Relationship Psychology-Science Of Relationships

Science When it comes right down to it, psychology is at the root of every resource designed to help you with your relationships. Relationship psychology my sound complicated, but it is simply a series of methods that you can use to analyze the problems the two of you are facing. This is largely done by understanding the thinking behind behavior, and then using what you discover to help make things better.

To be blunt...not using relationship psychology can cause the two of you to ultimately break up. A lot of people think that learning "psychology" sounds difficult or boring, but you don't need to take a full-blown college course to benefit from some of the basics. With that in mind, here are a few psychological techniques you can use to have a better relationship.

We all have problems of one kind or another, and there are times when we take out the stress of those problems on the people we love; there are also times that the ones we love take their stress out on us. The point is that you should do your best to not take your stress out on your partner, but you should also be understanding if your partner does that to you.

A lot of the issues we have actually go back to our childhoods, and relationship psychology can help to minimize their impact. For example, if you were raised in a home where your mother was constantly looking over your shoulder and being critical, then you are more likely to carry on that behavior. Now, if your partner's mother was the exact opposite, then they will probably have a hard time dealing with your domineering style.

When the two of you are having a conversation, it's important for each of you to feel as though you are being heard. The way to do this is through active listening. This takes practice, and is quite different than just hearing your partner's voice. Listening requires you to pay attention to what's being said, and how it's being said. The person listening needs to focus, and should give their complete attention to the one who is talking. Thinking about what you are going to say when it's "your turn" is not listening.

The tricky thing about relationship psychology is that there are, at the very least, three parties involved, and not two as most people assume. There is you, there is your partner, and then there is the relationship itself. Each one of these has its own distinct personality, but each is influenced and influences the other two. So, you have an influence on your partner and the relationship, and they both have an influence on you. Therefore, you need to be careful when using psychology, as there can be unintended consequences when you fail to look at the bigger picture.

Of course this is just a quick overview of relationship psychology, but it's a good start. The more you learn about it, the more you will be able to put it to good use for you, your partner, and your relationship.