in your next relationship to make sure you don't repeat the same mistakes. This may mean that you redefine the type of person you become involved with in the first place.


DON'T:

Don't try to talk your ex into getting back with you. Even if there is a chance that the two of you can reconcile some day, you need to give things time so you can be sure you are getting back together for the right reasons and not just because you're afraid of being lonely. Give it time.

Don't rewind every conversation and every comment to death. As I said above, any time you think of your relationship it should be from the standpoint of what can I do better next time and not what should I have done differently this time.

Don't hook up with everyone you find. That is not fair to you or the new person in your life. They don't deserve to feel like they are second string just because you are hurting. Just keep your social interactions restricted to family and friends and put the romance on hold for a while.

In all aspects of life we can be challenged to find the right path and to do the right things. This is very true when it comes to finding constructive things to do to help you move on after relationships end. By following the simple common sense advice above you will greatly improve your chances of moving on more quickly, with less pain, and with less baggage. Don't make things harder than they already are, use your head while your heart is mending.

What To Do After Relationship Has Ended

If you and your ex have parted ways and you're not sure what to do now after relationship is over, I've got a few ideas. Losing a loved one can really send your world into a tailspin. It can be especially bad if there was infidelity or you were blindsided and didn't see it coming. No one and nothing can completely take away the pain, only time can do that, but there are many things that you can do that will help you focus your time and attention onto more positive things rather than just focusing on your pain. Keeping your focus forward instead of backward can at least make it seem like you are healing more quickly.

The things that you absolutely, positively should not do after a breakup are:

1. Go out and drink ( or do drugs) and stay in a stupor for days or weeks on end. This won't help anyone.

2. Go out and hook up with anyone you can find. Again, this may help ease the pain but it will only make you feel worse once your on your own again.

3. Try to beg your ex to take you back. If it's over, it's over. Nothing you can do and if your ex isn't interested in a reconciliation, there's nothing you should do. Hold your head up and move on.

Now that you know what not to do, here are some things that you should do. Again, these can help ease the pain but in a positive way that won't leave you with a lot of regrets:

1. Spend time with supportive, positive people. No one is suggesting that you start dating, you shouldn't, but that doesn't mean you can't go out for lunch, coffee or to the movies with your friends so you don't sit at home and wallow. Having loving supportive people around will help, even if it doesn't feel like it at the time. Keep your alone time to a minimum in the beginning.

2. When you are alone, and thinking about the past, make sure to use this as a constructive time. Don't just think about the 'what ifs' instead try to figure out what changes you can make to make yourself a better person. This will pay dividends in all aspects of your life, not just your romantic life (which believe it or not, isn't over, it's just on a little break).

3. Work on you. If you've been meaning to change your hairstyle, go on a trip, take a class, or get in shape, what are you waiting for? This is a great time to take on some positive new challenges in your life. It will force you to think about the future and not dwell on the past.

4. Always try (no matter how hard it can be sometimes) to keep yourself focused on the positive. Try to look at your future as a wide open canvas that you can create anything you want. If you can train yourself to think like this the breakup won't seem as painful and you may even find yourself enthusiastic about the possibilities the future holds.

Hey, let's face it, break ups suck. There's no way around it. But we will all go through it at one time or another so anything that you can use to help get over it more quickly and move on with your life is a God send. Just use these tips on the do's and don'ts of what to do after relationship has ended and you'll be on the right track.