Showing posts with label How To Get My Wife To Love Me Again. Show all posts
Showing posts with label How To Get My Wife To Love Me Again. Show all posts

Monday, August 16, 2010

Tips On How To Get My Wife To Love Me Again

No one wants to see their loving marriage dissolve into indifference. It can be a painful thing to watch, it can also leave you feeling utterly helpless and unable to stop it. If you just don't feel the love anymore and you want the answer to the question: how to get my wife to love me again, than there are a few things you can try. There is no guarantee it will work, sometimes by the time you ask the question it's already too late, but you've got nothing to lose by giving it a try.

Marriage can be a weird relationship. The longer the two of you are together the more comfortable you can feel with each other but at the same time there is more of a chance that the two of you will grow in different directions. This is a very common problem and since it happens slowly, over a period of years, it can be very easy to miss the signs until it's too late.

That is the first thing you should do, try to identify how you've changed since you and your wife have been together. Have the changes you've had been positive or negative?For most of us, we can say that a lot of the changes are negative. We used to have big plans, dreams and ambitions, but now we come home from work and veg out in front of the t.v. until it's time for bed. Boring. If you used to be full of hope and promise and now you seem like you've given up, you may simply not be the same man your wife originally fell in love with.

The sad thing is that not only may your wife not feel the same way about you now, you may not feel the same way about yourself. If you've just given up on your dreams you are probably unhappy with yourself deep inside. Try to rekindle some of those passions, it will make you happier and remind your wife of the man she fell in love with all those years ago. It's a win/ win.

Have you let yourself go? If you used to be fit and strong but now you're more pudgy than toned, maybe you should hit the gym. It will be good for you and it might help rev up her enthusiasm a little bit too.

Do you treat your wife the way you used to? Probably not. We can all fall into the trap of taking our partner for granted, the longer you are together the easier it is to do. She may well do the same thing to you. Try to get back to some of the patterns of behavior you used to have in the early days of the relationship. If you used to get her flowers every now and then 'just because' it may be time to start that tradition again.

Don't make things harder than they have to be. The answer to the question how to get my wife to love me again, might be as simple as going back in time and acting more like the man you used to be rather than the man you've become. It might just be good for both of you.

Thursday, November 12, 2009

Your Question - How To Get My Wife To Love Me Again - Your Answer Here

It's a tough one you've been asking yourself for a while now. . . "How to get my wife to love me again?"

There are many avenues that need to be explored when coming up with an answer to your question and of course the answers depend on your specific situation and circumstances. But there are some basic strategies that any man can apply towards gaining his wife's love back.

First, you need to figure out why your wife has stopped loving you (or why she says that she doesn't love you anymore, even if that may not be true).

What are some common reasons for this?

Reason Number 1:
I've lost my wife's love because I had an affair and she found out.

Reason Number 2:
My wife found someone new that she feels is better than me.

Reason Number 3:
I haven't stuck to my promises and agreements. I promised her that I would change my attitude or some of the things that annoy her but I haven't done so. This has lead to disappointment and loss of hope on her part.

Reason Number 4:
I neglected my wife in her eyes. I didn't give her the love and attention she needed.

Reason Number 5: I tried to control everything she did. I didn't allow my wife enough freedom and space to do what she wanted.

Once you've identified the reason or combination of reasons, you can start to go to work on the problem. Many marriages that fail do so because the real problems aren't really understood. Communication is a huge part of making the marriage work - and men think differently than women so even if you think you know how your wife feels about something (because that's the way you feel), chances are you probably don't. So talk to her.

Without the right communication, it's really hard to resolve and kind of conflict, big or small. The right kind of communication will allow your damaged relationship to start recuperating and later to thrive if you give your wife the opportunity to share her dreams, concerns, hopes and desires with you.

If your wife has conceded to trying in the marriage again, don't just go back to what wasn't working. Keep things interesting, do little things to show your wife how much you love and appreciate her or do something pleasantly surprising.

Keeping your promises is another important part of the equation. If you haven't kept your promises in the past, start doing so now. Your past broken promises have no doubt ruined the trust in your relationship but you can start repairing that now.

Finally, give your wife the space and time she needs. Let her know that you are there for her but don't smother her.

Hopefully the above information is enough to get you started working on your solving your big concern of "How to get my wife to love me again".