Unless you met the love of your life and stayed with them forever, you must have experienced the ending of a love affair. Here are a few tips on overcoming a breakup:
1) Be nice to yourself:
While you might be feeling low and unloved, the end of a relationship does not have to mean you stay on your own forever. Mr or Ms Right could be the next person to walk through the door. Meanwhile be nice to yourself. Do all the things you wanted to do but your last lover was not interested in. There are in all likelihood some shows and films that you'd love to see. Grab some friends and head out for the evening.
2) do not be seen as being desperate:
Desperation isn't an attractive emotion in anybody. If you want your ex to take you back, you need to show them what they're missing. They will not want somebody who's miserable all the time. They want the person they originally fell in love with.
So despite how you're feeling you always need to present the best side of you in public. Dress nicely so you look good and above all plaster a smile on your face. Even if you feel like you're going to die from the pain, you never know when you will meet your ex or a mutual friend, so act happy; even if it's the performance of your life. You can cry into your pillow when you are home alone.
3) do not let your life stop:
Yes! I said you could cry into your pillow but I didn’t mean all day every day. Feeling miserable after a break up is natural but if you wallow in self pity, you typically wind up feeling worse. There's more to life than any partner so get out there and start enjoying yourself. You might have to pretend for a while but soon you'll find that you're actually having fun again.
4) do not over analyze what went wrong:
Yes we need to learn from our mistakes but the breakup might not have been your fault. It could simply be that the other person got scared of commitment i.e. cold feet. If they get in contact , agree to meet them for a drink and see how things go. Be polite and listen to what they have to say. If they want you back, do not be too eager, but agree to see how it goes.
If you were the one who finished things, but now realize you made a mistake, tell your ex. They're not mind readers and they will not know you want to rekindle your love affair unless you tell them.
Men and women frequently get things wrong as we see life so differently. Occasionally we have to split from our partner to realize what we had was real love. Frequently a break and a little communication goes a long way to overcoming a breakup and getting back together.
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Monday, November 2, 2009
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