Ways To Say Your Sorry-Sincere Best Policy

I suppose if you really gave it any thought you could come up with hundreds, maybe thousands, of clever ways to say your sorry.

And I guess that's kind of neat, but at the end of the day, the best apologies are always the ones that are sincere.

Too many times we apologize without really meaning it. This can happen a lot in relationships, particularly romantic relationships.

We don't really believe we are wrong but we don't want the drama so we apologize.

And, I suppose, in some cases that may be the best strategy. Some arguments or disagreements aren't ever going to be won.

But maybe instead of coming up with unique ways to say your sorry, or to apologize and not really mean it, a better approach would be to find some common ground with the other person.

Sometimes you and your partner, or friend, are not going to see eye to eye on a subject. And that's ok.

Even the most compatible people will, on occasion, have their own opinion different from the other persons.

But if you and your partner, or friends, can't even agree to disagree there is some issues that should probably be addressed.

Most of us have probably known people during our lives who are very insecure. You can't tell them anything because they can't admit that they may be wrong.

We often view this behavior as selfish or self centered and there certainly is that element involved, but in many cases it is just that the person is ultra insecure.

They can't take even the most gentle of critiques and use it as a chance to grow as a person.

They view it as a sign that their idea that they are somehow inferior is actually true. So, they can't admit they were wrong.

If that is the type of person you are with you may just have to be willing sometimes to say you are sorry even if you don't really think you were wrong.

That type of person will "hold you hostage" until they are "proven right" and if that is the case it may just make sense for you to apologize.

Though, truthfully, if that is the type of person you are involved with I would wonder at the ongoing viability of that particular relationship.

But, if you have totally screwed up, and you know it and are willing to admit it to yourself and apologize to your partner, the best way is to do it face to face.

Sure, you can get creative, and depending on your partner and the type of relationship you have, that may be a good idea.

But ultimately, the best apology is the sincere type of apology.

I used to tell my kids that an apology is only real if you mean it at the time and truly try to make sure you will never make that mistake again.

You can't apologize and then turn around and do the same thing again and truly expect anyone to believe your apology was sincere.

So, if you made a mistake and you want to apologize, you can find cute or clever ways to say your sorry, or you can just say it. But either way, make sure you are sincere and don't ever make that same mistake again.