When you first met this man of your dreams the passion was like nothing you had ever experienced before. You just could not get enough of each other. You spent every waking moment together and never spent more than a day or two apart. You thought it would be like that forever, didn't you? Now you are wondering how to get your husbands attention back.
The first thing you need to do is to sit down and talk to him face to face. Find out if there is anything wrong in his life. He may just be so stressed out at work that he can no longer see that which is right in front of his face, namely, you.
There are many reasons the passion goes out of a relationship. Every day life gets in the way more often than not, then you start having kids and they take up most of your time and unless you have made sure that the two of you spend at least a little quality time together every week then you tend to drift apart and lose your way back to each other.
All is not lost forever though, you can find your way back to being happy and content in your relationship. All you need to do is reacquaint yourselves with each other and treat this as turning a page in your relationship and start fresh.
If things have gone from bad to worse you could both start seeing a marriage counselor. A good counselor can help you wade through all the muck that has come between you and your spouse. Once your work through everything then you can work on your husbands attention span.
The counselor will probably tell you to make a specific day and time of the week to go out on a date and do all you can to never waiver from that day and time. If you miss even one for any reason the whole reconnecting may fail. Keep your personal lives separate from work or the kids or anything else that has ever gotten in the way of the two of you spending time together.
Plan one weekend every couple of months to get away so the two of you can spend some time alone and de-stress, get to know each other again.
If the kids are all grown and you two do not know what to do when you are by yourselves anymore. Try enrolling at the local community college and taking that class you've been meaning to take while he goes out and plays poker with the guys or watches the game and has a few beers.
Start working out to improve your body and mind. Exercise will help you feel better about yourself and if you look and feel better your husband may see the change and like what he sees.
This will at least give the two of you something more to talk about and you can slowly get back to being a couple and commanding all of your husbands attention from now on.
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