What Are The Most Effective Get Him Back Secrets

If you are going through a breakup that you do not want you may be wondering how you are able to get back with your ex. Are there truly any "get him back secrets" and if so, what are they?

If you're seeking some relationship secrets I have got good news and I have got bad news.

The bad news is that there aren't, at least as far as I have ever heard, any secret techniques to get back with your ex. There are no secret potions or love spells or magic tricks that will bring your ex back crawling on his hands and knees just pleading with you to take him back.

The good news is that you do not need secrets. All you need is an easy to follow, simple step by step "road map" that you are able to use to reconcile with your ex. If you find a good plan and follow it, even though it might be difficult occasionally to stick to, the results that you get may have you believing that it was magical after all!

If you really want to get back with your ex the first thing you need to do, even though this is going to sound weird, is to stop talking to him. If you're constantly contacting him this will likely backfire for a couple of reasons:

1) He will not be able to miss you. You want him to begin to doubt his decision to end the relationship. He needs to miss the times you spent together and the things you did. If you are constantly trying to contact him how can he miss you?

2) If you will not leave him alone you're just becoming an annoyance. That is not how you want him to think of you, is it?

Another thing you have to avoid is the tendency to want to fix the relationship and change yourself so he will come back. While it's important for you to understand what qualities you have that may need some work, you should never change who you are just to accommodate somebody else.

If the two of you aren't compatible then it is time for you to move on, regardless how painful it might be. It is simply not healthy for you to reinvent yourself for every relationship you have and it's a great way to find yourself in one abusive relationship after another.

And last, but not least, communicate. That does not mean cry, nag, beg or threaten. That means to have an adult conversation where you can openly and honestly explain to him how you are feeling. It's also important that you let him tell you how he is feeling also. This isn't the time to get angry or upset over what he tells you. This needs to be a 'safe zone' for both of you to honestly express yourself.

If you think that your relationship truly is worth saving and you want " get him back secrets" than follow the list above. This is an truthful and proven way to reconcile with your love.