Get Your Ex-girlfriend Back-Its Not All Up To You

If you find yourself wanting to get your ex girlfriend back the first thing that you should know is that you’re not alone. Men find themselves in this situation all of the time. Whether it is due to something that they’ve done or maybe it was just a relationship that seems to have run its course, its still a bad situation to be in. The thing to remember is that there may still be a chance to mend things.

When a man in this position is seeking help they often pour their heart out to someone. They are looking for help but instead they typically get the old adages such as “I know you’re in a lot of pain” or “I’ve been there”. While these may be the only words of wisdom that someone has to offer, unfortunately, it isn’t much help.

A man’s first instinct to go into sappy overload and drown the woman in notes, calls, emails, flowers, visits, texts and anything else to get her attention. But this is exactly the opposite of what needs to happen. Appearing as needy, or in this case, over needy, is not what a woman wants. Women don’t like to see their man as an emotional basket case. They need to know that he is strong and can take care of her. Unfortunately, rolled up the corner of a dark room in the fetal position sobbing uncontrollably does not dictate strength.

The man has to give the woman some space and let her re-evaluate the relationship. Trying to get to her emotionally simply will not work: neither will trying to trick, manipulate nor pressure her back into a relationship. This will cause her to feel trapped. And who wants to feel trapped? Men run from these relationships all of the time: why shouldn’t women?

After giving her a little time to herself a man has to start slowly, and without pressure. The first conversation should not be face-to-face, as this will put a woman on the defensive. Calling is best so that she does not feel like she is being put on the spot with undue pressure. Then just talk and ask what she needs. Once you ask her, then be quiet. Let her talk. Many times a woman not only needs to be heard, but she also needs to feel as if she is being heard. Communication will often take care of things, as this is a major reason why couples do not stay together. That is a major step to get your ex-girlfriend back.