Friday, January 14, 2011

I Want My Husband To Love Me Again - How Can I Make It Happen

Dating! Relationships! Marriage! Your response to those three words says a lot about the things you have been through in life. The truth is that all relationships have their ups and downs, but if your marriage is ending, or about ready to end, then you may be telling yourself, "I want my husband to love me again." If so, then you should know that you are not alone. A lot of women have gone through what you're going through, and they were able to get their husbands to love them again.

So, that all sounds well and good, but there is something you have to do before you do anything else. And that is to determine if he has really stopped loving you or not. See, a lot of times we will make assumptions based on how our spouse is acting. But we need to remember that people change. Maybe your husband has changed and loves you less than he used to, or you may be the one who has changed and he still loves you as much as ever. You have to be sure of his feelings before you move on to the next steps.

If the two of you are still together, then it makes sense that there must be some love left. Even if it's only a tiny amount, it is something that you can build on. It won't be easy, but it is possible. If you have gone through a divorce or separation, then it will be harder, but it can still be done as long as you are willing to do whatever it takes.

Assuming he has fallen out of love with you, you have to get to the root of the problem. This can be harder than it sounds because we often think we know the problem, but that's usually only what's on the surface. For example, if you feel he doesn't love you anymore because he says mean things when you argue, then you are only seeing the symptoms of the real problem, not the cause. Perhaps he is jealous because you are spending more time with the kids and he's feeling as though you don't love him as much as you used to. Whatever the case may be, you have to find the real problem before you can fix it.

Once you have figured out the real problem, you have to do two different things. First, you need to fix it to the extent of your ability. Keep in mind, though, that the only person you can change is you. So only change those things that you have control over and then move on to the second part of the process. Second, you need to talk to your husband about what you have discovered. Let him know the changes you have made, or are willing to make, and help him to talk about what he's feeling, too. Doing these things means you can feel more confident of a positive outcome when you say "I want my husband to love me again."

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