Can This Marriage Be Saved-See If You Know What Marriage Is All About

If you want to know can this marriage be saved, you need to learn what being married is all about. Being married is not about remaining independent and doing things only for yourself. It is about sharing your life with the one you are compatible with.

Too often people begin a relationship and then immediately start to feel they are trapped in the relationship and these feelings most likely do not get addressed, they get ignored. Then the guilt sets in. They are having these feelings and mistakenly assume that the wedding and marriage will fix them.

The question is, what makes you think you know how to be married or even be a couple for that matter? There are many things to learn if it is to be done right and a lot of things need to be worked out beforehand.

Take a look back at what type of role models you had about marriage when you were growing up. Your parents can be a role model for you but if their relationship was difficult and they argued all the time then they most likely did not know how to be married either.



If this is the case then can this marriage be saved is the most important question. Where do you start? Start by communicating. You used to talk about anything and everything when you first met. What changed the way you communicate? The only thing that changed is the fact that the two of you got married.

You love each other right? Well, of course you do. That is never the problem. Marriage is all about making compromises and learning to become a partnership. Love conquers all but it does not sustain all. After the honeymoon is over, then what? You wake up one morning and stand in the middle of the room and say, "Now what?"

The best way to become a partnership is to talk things out all the time. Do not make the mistake of assuming you know what your partner is thinking or how they will react in any given situation. Ask them. Talk things through.

If you have just recently been married and you have encountered these problems already or you have been married for several years and are old hats at these problems, you can still help yourselves and make things right. Make a commitment to each other that you both will try harder to communicate better.

I know sometimes I forget that my partner is a human being and has thoughts and feelings and perceptions of their own and that I am not the only person in the relationship. I also know that we do communicate effectively most of the time but when one of us decides we know best that makes it difficult to make decisions together especially if the one who thinks they know the best will not listen to reason.

If you love each other but do not like each other much these days, you need to stop what you are doing immediately and start down a new path. You need to get back to the point where your relationship comes first and the two of you feel connected. Can this marriage be saved, is best answered only by the two of you.