Ways To Say Your Sorry-Sincere Best Policy

I suppose if you really gave it any thought you could come up with hundreds, maybe thousands, of clever ways to say your sorry.

And I guess that's kind of neat, but at the end of the day, the best apologies are always the ones that are sincere.

Too many times we apologize without really meaning it. This can happen a lot in relationships, particularly romantic relationships.

We don't really believe we are wrong but we don't want the drama so we apologize.

And, I suppose, in some cases that may be the best strategy. Some arguments or disagreements aren't ever going to be won.

But maybe instead of coming up with unique ways to say your sorry, or to apologize and not really mean it, a better approach would be to find some common ground with the other person.

Sometimes you and your partner, or friend, are not going to see eye to eye on a subject. And that's ok.

Even the most compatible people will, on occasion, have their own opinion different from the other persons.

But if you and your partner, or friends, can't even agree to disagree there is some issues that should probably be addressed.

Most of us have probably known people during our lives who are very insecure. You can't tell them anything because they can't admit that they may be wrong.

We often view this behavior as selfish or self centered and there certainly is that element involved, but in many cases it is just that the person is ultra insecure.

They can't take even the most gentle of critiques and use it as a chance to grow as a person.

They view it as a sign that their idea that they are somehow inferior is actually true. So, they can't admit they were wrong.

If that is the type of person you are with you may just have to be willing sometimes to say you are sorry even if you don't really think you were wrong.

That type of person will "hold you hostage" until they are "proven right" and if that is the case it may just make sense for you to apologize.

Though, truthfully, if that is the type of person you are involved with I would wonder at the ongoing viability of that particular relationship.

But, if you have totally screwed up, and you know it and are willing to admit it to yourself and apologize to your partner, the best way is to do it face to face.

Sure, you can get creative, and depending on your partner and the type of relationship you have, that may be a good idea.

But ultimately, the best apology is the sincere type of apology.

I used to tell my kids that an apology is only real if you mean it at the time and truly try to make sure you will never make that mistake again.

You can't apologize and then turn around and do the same thing again and truly expect anyone to believe your apology was sincere.

So, if you made a mistake and you want to apologize, you can find cute or clever ways to say your sorry, or you can just say it. But either way, make sure you are sincere and don't ever make that same mistake again.

Relationship Psychology-Science Of Relationships

Science When it comes right down to it, psychology is at the root of every resource designed to help you with your relationships. Relationship psychology my sound complicated, but it is simply a series of methods that you can use to analyze the problems the two of you are facing. This is largely done by understanding the thinking behind behavior, and then using what you discover to help make things better.

To be blunt...not using relationship psychology can cause the two of you to ultimately break up. A lot of people think that learning "psychology" sounds difficult or boring, but you don't need to take a full-blown college course to benefit from some of the basics. With that in mind, here are a few psychological techniques you can use to have a better relationship.

We all have problems of one kind or another, and there are times when we take out the stress of those problems on the people we love; there are also times that the ones we love take their stress out on us. The point is that you should do your best to not take your stress out on your partner, but you should also be understanding if your partner does that to you.

A lot of the issues we have actually go back to our childhoods, and relationship psychology can help to minimize their impact. For example, if you were raised in a home where your mother was constantly looking over your shoulder and being critical, then you are more likely to carry on that behavior. Now, if your partner's mother was the exact opposite, then they will probably have a hard time dealing with your domineering style.

When the two of you are having a conversation, it's important for each of you to feel as though you are being heard. The way to do this is through active listening. This takes practice, and is quite different than just hearing your partner's voice. Listening requires you to pay attention to what's being said, and how it's being said. The person listening needs to focus, and should give their complete attention to the one who is talking. Thinking about what you are going to say when it's "your turn" is not listening.

The tricky thing about relationship psychology is that there are, at the very least, three parties involved, and not two as most people assume. There is you, there is your partner, and then there is the relationship itself. Each one of these has its own distinct personality, but each is influenced and influences the other two. So, you have an influence on your partner and the relationship, and they both have an influence on you. Therefore, you need to be careful when using psychology, as there can be unintended consequences when you fail to look at the bigger picture.

