Wednesday, May 4, 2011

How To Get Love Back Just Think It Through

Have you broken up from a relationship and wondering how to get love back? Being in love is such an amazing feeling but it can be absolutely devastating if that love ends. The ending of a relationship can be the worst feeling in the world.

If you find yourself in this situation and want to know what you can do to make amends and get love back then why not try the following steps.

Firstly you need to have a really good think about the relationship and work out if it is definitely over. Is it possible that you are 'just taking a break' or is it really over for good? Some couples do decide to take a break and spend some time apart with the possibility of getting back together and making it work. Others do break up with the intention of not getting back together but over time realize they were wrong and they get back together again. Then there are those relationships that are just not meant to work and those relationships are not worth trying to save.

If you think that your relationship is one that is worth saving and your ex is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with then you can take steps to try and work things out. If you hurt your ex in any way then you need to make it clear that you are sorry for what you did. If you have changed as a person and she doesn't love that new person then you may need to consider going back to the person you once were - the person she fell in love with.

You shouldn't rush her into coming back to you, if she is hurt or angry then she might need some time to herself to think things through and workout what she wants to do with this relationship. Remember that you cannot force someone to love you and if she just doesn't love you anymore then it may be time to move on.

When you are trying to get love back, don't appear desperate as this will be a big turn off for your ex. You need to act mature and show her that you have changed and that you are prepared to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work. Don't go calling her every five minutes or sending her hundreds of text messages. Give her the space that she needs right now to calm down and think things through.

After a week or so then give her a call and perhaps ask her to meet you to talk things through. Don't beg her to come back to you, but just apologize again for hurting her and let her know that you still love her. Tell her that you really want the relationship to work and that you want to talk things through and work on the problems within the relationship. An apology on its own is not enough to convince a woman that you have changed and that you will really put an effort into the relationship, you need to talk to her, listen to what she says and show her that you care about her feelings and opinions and want to work together to build this relationship.

Getting over love can be very difficult but remember that if she really doesn't want to get back with you then you need to accept that and move on. However, if you can sit and talk to her maturely and she decides that she does still love you and would like to give it another go, then don't go straight back to what you were doing before you broke up, you need to change and remember everything she talked about and really make an effort to make it work.

5 comments:

  1. Good points as always, it's best to approach these things with a clear head.

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  2. You need to put the effort in but if you do it's worth it. :)

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  3. This is definitely advice to pay serious heed to if you want to get back your ex.

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  4. The most salient point here is about appearing desperate. Always a definite no-no!

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  5. Very good points here, all worth taking into account.

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