If you are tired of running away from commitment but do not know where to start to fix your problem there are many things you can do to help yourself. You can overcome your fear and learn to have love in your life.
If you are one of those people who enter into a relationship with good intentions and feel that this time you will make a commitment and then once that decision is made you turn right around and start doing all those things you used to do that will sabotage the relationship you are in.
Why you do these things you have no idea. But it has cost you the love of several women and now is the time to work things out so you do not spend your life all alone.
The first thing you need to do is some soul searching and try to figure out why you react the way you do. Maybe you got hurt in a previous relationship and subconsciously think that if you ruin the relationship that you can't or won't get hurt ever again.
That is all well and good, but where has that gotten you so far? So, try to figure out why you behave the way you do and this can be the first stepping stone in figuring all the rest out, too.
Never be afraid to ask for help. If the problem is too big for you to handle on your own go find someone to talk to, a professional if need be. A good relationship counselor can help you work through any and all insecurities you have so you can learn to have good relationships with the opposite sex.
Maybe control is your issue. If you are a control freak then entering into a relationship can be a scary thing because you have to be out of control when you are falling in love. Maybe it is the love itself that scares you. Love is scary but you can learn to revel in it and not sabotage every relationship.
Your counselor may have you start keeping a journal. Writing down our feelings can be a great help in overcoming them. When you see them on paper somehow they take on a different quality and do not seem so huge. When you write things down they seem easier to handle and may even start to seem somewhat trivial.
You may fond that you laugh at yourself when you get things all down on paper because these things will now seem so stupid to you. writing them down and looking them over may be the best thing you need to do to overcome your fears.
Commitment does not have to be scary. Falling in love is the best thing in the world and if you are afraid to do it then you are missing out. Try hard to fix what is wrong so you can be one of the lucky ones in this life to find someone to grow old with.
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