If you and your husband recently divorced or separated, or are on the verge of doing so, then you may be wondering "will my husband ever love me again". That's a fair question. However, there are no easy answers. Every couple is different, but it is possible, in the vast majority of cases, to patch things up and to get your husband to love you again. Rocky ground isn't a fun place to be, and wanting to feel loved is a very real concern.
But let's take a deeper look at this question. Maybe what you really want to know is if he will ever love you the way he used to. Chances are he will not. But that's okay. In fact, if there is no growth in your relationship then that's not a good thing. The truth is people change and their feelings change. That being said, that doesn't mean the feelings will get worse. Feelings of love can actually grow and get stronger over time. And let's face it, if you are asking yourself theses kinds of questions, then you're going through a rough time right now. But...as you both face tough times, and come through them, your love will be strengthened.
The next thing you need to do spend some time working on yourself. The problem is that as you feel your marriage go downhill, the stress starts to affect you more and more. You are also likely to spend too much time thinking about your husband and your relationship. So, take some time to improve yourself. As a side note, you shouldn't be doing this to manipulate your husband, but to simply put yourself first for a while and to clear your head.
After that you can start to build a better environment which helps to foster any feelings he still has for you. One way to help you do this is to think back to what it was that made him fall in love with you in the first place, then do your best to highlight those things. Perhaps it was your sense of humor, or your physical appearance, or maybe how you are kind to others; whatever it is, now is the time to revisit it. You don't have to point them out; he will notice.
Now, you may wish you had a magic wand that you could wave to get an affirmative answer to "will my husband ever love me again?" But the fact of the matter is that you do not. Furthermore, it has long been said that the only person you can change is yourself. So, while you may want to change your husband, you can't. You have to work on changing you. However, you should still get his input. This means having in-depth conversations and talking about how things are now, and how you want them to be. It won't be easy, but it is possible. Stick with it. You'll be glad you did once you start feeling loved again.
Showing posts with label Break Up Advice. Show all posts
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Monday, July 20, 2009
Moving On - Break Up Advice
Sheila knew it was time to be moving on. Break up with her boyfriend Mike had just happened. She knew there was no chance of getting back together, so she had to get on with her life.
First, Sheila tried talking to her friends about the break up. At first, they were sympathetic. But soon, they became bored with the topic and wanted to talk about their own issues. Sheila became frustrated at their lack of support.
Her mom, on the other hand, couldn’t talk about anything but Mike. She thought Sheila was insane to let him get away. It sometimes seemed like her mom had been more in love with Mike than Sheila ever was.
After a few weeks, Sheila decided to go to a therapist for five sessions. Over the course of a few weeks, she began to identify the problems which had led to the break up and plan out a strategy for moving on.
The first thing she did was to for the moving on break up was to get rid of all of Mike’s things. Some, like the leather jacket he loved, she gave back. Other things like his toothbrush she just threw away. And, he had given her some nice jewelry, but she decided to box these up and store them until she became less emotional about Mike.
Next, she started doing things that she didn’t feel comfortable doing when Mike was around. For instance, Mike would never go to the ballet with her. Sheila had trained as a classical dancer and she appreciated Swan Lake and Giselle. When a performance came to town, she got a couple of girlfriends together and they went. This is not something she would have done if she had been together with Mike.
She also decided to join an adult dance class. Partially, it got her out of the house two nights a week. It also got her back into shape. But, she was able to meet new people as well. She liked the comraderie of the class.
She also explored new passions. She never knew much about fine wines. Mike had preferred beer and she had usually just ordered the house white. But when she heard a local winery was offering a wine tasting class, she decided to join.
Over the course of five weeks, she developed a palate. She began to appreciate the difference between a young wine and an old wine.
And, she met Robert. Robert was a good looking lawyer who was interested in good wine and fine food. He was also interested in Sheila.
Part of how Sheila knew that she was getting over the pain of losing Mike was that she was interested in Robert.
Sheila doesn’t know whether the relationship with Robert is going to be long term or a short term rebound fling. But she does know that she doesn’t miss Mike when Robert is around. And that’s moving on break up advice!
First, Sheila tried talking to her friends about the break up. At first, they were sympathetic. But soon, they became bored with the topic and wanted to talk about their own issues. Sheila became frustrated at their lack of support.
Her mom, on the other hand, couldn’t talk about anything but Mike. She thought Sheila was insane to let him get away. It sometimes seemed like her mom had been more in love with Mike than Sheila ever was.
After a few weeks, Sheila decided to go to a therapist for five sessions. Over the course of a few weeks, she began to identify the problems which had led to the break up and plan out a strategy for moving on.
The first thing she did was to for the moving on break up was to get rid of all of Mike’s things. Some, like the leather jacket he loved, she gave back. Other things like his toothbrush she just threw away. And, he had given her some nice jewelry, but she decided to box these up and store them until she became less emotional about Mike.
Next, she started doing things that she didn’t feel comfortable doing when Mike was around. For instance, Mike would never go to the ballet with her. Sheila had trained as a classical dancer and she appreciated Swan Lake and Giselle. When a performance came to town, she got a couple of girlfriends together and they went. This is not something she would have done if she had been together with Mike.
She also decided to join an adult dance class. Partially, it got her out of the house two nights a week. It also got her back into shape. But, she was able to meet new people as well. She liked the comraderie of the class.
She also explored new passions. She never knew much about fine wines. Mike had preferred beer and she had usually just ordered the house white. But when she heard a local winery was offering a wine tasting class, she decided to join.
Over the course of five weeks, she developed a palate. She began to appreciate the difference between a young wine and an old wine.
And, she met Robert. Robert was a good looking lawyer who was interested in good wine and fine food. He was also interested in Sheila.
Part of how Sheila knew that she was getting over the pain of losing Mike was that she was interested in Robert.
Sheila doesn’t know whether the relationship with Robert is going to be long term or a short term rebound fling. But she does know that she doesn’t miss Mike when Robert is around. And that’s moving on break up advice!
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