Tuesday, June 9, 2009

Save Your Marriage Infidelity Doesnt Have To Mean The End

Of all the things that may tear apart a marriage, infidelity is one of the greatest reasons. Extramarital affairs are a betrayal of all the things that marriage is supposed to be about. A marriage is supposed to be a union of two lives, two people bonded together for a lifespan, and breaking that bond is among the hardest things to get over.

In a marriage, infidelity Is not just what takes place when someone starts a physical relationship outside of the marriage. Infidelity could also be emotional, when one of the partners in a marriage starts to share their life with somebody outside the marriage.

This is called emotional infidelity, and it has become an even more serious problem in the last few decades. One of the reasons for this is because workplaces, one of our prime social engagements in present time, have become increasingly more mixed.

In addition to that it's even easier to communicate with people on the sly. E-mail and instant messaging and texting have all made it easier to bond with people that you should not be bonding with. While this is not the cause of emotional infidelity, it's a factor.

Simultaneously, physical infidelity has likewise become easier. We spend more time apart than we once did, and it's not at all rare to spend the bulk of time at work, which gives us a very handy excuse when we make the decision to cheat in our marriage. Infidelity is an option, make no mistake about that.

But the thing to remember is that all of these things are excuses and chances, not reasons. Changing the excuses will not change the marriage, will not solve anything. But that does not mean that you can not overcome cheating in marriage. Infidelity is a big problem, but it's not an insurmountable one.

The very first thing you need to do is to work out what went wrong in your marriage. Infidelity is not something that takes place in a vacuum; there's always a reason when things like that take place. Something has broken in your relationship and it needs to be fixed in order to get past the cheating.

You need to make certain that you do not blame the other individual. Yes, they cheated on you. No, it was not your fault. But you need to move past it, because playing the blame game will only delay the sort of emotional healing that needs to happen. You need to, as best you are able to, put it all behind you.

Once you have determined why and begin to work on it, you need to reestablish the trust in the marriage. Infidelity ruins trust, and it is going to be hard to fixing what was been broken. You need to work on rebuilding the trust. Do not expect it to take place immediately, and do not expect it to be simple.

But if you are able to follow these steps, you can save your marriage. Infidelity is terrible, but every relationship can be repaired. You just need to be willing to find the advice and the assistance you need to repair your relationship.

2 comments:

  1. How trivial traits may derail even the most beautiful of relationships is subtle and unexpected. The results, however, may be explosive and catastrophic. This scenario is not uncommon; it is endemic to our modern society. As a family physician, I see the consequences and regrets daily. The question is how can couples avoid what they really do not want?
    Perhaps, the best way to prevent infidelity would be to step into the future and look back. This is of course impossible, but seeing so many people who have allowed their relationships to slip away and are left suffering with their regrets, I undertook writing a novel to illustrate this exact problem. So many couples will be able to identify themselves and hopefully gain insight into their own lives and avoid disaster.
    http://www.strategicbookpublishing.com/InfidelitysFool.html
    Mannie Magid

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  2. How trivial traits may derail even the most beautiful of relationships is subtle and unexpected. The results, however, may be explosive and catastrophic. This scenario is not uncommon; it is endemic to our modern society. As a family physician, I see the consequences and regrets daily. The question is how can couples avoid what they really do not want?
    Perhaps, the best way to prevent infidelity would be to step into the future and look back. This is of course impossible, but seeing so many people who have allowed their relationships to slip away and are left suffering with their regrets, I undertook writing a novel to illustrate this exact problem. So many couples will be able to identify themselves and hopefully gain insight into their own lives and avoid disaster.
    http://www.strategicbookpublishing.com/InfidelitysFool.html
    Mannie Magid

    ReplyDelete