I Lost Love - Wait - Dont Give Up

When the reality hits and you find yourself saying "I lost love" it can hit you like a ton of bricks. I know when you come to that realization it can feel like life simply is not worth living anymore and it may seem like you will never feel happiness again. I think most of us have been at that point before.

Don't give up though, no matter how impossible it may seem that you will be happy again, you can be. I am not saying that it will be easy or that you won't go through a lot of pain... you will. I am just saying that you can find love and happiness again and the better you deal with your breakup the faster you may recover from it.

I am not an expert but I have been through it before and I may be able to offer you a little advice. Here are some ideas I have used myself to help me get over my pain as quickly as possible. Some of my ideas may just help you.

1. Give yourself as much time as you need. I remember that once I heard someone say that you should allow yourself to grief over your lost love for one week for every year the two of you were together. Personally, I think that is the dumbest thing I have ever heard.

There is no formula for determining how long it will take you to feel like you have moved on and can be happy again. Everyone is different and every relationship is different. For the most part, it will take as long as it takes.

I do have to say one thing though, if you find that you simply don't seem to be bouncing back even a little bit after several months, you may be suffering from depression and you may need a little extra help to get back to your old self. If that is the case, find a counselor who can help you out, you don't need to suffer unnecessarily.

2. While you are healing, be kind to yourself. Allow yourself to enjoy the things that made you feel good before (as long as they are positive things). If you used to enjoy hanging out with your friends, than hang out with your friends.

If you used to enjoy working out then workout. Just spend your time and energy engaging in positive things that make you feel good about yourself and life in general.

If you forget about your pain for a little while than that is just a bonus.

3. If you have been planning on doing something such as take a class or go on vacation, do it now. It may be just the thing you need to keep your mind active. While it will take you as long as it takes you to move on, there is no one to say that you have to stay inside your home dwelling on your pain the whole time.

Most of us have, or will, say the words "I lost love" at some point in our lives. It is a rotten thing to go through, but how we handle it can help determine how soon we will be able to move on and find love again.