Showing posts with label marriage seminars. Show all posts
Showing posts with label marriage seminars. Show all posts

Saturday, November 19, 2011

Marriage Seminars

One of the leading reasons for marriage is because you want to spend more time with your loved one. But as time wears on and the honeymoon wraps up, you can very quickly find yourself not having the free time you desire.

There are a lot of reasons for why you and your spouse may be unable to spend the time together that you would like. The two most common reasons being work related or children. These distractions can be impossible to ignore and so you are left devoting all your time to everything but the person you want to devote it to.

This is where marriage seminars come into play. A lot of people may think that these seminars are for people with bad marriages, and that their marriage is not bad. Well this is not strictly the case. These seminars are for a wide variety of couples, including those who are unable to spend time together.

These weekend seminars provide the excuse to get away for a day or two and spend time together. It allows you to reconnect with one another and re-ignite the passion that brought you together in the first place. Think of it like a little mini vacation for the sole purpose of resting your relationship and allowing it to grow stronger.

Marriage seminars are generally hosted by churches who like to stress spirituality and religion. However there are also seminars hosted by various psychological groups who use mediation tools to help you. The only real difference between the two are the tools employed, both strive for the same goal that is strengthening your marriage.

When you decide to go to a seminar and manage to free up the time to do so, it can allow all the distractions of your daily life to just float away. No more bosses or kids or deadlines, just you and your spouse.

Another great benefit of going to these seminars is the ability to meet up with other couples. Once we get married and have kids, we generally lose touch with our friends as we get so engrossed with our lives and day to day routines.

Just because you find yourself all grown up and have a family does not mean you can not still have friends. These marriage seminars allow you to connect with other people in the same situation as you, or maybe to even re-connect with old friends.

The ability to talk with other couples and parents, hear their stories and their triumphs, it can work as great motivation for you for when you return to the daily grind. We all know that there are others out there going through what we go through, but when you actually meet face to face and share personal experiences, it can hold new meaning.

Regardless of why you want to go to these seminars, and regardless of what tools they employ, the end result is always the same. The desire to keep your marriage going strong and to keep the love between you and your spouse are the end result that all routes are leading to.

Monday, May 31, 2010

Marriage Seminars - Are They Worth It

Marriage seminars are becoming very popular with a variety of people and you may have thought about attending one yourself. In certain parts of the world you cannot have a church wedding without first attending a marriage seminar. The idea is that by going to one of these courses, the couple get a chance to explore the various issues that they may face during married life. The person leading the seminar will show them how to explore their different responses and how best to communicate with each other.
Do these courses work? That is actually hard to quantify as it is difficult to measure the success rate. If a couple attends a relationship seminar and decides not to get married you don't keep any statistics on them. If after attending the seminar they go ahead and get married and perhaps divorce in five years time, the statistics are already skewed. Some couples do benefit but some just attend as it is mandatory and they won't be allowed have their big day in the Church without having a certificate to prove they were there.
The other form of marriage seminar is the one organized for those that are already married. These seminars run all over the country. There are a variety available. For example, you can attend a Christian seminar or one designed for another religion. Some seminars have no religious bias at all. The idea is to give couples an open platform in a neutral setting to discuss issues that may be preventing them from connecting properly. Do these types of courses work? Well yes for some people but it really depends on what type of couple you are and what your problems are. If you are very private and don't like discussing issues in front of other people you are unlikely to find that this type of event will help you.
You would probably benefit from one to one marriage counseling instead. What can work for everyone is some education into how relationships work and how to fix those that are not working properly. A great book for anyone to read and implement is the Magic of Making Up. As the title suggests it is aimed at those who are having problems and want to resolve them. If you have a read of the testimonials you will see how many people credit it with giving them back their happy relationships. Even if you haven't reached the point of breakup you can benefit from reading and applying the knowledge that you learn from books like these.
We can all benefit from better communication skills. It is just a pity that it takes a crisis or thoughts of a marriage seminar for us to realize that we need help and soon. Don't take your relationship for granted. It needs care and attention in order to flourish. But when it does you will be so much happier.