Tuesday, May 19, 2009

How To Deal With Relationships Depression

Relationships depression is pretty common when you are in a relationship that's lately had problems like a break up or separation. You may feel that it is crazy to feel this way, because you have saved the relationship and are still together. You are supposed to feel happy, not suffering from relationships depression.

But it is fairly common because no matter how good the relationships may be going now you recently had a rough patch. If your biggest fear then was that you'd lose the other individual, you should be happy, right? You are still together. So why the relationships depression?

Experiencing that rocky period could be devastating. You feel all sorts of emotions. If cheating was involved, the break up or cooling off period was probably even worse. If you were cheated on, you know there's nothing more painful that could happen over the course of a relationship.

And if you were cheating on and you forgave that person to stay in the relationship, it is going to take some time to fully mend. No wonder you feel depressed! You are putting yourself out there once again after being hurt.

If you cheated and the other individual forgave you, perhaps you feel depressed since you hurt them and its just now sinking in? Or possibly you feel hounded, as if he or she suspects your every move? You likewise may be unhappy because perhaps you actually did not want to stay in the relationship and you are only now becoming aware of it.

If no cheating was involved, depression can still strike and make you feel bad. For whatever reason, you or your partner were not together, or were considering breaking up. That’s a difficult pill to swallow!

You are faced with recognising that possibly the other person was going to choose to live without you. Even though in the end they chose to stay with you, that they were considering something else is a painful thing!

And sometimes relationships depression is induced by fear. When things were over or just about over, you felt horrible. And you remember that feeling now. You could imagine, without actually knowing it, how you would have felt if the relationship hadn't gotten back together.

The fear of that happening now or what you'd be feeling now if it had could make you depressed. That's a natural reaction.

And overall, a break up is one of the most painful things an individual can go through, regardless what the reason. Even if you did not formally split, things were tense enough that the possibility was there. When a relationship ends, you experience the same thought processes and emotions as you do with any painful ending, like a death.

So it is a very hard life challenge to have a break up or a near break up. It is good that you have worked it out and gotten back together. Just stay strong in the relationship. Make certain that’s where you genuinely want to be, and the relationships depression will pass.

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