To Win Back An Ex Avoid Making These Two Mistakes

Why is it occasionally so hard to win back an ex? Without doubt you have tried your best to get your love back, but everything you have tried so far has ended in failure and now you are desperate and frustrated.

Well the real answer of why it is hard to win back an ex is truly two fold. The first point is that once you have been dumped by somebody you are still in love with the balance of power straightaway shifts their way. The second point is that most people have no real idea what to do to successfully get back with somebody they love and wind up spending a good deal of time racing around doing all the wrong things.

Reality is, once your ex has the upper hand in a relationship you can find yourself forever trying to catch up to them and both of you know it. If your ex knows that you want them back frequently they'll make you work to get them back and they'll frequently enjoy the drama of putting you through getting them back. Simply put, they've something that you desperately want and boy do they know it.

To win back an ex then, play it cool! You do not have to declare immediately to your ex that you want them back. You simply keep that intention to yourself and make every effort to distance yourself from them.

If you are reading this because you feel you know that your love is about to break up with you, then when the break up comes agree to it calmly and rationally and let them go. Do not give them a clue that you desperately want them to stay.

When they have gone, work at keeping yourself busy and occupied with other things that are not centered around your ex and your relationship. Do not make yourself readily available to them to chat or do favors for them. If they call, be civil, chat for a few minutes, but make it clear you are busy and have places to go.

Here's a warning for you! A lot of people faced with trying to distance themselves from their exs merely can not do it! They erroneously believe that if they run around doing favors for their exs that their ex will see them as somebody they need. They believe they'll be able to prove and show their exs how much they love them by being there for them! Wrong! This rarely works because all that happens is that the ex either gets fed up with them hanging around in their life or the ex will start to take advantage. So do not fall into that trap!

Keep your distance and what will begin to happen is that you'll feel the power naturally swing your way and you'll be in a far better position to win back ex.