Ex With Some One New Can Be Painful

It does not matter which one of you did the breaking up, it can still be difficult the first time you see your ex with someone new. Hopefully you did some thinking on how you would react when you were planning how to get on with your life after the break up.

You probably told yourself that it would not matter to you at all seeing your ex with someone else but the first time it happens you will still feel something. If the two of you had some fun times together before it all went south then you will most likely feel left out and probably a little jealous as well.

Do not react to these sudden feelings. You will only make a fool of yourself and make everyone around you see you as the crazy ex girlfriend. If you should happen to bump into your ex while out, be gracious and kind and ask how he is doing. Small talk is the best way to get through this awkward situation.

If you do not trust yourself not to make a scene then leave and go somewhere else. Tell your friends that your ex is present and they will have no problem leaving with you to go find a new place to party. If you do not want to leave then try to ignore the situation and have fun. He most likely is not paying any mind to the fact that you are there anyway.

It may be your best bet to avoid going to the places the two of you went altogether. Memories can have a strong hold on you and if he takes his new girl to the same places you went together you may feel territorial about those places. You should find yourself a new coffee shop or night club and start making new memories for yourself.

When you find someone new do not flaunt him in front of your ex. If he has not found someone new he will feel the same way you would if he did have someone new and you did not. You and your new love should only be concerned with making your own memories and getting on with your relationship not what your ex is doing.

When my son broke up with his long-time girlfriend he told me that the first time he saw her at a party with someone else he felt like he had been "kicked in the gut" and he said he almost got angry but then realized that they were no longer together and he had no reason to be upset so he left it all alone and now they are friends.

So do not obsess about your ex. Do things to enrich your own life so you can find someone new as well. Do not "stalk" your ex on the social networks to find out what he is doing and who he is seeing. It is none of your business. You would not want him doing this to you, would you? I didn't think so.

This is the perfect time to figure out what makes you happy. If you see your ex with someone new then wish them all the happiness then turn around and get on with your own life.