Showing posts with label Im Still In Love With My Ex. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Im Still In Love With My Ex. Show all posts

Thursday, June 25, 2009

Im Still In Love With My Ex

Do you say, “I’m still in love with my ex!” and wonder how you are going to get through the hours, not to mention the next days? It is common to feel totally overwhelmed after a breakup, peculiarly if you are not the one what wanted to end it. And if you sit around thinking, “I’m still in love with my ex,” you are only making it more difficult on yourself.

Naturally, if you are really in love with your ex you could make an effort to get back together. There is no guarantee that anything you do will get you back together, but you can still try. Oftentimes, being genuine and just making it very clear that you do not want to lose your ex will be enough to move them to give it another chance.

If cheating was involved in some capacity, then their wanting to come back is less likely, but it is still possible. If you cheated, you may think it is going to be more difficult to get them back.

But if they cheated and that relationship has ended, it is still more difficult to get them back once they have been with somebody else. And it is going to take a while for you to begin trusting one another once again.

It is important for you to decide that if your ex gives in and comes back, how will you keep from falling into the same patterns the next time around? You are able to say, “I’m still in love with my ex!” until you are blue in the face, and that will not change whether or not you've troubles in the future.

It is very easy to be in love with somebody. But making a relationship work is hard and time consuming. And you have the added difficulty of overcoming a break up. You can try to convince your ex that if you get back together you will change your ways, and perhaps they will believe you.

But the best thing you are able to do is merely show that you have changed your ways, without saying very much about it. Actions truly do almost always speak much louder than words, so the things you do are going to be noticed more by your ex than the things you say.

It is important to say the right things, also. But it is more important to do the right things. If you are really still in love with them then you should want to change your actions dramatically, at least right now. When you think your actions may make a difference it is easy to feel like you are able to change many things about yourself.

What you've to determine is whether or not you are able to truly follow through with it. There is no point in making promises to your ex that you are not going to be able to keep.

If you've any doubt that you will want to make the changes that you or your ex feels are essential, then you should not promise that you will make them. Although you say, “I’m still in love with my ex, “ you have to remember than only lasting changes will matter, not just a fast change to win them back.

Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Im Still In Love With My Ex But I Think Its Over For Good

If you are saying “I'm still in love with my ex,” but you feel as if it is finally over permanently, then you need to stop looking on the dark side and think positively. There are many relationships that look as though they are over, but the fact is that people find a way back together.

Before you launch into a full on attempt to get back your love, make certain your relationship is a relationship that should be saved! Too frequently relationships that should remain dead are resurrected with awful consequences. So ask yourself this: “did your relationship involve physical and or emotional abuse?” If the answer is yeah you need to accept that this sort of relationship is best left over with. Alternatively work at restoring any eroded self-esteem and move on.

However, if your relationship was merely a falling out, misunderstanding or maybe a loss of trust then that's completely recoverable even if only one of you wants it, you just have to find the right course.

What's good about declaring “I'm still in love with my ex!” is you without doubt had a genuinely strong relationship with your ex and if you feel that you are still in love with them, then chances are they feel the same about you.

Provided a few weeks have past, you should take a minute to phone your ex and ask if you can have a talk with them. Do not make it sound as if you're begging and pleading for the meeting, merely make it sound as casual as you are able to.

Arrange for the meeting to happen someplace neutral where neither of you'll be tempted to cause a scene or let your emotions take over. If you're really seriously stating that “I'm still in love with my ex” then you'll need to take some time to work out what you're going to say to get them back.

You do not need to take notes, but you need to have it clear in your head. So make sure to take some time to work out why you want your ex back. Yes you are still in love with them and that in itself is a fine reason, but try and give your ex tangible reasons why they should take you back.

Discuss your dreams and ambitions and explain to them where you see them fitting into those dreams and ambitions, nevertheless do not make the error of making your ex the be-all and end-all of your dreams. Do not put yourself in a position where if they do not agree to the reconciliation that your dreams are ruined. You do not want to come across as needy and fixated, you just want your ex to know that there's a genuine place for them in your life.

You then need to give your ex the space to express themselves and you need to listen to what they say. Do all of that and your declaration that “I'm still in love with my ex” should give you a reciprocal answer from your ex.