It is a classic and tragic story. Boy meets girl, boy loses girl, boy just wants girl back. It is so common that you could place an ad in the local paper: "ex girlfriend wanting to get back, please help."
Even though it happens daily that does not make it any easier when it is you that's going through it. It's still painful and it still sucks.
You do not need to give up though. There are a a couple of things you are able to do that will make things easier, make you a better man and perhaps help you get your ex girlfriend back also.
1) The first thing you want to do is cease and desist all calls, texts, e-mails, etc. It will be one of the most difficult things you have ever done but you have to stop chasing her. Think about it for a minute. When somebody is chased what do they do? That's right, they run. You do not want to push her further away from you. Back off and give her some space.
Remember, no one likes a weak, whiny, insecure person. That's just not a turn on. Your ex is no different. Do not cling or you'll only push her further away.
2) Have fun. I know that this sounds like absurd advice, but it is important. It sort of relates to step 1. Go out with friends and try to live everyday to the fullest. If you are able to do this you'll benefit in a few ways.
For one thing she will hear about all the fun you are having and she will begin to miss the fun the two of you used to have. She will also think of why she fell in love with you to begin with.
It will also help you to keep your mind off of your ex for a little while. That is a great way to keep from going crazy during this hard time.
A word of caution though: do not use this step as a pathetic and childish attempt to make her jealous. That is very immature and does not work. If you truly care about your ex and you want her back you should avoid stupid, destructive and childish games. No good relationship can ever be built on those traits.
3) Try to communicate with her. Do not argue, or badger. Just talk...and listen. This isn't about being right, it is about trying to truly understand where the other person is coming from. This is a time to put your ego on hold.
If you feel like you should place an ad in your local paper that says: "ex girlfriend wanting to get back" than you're pretty serious about getting your ex back. Follow the simple tips I have listed here and you have a much better shot at making that happen. And you can save the money on the ad!
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