Stop Divorce Now

One or both of you started divorce proceedings but now it's been a little while and cooler heads seem to have prevailed and you both are considering reconsidering. So after the process has started how do you stop divorce now? If you both are on the same page then you need to sit down with each other and figure out if this is the best course of action.

I am sure that your lawyers would disagree and also try their darndest to talk you out of stop divorce now but if your marriage was meant to be then nothing anyone could say would make a difference. They are just letting the lack of making a buck do their talking anyway.

Sit down and figure out what led the both of you to the decision to file for divorce in the first place. Many times it was just some misunderstanding that got way out of control and things never should have gotten as far as they did down the divorce court path as they did to begin with.

Maybe instead of rushing right out to a lawyer, the two of you should have just talked things out and maybe gotten a counselor instead of lawyers. Marriage is work and if one or both of you wasn't making the effort then things start to slack off, little things start setting off big bombs and all of a sudden you both start thinking that it is over. Not in most cases.

Counselors can help sort through all the BS so the two of you can get back to the two of you and leave all the crap behind. And if you have family members trying to "help", well, that is just a recipe for disaster and divorce. Keep family members out of your business. Tell them nothing.

Try this. Put everything bad aside for now and play the "remember when" game. Reminisce about the start of your relationship and how you talked about anything and everything under the sun. Talk about the good times and then the bad times will start to seem so petty you will probably begin to laugh at the absurdity of it all and maybe just decide to forgive and forget.

Forgiveness can go a long way to helping a relationship get back on course and get healthy again. Even if the problem was an infidelity. Yes, that's right, an infidelity. Now, I'm not saying that all marriages could survive an infidelity but if it was minor, say nothing more than a wayward kiss, then things could be worked out.

You both could very well stop divorce now by learning that honesty is really the best policy and communication is key to maintaining your relationship. If you have lost the ability to communicate effectively with each other then have a counselor teach you new ways to get the message across to each other. A good counselor will give you exercises and homework to learn new strategies of communication so your marriage can stand the test of time.