Only Human Getting Back With Your Ex

Getting back with your ex is an incredibly hard thing to do because there's been feelings hurt and hearts broken. What could make it worse is there are also in all likelihood very unrealistic expectations of what you want from one another. The thing to recognize is that you're both human and fully capable of making mistakes. Not alone that but it should be understood that both of you are going to make mistakes. The reason that you're broken up or divorced is that there were mistakes made on both of your parts. As much as you'd like to believe it, neither one of you are perfect and are, in reality, quite far from it. Getting back with your ex means recognizing this.

While getting back with your ex or trying to do that it's going to be very obvious and simple to point out the mistakes that the other made. What is going to be more difficult is to point out the mistakes that you made. You have to look closely and see what it was that you did that either helped make the split possible but helped make the situation and relationship as bad as it got. You have to own up to your part in the ending of the relationship.

You have to own your own mistakes. You can not hide them. You can not cover them up. You can not make excuses for them. You can not sugar coat them. You can not pretend they aren’t there. You can not do any of that and have the reconciliation effort succeed. Pointing fingers is what caused the split to materialize to begin with. Pointing fingers isn't going to help getting back with your ex. You're only human. That point might appear obvious but in the attitude we take occasionally we might not show we feel that way.

In getting back with your ex, you have to realize likewise that your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend or ex husband or ex wife you no longer want to be your ex. You have to understand that if you want them to be with you for the long-run or for life you have to realize how special they are to you. They can not realize that if they can not feel that you think that. They have to know that you would like to be with them. If you treat them like trash for the mistakes they made and hold it over their head they aren’t going to feel really special. The mistakes they made might have been bad but you need to let them know that you would like to be with them anyhow. They have to see from you that they are special enough to look past their faults.

Is not that what you want? To know that even with all your faults that they love you still? What greater way is there than to show that to the person you want to be with? There's no other thing that's going to help them feel truly special. It does not excuse mistakes but it says that what you have together is bigger and better than what it was that tore you apart. Getting back with your ex means realizing each other’s humanity and loving each other anyway.