Help I Want My Husband Back

Do you tell people, “I want my husband back?” It is not rare to want your husband back after you break up, regardless how bad things were whilst you were together. So before you absolutely resolve that yes, “I want my husband back,” you should think long and hard about the way things were before you split up.

Think about how come you split up to begin with. Was it your fault, his, or both your faults? Occasionally it is difficult to tell whose fault it was because so many little things seemed to contribute to the break up.

If there is no apparent reason like one of you had an affair or in some manner betrayed the other, then there’ s a better chance that your mantra of, “I want my husband back” will work out!

If there was an affair or a very big and hurtful problem like that, getting back together will be more of a challenge. But you can still do it, if you both want it and you both work hard at it. If you both do not want it, it is pretty improbable that it will happen.

Have you asked your husband if he is interested in getting back together? Do you even know his feelings about it? You may be surprised to find that while you are saying, “I want my husband back!” He isn't that desperate to get back into the relationship.

That does not mean that he does not care about you, incidentally. Just that something in the relationship was not right for him and he is no longer afraid to admit that. As bad as that sounds, it does not mean that the relationship can not be fixed.

If you are able to get him on board and willing to try a few of these techniques, try reading a book about marriage problems aloud to one another over breakfast or in the evening prior to bed. If you are reading it simultaneously, then it is easier for you to talk about what you have just read while it is all fresh on your mind.

Do not be upset or alarmed if he does not have any interest in going to counseling. While this does make it more difficult to get your man back, it may still be done. You can go to the counseling on your own and learn the formulas you need to communicate with him the right way.

You can teach him these techniques, either overtly (here, let me show you) or covertly, by simply using them every time you interact. Even if he has no interest in learning anything you learned in class, the very act of doing the exercises yourself may give you a sense of power you did not have earlier.

Going to the counseling could make you feel like you've some power in the relationship, and can influence it either for the better or the worse. And since you are solo with the counselor you are able to discuss some private issues that bother you, also. Before long, “I want my husband back” may turn into, “I got my husband back.”