There seems to be a common question that keeps coming up in the thoughts of guys who just went through a break up, or feel trapped in a relationship. That question is: will she love me again? The sad thing is that it doesn't matter how you got to this point. the only thing that matters to you at this point is whether or not you can get her to love you again. You may down, hurt, hopeless and confused, but you don't have to. Instead, you can take comfort in the fact that other men have been in the same situation and were able to get their woman to love them again.
The first thing you absolutely must do is take an honest look at what's going on. This means you have to accept things as they are. If you have just broken up, don't tell yourself the break up isn't real; accept it. This is the first step in getting her back. Also, even though you are asking, "will she love me again", there is a chance that you are misreading her signals and she really loves you anyway. What has she said or done to make you think she has fallen out of love? What real evidence do you have? See, you don't want to expend your energies on something that isn't a real problem.
Once you have determined that she doesn't love you any more, or at least not as much as she used to, you have to give her some space. This means not contacting her in any way for a while. That includes no leaving notes, no late night telephone calls, no bumping in to her "accidentally", and no emails or text messages. By trying to talk to her you run the risk of pushing her further away, so resist the temptation and giver her the time and space she needs for now.
Okay, you are off to a great start, but there's still more you can do. As long as you are leaving her alone, you should use this time to try to put her out of your mind. This will only be temporary, but it's important for you to have a clear head before moving forward. Pay attention to your needs. You may feel awful, but you still have to take care of yourself. Be sure to stay healthy, both physically and mentally.
The final step is to get to the root of went wrong. This is where you will find the clues to why she fell out of love with you. It may take some digging and won't be easy to do, but it will be worth it in the long run. Once you identify what went wrong, you can start doing what you need to do to fix it. Stick with it, and give it time and sooner or later you will get a positive answer to the question of will she love me again.
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Monday, November 15, 2010
Will She Love Me Again - Easier Than You Think
Lost your girl? Want to know "will she love me again"? I don't know, but I do know that in many cases it's not only possible to get your love back it may even be easier than you might have thought. One thing you need to consider: are you sure that she doesn't still love you? It's highly possible that she still has feelings for you but because of one thing or another she just doesn't feel comfortable showing them.
Love isn't that easy to kill. It generally either takes a lot of time or something really bad to kill a strong, deep love. Unless you've really been a jerk to your girl by treating her bad, hurting her physically or emotionally or cheating on her, there's a very good chance that she still cares and all you have to do is to remind her of that fact.
If you treated her like crap you should seriously consider talking to someone and getting help. If you cheated on her or abused her you need to face the fact that there is something wrong... with you. Take some time to get the help you need so that you can be a decent human being. Not only will your girl be more likely to get back with you, but she will be happy she gets back with you instead of regretting her decision to take you back.
If your love has just faded because of neglect, as opposed to out right abuse, it's generally a lot easier to get it back. In many cases all that needs to be done is to spend some quality, one on one time together. This doesn't necessarily mean sexually either. A woman needs to feel like you love and appreciate her as a person, not just someone you like to fool around with.
A healthy sex life is great, and most people (men and women) would consider it a very important part of a good relationship, but there are other ways to connect with your girl and you have to make sure you achieve balance in your relationship. Balance your sexual intimacy with your emotional intimacy (a lot of guys seem to really not get this, make sure you're not one of them).
Spend time doing things that are enjoyable to both of you. Things where you can not only connect with each other but also communicate with each other. Taking a nice long drive in the country where you can talk, taking a walk, playing a round of golf. Whatever. It doesn't matter what it is as long as the two of you both like to do it and you will both have a chance to talk and be 'together'. This isn't the time for group activities.
Spending time together like this is a great way to let her remember the love she once felt for you, a love that is probably still there but it just got a little buried. Don't make the mistake of thinking these times only have to be a few times a year (think birthdays and Valentines day). The two of you should spend this one on one time together at least a few times a month, if not more.
So, for those guys out there who want to know "will she love me again", just realize that it is very possible to not only get back what you've lost but to make things better than they ever were before. Man up, follow this advice and you'll make both of you very happy.
Love isn't that easy to kill. It generally either takes a lot of time or something really bad to kill a strong, deep love. Unless you've really been a jerk to your girl by treating her bad, hurting her physically or emotionally or cheating on her, there's a very good chance that she still cares and all you have to do is to remind her of that fact.
If you treated her like crap you should seriously consider talking to someone and getting help. If you cheated on her or abused her you need to face the fact that there is something wrong... with you. Take some time to get the help you need so that you can be a decent human being. Not only will your girl be more likely to get back with you, but she will be happy she gets back with you instead of regretting her decision to take you back.
If your love has just faded because of neglect, as opposed to out right abuse, it's generally a lot easier to get it back. In many cases all that needs to be done is to spend some quality, one on one time together. This doesn't necessarily mean sexually either. A woman needs to feel like you love and appreciate her as a person, not just someone you like to fool around with.
A healthy sex life is great, and most people (men and women) would consider it a very important part of a good relationship, but there are other ways to connect with your girl and you have to make sure you achieve balance in your relationship. Balance your sexual intimacy with your emotional intimacy (a lot of guys seem to really not get this, make sure you're not one of them).
Spend time doing things that are enjoyable to both of you. Things where you can not only connect with each other but also communicate with each other. Taking a nice long drive in the country where you can talk, taking a walk, playing a round of golf. Whatever. It doesn't matter what it is as long as the two of you both like to do it and you will both have a chance to talk and be 'together'. This isn't the time for group activities.
Spending time together like this is a great way to let her remember the love she once felt for you, a love that is probably still there but it just got a little buried. Don't make the mistake of thinking these times only have to be a few times a year (think birthdays and Valentines day). The two of you should spend this one on one time together at least a few times a month, if not more.
So, for those guys out there who want to know "will she love me again", just realize that it is very possible to not only get back what you've lost but to make things better than they ever were before. Man up, follow this advice and you'll make both of you very happy.
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