Advice On A Boyfriend Break Up

Have you just broken up with a guy? Are you lost without him? Do you wonder if you can get him back? Here’s some advice about a boyfriend break up.

Firstly, determine whether the relationship is really finished. Until you can say that he's part of your past and not your present and future, you won't be able to move on.

This isn't to say that you have to put him in the past immediately. There are a number of steps you are able to take to get him back. You can stay part of his life in a casual way hoping to become boyfriend and girlfriend once again.

But, if you're ready to move on, there are a number of steps you are able to take to reach closure. Closure is the process where you recognize that the relationship is over and you begin to heal.

Perhaps the first thing you should do is communicate your hurt. There are numerous ways to do this:

· Talk to friends and family who are truly sympathetic and can help you work through your feelings. A true friend will do this, but many of your so called friends will not be up to the challenge.
· Go into short term therapy so you are able to work through your feelings with a dispassionate third party
· Write down your feelings in a journal, in poetry, or in music. This is a cheap way to express yourself and does not require anybody else to participate.

Once you've come to some level of closure, get rid of anything you have of your ex’s. These things will only remind you of him and the boyfriend break up. Some things you will want to return because they have value. Other things you can just toss. And, if he has given you gifts that you would like to keep, box them up and store them for the time being.

Next, work out how you are going to spend your time now that you're not part of a couple. You might feel that time hangs heavy on your hands. Or, you might find that you're liberated by not having to do everything your ex wanted you to do.

Get involved in things that make you happy. Go to the gym so that you look and feel good. Spend some time getting pampered at the spa. Take a Spanish class at the community center. Or, start to volunteer with the Big Sisters of America.

By doing things that please you, you will become a happier person. You will find that you miss your ex a great deal less.

One of the ways you will know that you're over your ex is that you'll begin to develop feelings for a new guy. Perhaps these will be reciprocated. Eventually, you will find a new man and form afresh relationship. That will be when you know you've truly moved on. The boyfriend break up will not be so serious any longer.