I can't even begin to guess how many books, and articles have been written on the subject of how to win love back. I imagine the number would be well into the thousands. The point is, that finding a way to reconcile with someone you love and lost is a common problem that many people would love to have the answer for.
You can take heart, no matter how impossible it may seem to win your love back, there is always a chance that they feel the same way you do.
Since I don't know you or the circumstances surrounding your breakup, I can only offer some good, general advice. Hopefully you will find something here that will allow you to find a way to reunite with your love.
If your breakup is recent, you need to leave your ex alone for a while. I know, I know, this sounds like impossible advice to follow (not to mention painful) but if your ex broke up with you it is really important to give them some space.
If you just go chasing after them one of two things will happen: one, they will think you are totally whipped and they will keep you hanging on indefinitely to feed their ego, or two, they will become freaked out by your behavior and consider you a pathetic (or possibly dangerous) stalker.
You don't want your ex thinking of you in these ways. It will not bode well for any future relationship.
Another good reason to give it some time is that you can make some changes in your behavior. Even if you were not to blame for the breakup you still are not perfect... no one is.
So, if you find yourself single for a little while, why not spend some time improving on who you are. That way the next time you enter into a relationship (hopefully when you get back with your ex) you will be bringing an even better version of yourself to the relationship.
While you are giving your ex some cooling off time, why not spend some time with some old friends that you have not had a lot of time to see lately? This will have two benefits, for one thing it will help you keep your mind off of your ex, and two, you will just be able to have a little fun. That never hurt anyone, did it?
After a few weeks have gone by it may be a good time to talk to your ex. Call them and ask them if they would like to go out for dinner, lunch or coffee. It doesn't really matter.
Do yourself a favor and don't come on too strong. If you act like your date will just be some big 'let's get back together' time they might get scared off. Keep it light and easy.
And last but not least, you have to face the very real possibility that they won't want to get back with you. You should do everything you can but you must be willing to walk away if they say they are not interested in getting back together.
There are no guarantees in life but if you try, you might just be able to learn how to win love back. It is possible, good luck.
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I have a friend in this kind of situation right now. I'll have to pass this on to her.
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