Can I Stop My Divorce

Can I stop my divorce? Have you been asking yourself that question of late? It is a difficult question to answer because every situation is so different. In a lot of cases, “Can I stop my divorce?” can be answered, “Yes, for at least a while.”

Divorce lawyers do a booming business. Over one-half of marriages end in divorce. Have you ever questioned why that number is so high? Is it because too many couples get married too quickly before they truly know what they are getting into? Are they asking, “Can I stop my divorce?” practically before the last piece of wedding cake is wrapped?

Are people marrying too young? These things may seem like pat answers, but when you consider that many couples who have been married for 20, 30 and 40 years are getting divorced also, that seems to eliminate the more frivolous marriages and divorces like those we see among starlets and stars.

No, generally when you wonder, “Can I stop my divorce?” It isn't because you married too young or because you are in a marriage that was doomed from the beginning. It is just that you have grown apart from your spouse.

On the one hand that’s good. It means you have grown, and normally a married person needs to be in a caring, nurturing marriage to grow. On the other hand it is all too easy to grow in such a way that we feel a little isolated from our spouse, as if they do not know a certain part of us that we may like to keep private.

When one spouse grows and takes on new interests, it could cause that disconnect between the spouses. Occasionally there is jealousy and envy that a spouse is succeeding while the other feels inadequate or cheated in some manner. Marriage counseling is the suggested treatment for such feelings.

Until or rather than counseling, though, you are able to try to take an interest in something that your spouse does apart from you. You will quickly discover if the gap between your activities is the trouble. If your partner Is not thrilled about your interest, then let it go. He or she considers that particularly activity to be me time for them.

Then again, if your partner seems very enthusiastic about you getting involved, perhaps that was part of the problem all along. He or she wanted to include you but did not know how to go about it, or did not think you'd be interested.

Show genuine interest and ask questions without overdoing it unless you're truly excited by the topic. Engage your spouse in conversation about the interest. Be affectionate as you are talking by putting a hand on his/her arm or shoulder.

Since you’re wondering, “Can I stop my divorce?” You are going to want to do everything you are able to get to things on your side. You are in rescue mode, so regardless how disinterested you may be in your partners hobby, do not let it show.

And while you are wondering, “Can I stop my divorce?” Do not forget that your spouse may turn around and ask you about your hobby, also.