Showing posts with label I Miss My Ex Girlfriend. Show all posts
Showing posts with label I Miss My Ex Girlfriend. Show all posts

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

I Miss My Ex Boyfriend - 2 Choices To Make

The break up happened six months ago and you are still saying, "I miss my ex". You are also wondering how this is even possible. He hurt you badly by having that affair and when you broke it off you thought you would be done with him forever.

You now have two choices. You can try to get him back or learn effective ways to get over him and get on with your life.

If you choose to try to get him back then you have to ask yourself two very important questions. If he comes back will he just hurt me again? And, is he worth taking back? The answer to these questions are, if he hurt you once he will probably do it again. Especially if he does not think he did anything wrong in the first place. So the answer to the second question is fairly obvious, no, he is not worth taking back.

You need to figure out why you are still saying, "I miss my ex". Is it because you still love him or do you miss the drama of the relationship? If you know deep in your heart that he was no good for you and you just miss the drama, my advice to you would be to get some counseling. Counseling is not a bad thing. Having been where you are I can tell you it was the best thing I have ever done in my life.

A good counselor can work with you to change the things in you that make you attract all the losers you have attracted your whole life. Maybe you do not think you are worthy enough to have someone decent in your life. A counselor can help you work through the things that have affected your self-esteem and help you see yourself in a different, more positive, light.

Once you start to feel more confident you will miss your ex less and less. You will start to realize that you are better off without him and that no one deserves to be hurt the way he hurt you. You can finally stop being a doormat and take charge of every aspect of your life, including your love life. Make an appointment at your salon and get a new hairstyle, go shopping with the girls and buy a new outfit or two. Start going to different clubs when you go out with the girls.

With all your new found confidence, you may just start to see that you attract a different type of man. There are men out there who like a confident woman, a woman who can seemingly do anything she puts her mind to. Just remember to not fall back into those same old tendencies of being a doormat when it comes to your relationship. Stay strong and confident and one day you will think back and wonder why the heck you hung on to that loser and almost embarrassed yourself by saying, "I miss my ex", for so long after your break up.

Tuesday, September 22, 2009

I Miss My Ex Girlfriend

When you find yourself saying “I miss my ex girlfriend,” you need to find ways to move forward with your life. Regardless how bad the break up was, there is life after your ex. Finding your way through the depression that follows the end of the relationship can be difficult. That is why you need to take concrete actions to move forward.
Firstly, you need to work on bringing closure to the relationship. Closure is the process by which you move on from a situation. While you might find specific situations in which you say, “I miss my ex girlfriend,” you won't be in this state always.
Start by definitively saying that the relationship is over. As long as you think there's a chance that you can get your ex back, you won't be able to move on. Healing begins with putting an end to the relationship.
Next, you need to physically close the relationship. You do that by exchanging all of the possessions in the other’s care. Give her back the toothbrush and curling iron she kept at your house and ask her for the sweat shirt that she had borrowed for the long term. If you owed one another money, settle up.
Once you have your possessions back, give yourself some physical space. While you might want to remain friends with your ex in the end, staying away in the short term will facilitate healing. Don’t call, text, or e-mail one another. If she tries to contact you, screen her out.
And, do not show up at places she is likely to be. You do not want to give her any opening to get under your skin. Seeing her with another guy so soon will just prompt feelings of “I miss my ex girlfriend” all over again.
You might even need to change a few of your social habits. If you go to a small church, you might want to consider changing houses of worship at least in the short term. You might have to pick a new favorite bar or hang out also.
When you start going new places, you'll inevitably meet new people. Some of these people will be female. These new women are good prospects for dates.
While it might seem right now that you will never want to date another woman, the truth is that the sooner you get back on the dating scene, the sooner you will begin to heal.
It might not be enough to just be available though. Consider actively seeking out women. Take a class at the local university’s extension program. Join a co-ed softball team. Take up a new hobby. All of these strategies will allow you to begin meeting new women.
If a woman intrigues you, ask her out even if you can not picture yourself in a long term relationship with her. A date is just a fun social experience, not a commitment.
Pretty soon, you will not be saying “I miss my ex girlfriend” nearly as often. You will have moved on with your life.