When all looks lost and you are trying to figure out how to get back with your ex, one of the things you need to hold onto is that 95% of all relationships that look as if they are well and genuinely over, need not be. There's always hope, all it takes is for at least one person wanting to save the relationship and it can be saved.The first key to figuring out how to get back with your ex is to leave your ex alone for at the least a month - if at all possible longer than a month will work even better. So break all contact with them and give your ex plenty of time to think things through.
Frequently in the heat of the breakup things get said and positions get taken that given time, are soon relinquished as reasoning takes over. So if you would like to get to the heart of how to get back with your ex then seriously, give yourself and your ex some time.
If you do not provide this space to think and you continue trying to push the issue to get your ex back before the time is right, then what will happen is that the more you push, the harder your ex will push back. Remember, your ex has walked out on the relationship and clearly demonstrated that they need time to think and be left alone, give them that time.
If you are concerned that all looks lost because your ex is dating somebody else, then you need to remember and hold onto the reality that a lot of rebound relationships just do not last. Chances are your ex is dating that individual as a way to convince themselves that their relationship with you is genuinely over. Nevertheless, just because they are trying to convince themselves their relationship with you is over permanently. Guess what? It does not mean that it is.
It's a statistical fact that rebound relationships are fraught with difficulties and very seldom work because the individual on the rebound is still emotionally affiliated to their ex. So do not waste a great deal of time worrying about somebody your ex is presently dating.
The truth is getting your ex back is more about the two of you than anybody else, so make certain that you keep on top of your appearance, you are not doing anything to alienate your ex and that you are appearing in control and pretty soon you'll have stopped wondering how to get your ex back, since they'll be back with you.
as you say in your post the worst thing that you can do is push your ex. Push your ex to see you, talk to you, get back with you. That is everyones natural reaction because they dont know what to do. It is always best to wait at lest a month to get over the break up. The Magic Of Making Up is a great book and anyone that is reading this post should think about getting it. thanks for the great information.
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