Are you asking the question: how can I get my girlfriend to love me again? Well if you are it means two things: one you are hurting and two you are willing to do what it takes to make things better again. There are almost always things you can do that will help you regain a love that has faded.
How difficult will it be, you may be asking yourself. Well, that depends on what went wrong in the first place. If your girlfriend and you just kind of 'fell out of love' over a period of time, it might actually be easier than if you did something wrong such as cheat on her or hurt her physically.
If you did either of those things you should seriously consider getting some counseling before you even attempt to get back with her. If you really care about her than you don't want to cause her any more pain. If you don't deal with whatever issues you have that caused you to act that way in the first place, you might just do it again. Take care of you first before you try to get back with her.
If nothing that dramatic happened in your relationship but maybe you both just kind of started to drift apart and take each other for granted, than it will most likely just be a case of letting her know that you still love her, you're sorry that things went wrong and you want to get the spark back.
Step one, call her and ask her out to dinner, or lunch, or coffee. talk to her calmly. Have fun. Don't make this 'date' a big deal. Keep it casual and friendly. Remind her of the man you are and the good times the two of you used to have before.
Don't blame her, take responsibility for the things you did wrong. Let her know that you think that the two of you can be happy again. Point out that now you know what went wrong the first time (it's actually kind of an advantage since you can avoid the same mistakes this time around). For now, just be friends and have fun. Let nature take it's course... again.
Don't expect to return right back to a physical relationship. Be ready to take time. Act almost as though you are just starting from scratch, like you are dating for the first time. Treat her as well as you did when you first met (and like you should have been treating her during your relationship).
Doing these things are your best bet for having her back in your arms and not ever having to ask the question: how can I get my girlfriend to love me again?
More than likely, she still has feelings for you. Talking about things out in the open can make a world of difference. That doesn't mean that it will happen overnight, but if the two of you can talk about how things fell apart and what you can do to not only get the love back but what you can do differently so it doesn't fall apart again, you can work things out and find happiness again.
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Friday, November 19, 2010
Thursday, August 19, 2010
How Can I Get My Girlfriend To Love Me Again - Who Knows
If you and your girl have been together for a while you may find that the excitement is gone and you're just not sure she even loves you anymore. At times like these the one thing that keeps going through your mind is: how can I get my girlfriend to love me again? The truth is that this situation can be very common in any longer term relationship. Just because your girl isn't as affectionate as she once doesn't necessarily mean that she doesn't still love you. The two of you can regain what you've lost.
Over time people change. We all do. The problem is that when it comes to a relationship two people may not change in the same way. For example, if you and your girl loved to party every night of the week, but lately she just doesn't seem that interested, yet you still want to go, this is a classic sign of two people who are maturing at different rates. In a case like this there may not be anything you can do. It might be best to just end the relationship and find someone who shares your interests.
Sometimes though the changes may be unsettling but they don't have to be deal breakers. If you and your girl can talk and find some common ground you can not only re- ignite the passion in your relationship you can also find great new ways to spend time together.
Sometimes it's best to start at the beginning, as much as possible. More than likely you've changed since you and your girl have been together, and maybe not in good ways. Take stock of the way you act and the way you treat her. Can you honestly say that it's the same as it was when the two of you first met? Do you still do all the little things (hold the door, tell her you love her, compliment the way she looks, etc.) that you used to do? If not, why not? She would still like to hear that.
Have you gotten lazy? Do you still workout the way you did when the two of you first met? Do you like to go out and do the things the two of you used to do, or do you just want to lounge on the couch and watch t.v.? She might simply be getting bored with you if you've become a slug.
When the two of you first met did you have a lot of dreams and ambitions? Do you still? If not, you may have lost some of the passion you had for life and that may have been one of the things she found so attractive about you when you first met. It might be good for you and your relationship to find some of that passion and ambition again. You don't want to get in a rut, it's not good for you or your relationship.
If you're wondering: how can I get my girlfriend to love me again, you can start by evaluating your relationship. Honestly answering these questions can be a great way to start. Once you know the problem you'll have a much better time of coming up with solutions.
Over time people change. We all do. The problem is that when it comes to a relationship two people may not change in the same way. For example, if you and your girl loved to party every night of the week, but lately she just doesn't seem that interested, yet you still want to go, this is a classic sign of two people who are maturing at different rates. In a case like this there may not be anything you can do. It might be best to just end the relationship and find someone who shares your interests.
Sometimes though the changes may be unsettling but they don't have to be deal breakers. If you and your girl can talk and find some common ground you can not only re- ignite the passion in your relationship you can also find great new ways to spend time together.
Sometimes it's best to start at the beginning, as much as possible. More than likely you've changed since you and your girl have been together, and maybe not in good ways. Take stock of the way you act and the way you treat her. Can you honestly say that it's the same as it was when the two of you first met? Do you still do all the little things (hold the door, tell her you love her, compliment the way she looks, etc.) that you used to do? If not, why not? She would still like to hear that.
Have you gotten lazy? Do you still workout the way you did when the two of you first met? Do you like to go out and do the things the two of you used to do, or do you just want to lounge on the couch and watch t.v.? She might simply be getting bored with you if you've become a slug.
When the two of you first met did you have a lot of dreams and ambitions? Do you still? If not, you may have lost some of the passion you had for life and that may have been one of the things she found so attractive about you when you first met. It might be good for you and your relationship to find some of that passion and ambition again. You don't want to get in a rut, it's not good for you or your relationship.
If you're wondering: how can I get my girlfriend to love me again, you can start by evaluating your relationship. Honestly answering these questions can be a great way to start. Once you know the problem you'll have a much better time of coming up with solutions.
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