Of course this is just a quick overview of relationship psychology, but it's a good start. The more you learn about it, the more you will be able to put it to good use for you, your partner, and your relationship.

Healing Relationships-First Decide If You Will Make The Effort

There are those times when we find ourselves in relationships that are good, strong, loving, and stable. That's great when it happens, but there are also times when relationships go sour. Fortunately, healing relationships, though it takes effort, is entirely possible if you go about it the right way and are willing to do whatever it takes.

Most relationships that are in trouble do not get in trouble all at once; instead, seemingly insignificant things build up over time. There may be a tipping point that gives the illusion of sudden trouble, but in most cases the trouble creeps up over time. It's important to understand this because it means that there usually isn't a quick fix for healing relationships. There will be an investment of time and effort, but it will be worth it if it means the two of you can be happy again.

The fact that you are reading this is proof that there is hope for your relationship. It proves that at least one of you cares enough about the relationship to make it better. If your partner also wants to improve things, then that's even better, but it isn't necessary. What is necessary, however, is finding out exactly where your relationship stands at this point in time.

You need to take an honest look at the relationship you have, as well as the relationship you want. Once you know those two things you can start creating a plan to go from where you are to where you want to be. It is very important for you to be honest with yourself about the way things currently are, and how you want them to be. It's one thing to want to be happy, and it's quite another to fantasize about being in a perfect relationship.

Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes. Sadly, these mistakes often hurt people. If you are the one who caused the hurt, then you need to  do what you can to make amends. If it was your partner that hurt you, then you need to find a way to forgive them. (For the record, we are talking about emotional hurts, and not physical or mental abuse.) Forgiveness is usually thought of as something you "do" to somebody else, but it's really more about giving yourself permission to let go of past hurts and to start healing.

If you are religious or spiritual, then turning to your beliefs is another way of healing relationships. Almost every religion has a ways of dealing with troubled relationships, and turning to your religion can bring you a lot of comfort in your time of need.

Healing relationships can take time, but it is possible to heal them. We have only touched on a few things to get you started in the right direction. The next step is to get more information on other ways that you can start the healing process. After all, the sooner you start, the sooner the two of you can be happy again.

Fall In Love With Each Other Again

All relationships have their fair share of ups and downs, and if you are looking for ways to fall in love with each other again, then chances are good that you are at a low point. Wherever you are at right now, it's okay; there are things you can do to rekindle the flame you once had burning for each other. Now, I'm not going to tell you that it will be easy, but I will tell you that the effort will be more than worth it once the two of you have fallen back in love.

While you may not be thrilled by the idea of a serious talk about your feelings, it is an absolute must. Be open about your current feelings and concerns, but remember to do so with caring and tact. You don't want to make your partner feel bad about how things are going, and you should also make sure that you don't blame them in any way.

After you have had a good discussion it's time to ask why the two of you fell in love in the first place. What was it that attracted you to your partner, and what got them attracted to you? If there was a time that the two of you loved each other, then there is always hope to do it again. Remembering what you love about each other will help you by keeping the focus on the positive things. In other words, instead of asking why you don't love each other right now and what you can do to fix it, you start rebuilding on the feelings you once had.

Another thing you need to look at is if the reasons you fell in love were valid ones. A lot of times we are overly concerned with physical appearance, and that can cause us to mistake feelings of lust for feelings of love. There is also the possibility that the two of you were pressured to get together by some outside influence. Even if you didn't have real love at first, you may have started to grow in love and that can give you the hope you need to fall in love again.

If you want to make your ex fall in love with you again, then you may be tempted to change who you are, but that would be a mistake. For one thing, it wouldn't be fair to you or your ex if you were only putting on an act. The other thing is that you can only pretend for so long. Besides, your partner should love you for who you are, not who they want you to be.

More than anything, you need to know that there is hope and that it really is possible to make your ex fall in love with you again.

