Monday, May 30, 2011

Relationship Status-Not Feeling The Love

Are you confused about you relationship status? If you are asking this question you probably already know the answer. It doesn't really matter what the reasons are, if you do not feel the love anymore it may be time to move on down the road.

Every couple will have a different reason for breaking up. Maybe you just don't communicate effectively. Maybe there are too many things the other one does that bug you and you find yourselves fighting all the time. If you can't stand to be in the same room with each other, this may be a sign that the two of you should be done.

Even though I said that it doesn't matter what the reasons are, let me give you some examples of reasons someone would want to know what their relationship status was anyway, ok?

Look out for behavior changes. Does your partner come home and do anything they can to stay away from you or not talk to you? How about making eye contact? Nope? Well, there may be something really wrong and you can try to ask them what it is. Be prepared for what you might get as an answer.

If they find excuse after excuse why they can't go here or there with you there could be a problem. Assess the situation and see if you can come up with a reasonable explanation. Maybe they don't feel good or something is wrong at work. Or, maybe they just do not want to be in the relationship any more and don't know how not to hurt you.

If you try to initiate an intimacy and they are not interested, you may have to investigate the possibility that they have something going on with someone else. All too often when one partner loses interest in being intimate it's because they have found someone new and are getting their needs met by someone else.

Have you noticed they are trying to hide when they are having conversations on the phone?Are they talking on the phone in the bathroom with the water running? Are they trying to hide what they are doing on the computer. Could be they are having a cyber-affair. If you notice that they have files on the computer that are suddenly password protected then you can bet they are keeping secrets and going behind your back.

If you do notice any of these behaviors then you should be the one to confront them and end the relationship. There is no use in prolonging the agony and ignoring the situation. The relationship is over and you have known it for a long time. When you do get down to the brass tacks and have your talk each of you will probably be so relieved you will wonder why you waited so long.

Life is too short to spend your time with someone you don't love and who doesn't love you back. The best thing you can do at this point is to admit what your relationship status really is and be all done with the whole thing..

3 comments:

  1. Talking on the phone in the bathroom while water runs is not only suspicious, it's kinda weird.

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  2. If it's over it's over. No use drawing it out.

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