Do You Need Space In A Relationship

How much space in a relationship is essential? The answer depends a good deal on the type of relationship it is, and each individual in it. A few people do better when they are together constantly, and other people crave more of their own space in a relationship.

The hard part is finding a happy medium that both people are comfortable with. This is made harder when you each have very different ideas about togetherness and space. But as long as you are able to compromise on the level of space in a relationship that you both need, then you are able to work through this challenge.

A few people do not like to be alone. They are much happier spending all their time with coworkers, friends, family and their partner. When they are alone and doing things on their own they feel a bit lost and lonely.

Others cherish their alone time. Without a little solitude day-to-day they feel burdened and have a hard time relaxing. They feel that they always have to be “up” or “on” for others when they are around them, and it can be exhausting.

Those are two extremes, naturally. There are also many people who fall somewhere in the middle. They love the time they spend with their partner, but they likewise want some me-time to balance it out and recharge.

If both of you fall into that happy medium, then defining your space in a relationship should be pretty easy. And if you each fall into the same extreme group, where you both need lots of space or you both dislike being alone, things are made easier, too.

The problems come when one has a very different idea than the other .If you love your aloneness and your partner hates being alone, you really need to talk and set some boundaries. Each needs to understand the other people viewpoint so you are able to come up with a compromise that makes you both feel your needs are met.

If you love being alone daily for a while and your partner craves company 24/7, here’s the problem. When you say you need space in a relationship and go off on your own, your mate will feel neglected as though you do not want to be around because of them.

And if you hate being alone and your partner really wants some me-time, then by hanging around constantly you can begin to make your partner feel smothered. Your partner may also think that there is no trust there, and you will not give him or her private time because you are afraid of what he or she may do when you’re not around.

You can see how both of these situations may quickly cause problems in a relationship. But if you talk to one another truthfully and openly about how you feel, then when you need time your partner will understand why.

And when he or she hangs around when you would rather be alone, you recognize that he or she does not need the same sort of space in a relationship that you do.