To Get Back With Ex Face Up To Your Mistakes

To get back with ex after you have made mistakes, means you are without doubt going to have to face a few difficult home truths! As sure as eggs is eggs making mistakes in relationships means you've to fix them and apologize for those mistakes before there can be any making up.

When you decide you want to get back with ex, you must be ready to face not only what has failed with the relationship, but also your part in the break down of the relationship. If you made mistakes then do not beat yourself up for that. We all make them, it is what you do after the mistake that's of import.

So sit on your own and take some time to go through what happened and what were the issues that led up to what happened. Do not concern yourself too much with what you see as your ex's mistakes, leave that for the future. Just concern yourself right now with what you are able to influence.

Whatever mistakes you find in your past behaviour, can they be forgiven? Do not be too eager to get down on yourself and believe that your mistakes are essentially unforgivable. You'd be astonished at the situations that couples find themselves in and that they later recover from. So do not think that your mistakes are beyond forgiveness. There's always hope!

Try and pin point what was happening in your life at the time that led you to make the mistakes, particularly if it was completely out of character for you. Remember what I said about facing hard truths, if you want to get back with ex, then you need to do this.

You may discover that you were under certain strains and stresses. Maybe you were under threat at your job? Or you were not physically feeling yourself? Or maybe there were other family issues. Whatever you find when you review what took place, you'll eventually need to sit down with your ex and explain in detail just what you've ascertained.

If your mistakes were the result of you merely being uncaring or selfish, then this is something about you and your character that can rather easily be fixed. It will take ongoing supervising but if you're truly committed to get back with ex, then it's going to be worthwhile.

When you've come to the point where you've begun to gain perspective about your mistakes, then call your ex and arrange to meet. It's typically better to arrange a face to face meeting someplace public and neutral because then there's less chance of either of you getting emotional.

So, make certain that you stay calm and centered on what you want to say. Apologize and ask for forgiveness and then listen carefully to what your ex has to say.