Did Your Girlfriend Break Up With You

Did your girlfriend break up with you? You're not the first guy to go through this. As a matter of fact, girls initiate three quarters of the break ups while guys only dump the girl in one quarter of the situations. Therefore, guys have to deal with being dumped far more frequently than girls do.

Compounding the problem is the impression that men are supposed to deal with their emotions stoically. While women are allowed to dissect every part of their relationship, men are expected to roll with the punches.

But this does not mean that men do not have emotions. They hurt when women dump them. A girlfriend break up is rather painful.

Firstly, men tend to place more value on stable relationships than women do. While a man may be interested in a fling with a woman who isn't his girlfriend, what he truly wants is somebody who will be there in good times and bad.

But, once your girlfriend has dumped you, it is important to figure out how to pick up the pieces and go on with your life.

Firstly, you should find some way to express yourself. Girls could do this by writing poetry or discussing the relationship endlessly with their friends. Men frequently do not feel comfortable with these options. But, if you play the guitar or piano, try writing some music that allows you to express your feelings. A lot of the good songs are about the pain of breaking up.

Next, you need to clear out your place of all of the things that remind you of her. If she has clothes at your house, give them back. Throw away her toothbrush. And, if she has given you any gifts that you want to keep, box them up for the time being until you can look at them without having turbulent emotions.

You'll want to close off communications with her, at least for the short term. If either of you owe the other money, try to settle up so that won’t be an avenue for talking.

Then tell your ex that you want to go silent for a while. That means no calls, texts, or emails. Stay off each other’s myspace and facebook pages. In time, you may be able to be friends again, but right now you both need to give each other the space to heal.

Then, you need to get out of the house. Make a point of playing pick up basketball with your friends. Go out to a bar from time to time. Become a big brother to an underprivileged kid.

Then, start to get back into the dating scene once again. At first, you can have casual dates that may not lead to anything. But, over time, you will meet someone you really care about. And, at that point, you will know that you have some closure about the old relationship. You won’t be worried about the old girlfriend break up any more.