Can I Get Back With My Ex Lover

"Can I get back with my ex lover?" Do you find yourself asking yourself this same question over and over again? You're not alone. Thousands of people are going through break-ups every day and asking themselves the same thing. The good news is that you can get back with your ex if you have just one key element.

There really is only one thing that you need in order to bring your ex lover back to you and that is confidence. Chances are that if you're at the point of asking yourself "Can I get back with my ex lover?" then you are pretty low in the confidence ranking scale at the moment. As you go through relationship problems and fear the loss of your lover, your confidence can really take a nose dive, even if you used to be someone who was really sure of yourself.

Your confidence helps you in many ways. It can help you get hired. It can attract someone to you (if you're not over-confident) and it definitely can help you get your ex back. Confidence will help you in all walks of life and having it will keep your relationship healthy once you are back in your lovers arms.

If you lack confidence, you have low self-esteem which is why you are wondering if you can really get your lover back or not. A confident person would realize that he/she can. Your low self-esteem will tell you that you are not good enough or that your lover can easily find someone better. Once you have this in your head, you either give up or you start doing desperate things to try to get your lover back which, of course, only makes things worse. What usually happens in this case is that your ex will start to feel sorry for you. It is difficult at that stage to change his/her impression. But you can do it.

Rather than sulking and plotting how you are going to win back your ex, start concentrating on yourself. You need a spiritual make-over. Make sure you are eating right, exercising and spending time with friends. Get out even if you don't feel like it. Fake it 'til you make it. And do not contact your ex. This is your time to get your self-esteem back.

Pretty soon, you'll see that you are no longer faking it. You'll enjoy your time on your own and your time out with friends. You'll start to feel better about yourself and you'll be more attractive to others, including your ex lover. At this point you may actually question whether you really want him/her back. But if you do, you will be able to confidently approach him/her, speak about your relationship and work on bringing it back to life.

So, the answer to "Can I get back with my ex lover?" is "YES"!