Satisfaction In Relationship

Mutual satisfaction in relationship is not that difficult to achieve if you both are willing to accept the other as they are. When both parties continually geet what they want and need from a relationship then you can be content and satisfied in your relationship.

Satisfaction in relationship comes in all shapes and sizes and depending on the type of person each of you are it can be different for all concerned.

For instance, if one of you has got to be in control all the time and one of you is a doormat then this might give both of you some satisfaction. You are both getting what you need and as long as there is no abuse going on this type of arrangement might work very well.

If you both have figured out that somethings are harder for you to do and the other of you is good at those things then you probably make a great team. When one does not know how to do something the other does and you both benefit from each others knowledge and skill.

Maybe you are both laid back and just take the world as it comes to you. This can work too. No one needs too much stress in their lives and if the two of you have found out how to live with very little stress then more power to you.

If your relationship is tense and sometimes too much to handle then you need to find ways to make things better. I believe this is called simplifying your life. Get rid of all the baggage you do not need any longer. It could be something simple like changing phone plans so you save a little bit of money each month.

Spend that extra cash for a date night once or twice a month and try to keep things as fresh as possible. Sneak in little surprises here and there and just try to see the other point of view instead of fighting to the death over a difference of opinion.

Take the time to remember the good times you have had and some of the memories that go along with those good times. This may prompt you to do some little thing every now and then to remind your partner of those times.

Plan a surprise weekend away, send the kids to grandma's house for the weekend and do not tell your partner where you are going until you get close. The surprise element of this will keep them guessing and coming back for more.

Believe it or not if you keep them guessing all the time and they do keep coming back for more then there is no room for boredom or becoming complacent in the relationship. Now I do not mean that you have to do something surprising every single day of your marriage but come up with ideas to make one night a week exciting for the both of you.

Soon the other one of you will see how fun it can be and maybe jump on the bandwagon and start planning some things of their own for the two of you to do. These are some tips for creating satisfaction in relationship.

Your Affair-Own Up To Your Mistake

If you need to find out how to save your marriage after your affair, the first thing you need to figure out is if the marriage is worth saving. Ask yourself why you had the affair in the first place.

If you have turned a new leaf and can honestly say why you had your affair in the first place then you can get down to the root of the issue and make an honest apology for your mistake. If you thought that for some reason your spouse did not love you anymore then you need to find out if that is the case.

You should have done this before you even thought about cheating but doing it now is better than not doing it at all.

One major point, do not pretend that the affair did not happen. The fact that it did is the biggest issue the two of you need to face if you are going to try to make things better. Sit down together or with a counselor to try to figure out what all the problems were and the reason for the infidelity.

This will not be easy and feelings will get hurt on both sides. Realizing that we all have things that we do not like about the ones we love is sometimes hard to face. This may be the entire problem. You found someone who was completely different from the one you say you love and it was exciting and passionate right from the beginning.

I would like you to think back and remember how things were when you first met your spouse-to-be. Remember the excitement and passion that the two of you shared? If that is all you were looking for it might still be there in your relationship.

What you should have done is try to find ways to bring that excitement and passion back to your marriage instead of finding it with someone else.

Oh well, what's done is done and if you now want to truly try to put your marriage back together you should concentrate on making amends to your spouse. He or she is probably very hurt and feeling rejected at this point and you need to do everything you can to make him or her feel like they are the only person in the world for you again.

Taking your problems to a reliable therapist or talking to your pastor may give you some pointers on making things right again. You must give your spouse some room to breathe and figure things out on their own as well. Do not crowd them or force them to do things they may not want to do. Do not be demanding in any way, you lost that right when you strayed.

Agree with everything they say even if they are angry and lay blame for all their current problems on you. And I cannot say this enough, apologize, apologize, apologize. You will have to apologize for everything, I don't care what it is. If she thinks you spent too much time in the bathroom, apologize.

Eventually things will calm down and get better but if you are the one who had your affair you must do all you can to help the relationship heal.