Showing posts with label Get My Ex Girlfriend Back. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Get My Ex Girlfriend Back. Show all posts

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Help - What Can I Do To Get My Ex Girlfriend Back

Falling in love is a wonderful feeling. Falling out of love is a miserable feeling. After a break up, it's perfectly natural to ask a question like, "What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back?" It is also natural to ponder on all of things that went wrong and what you could have done better. This thinking then leads to thoughts of begging, apologizing or otherwise begging your case until your former loved one is ready to take you back.

However, even though these things may play a part in getting back together, and definitely seem logical, they frequently lead nowhere. None of the methods mentioned earlier get to the root cause of the break up. That's why they aren't enough to patch things up. The not-so-good news is that uncovering the real reasons behind a break up can be difficult. So, do your best to dig deep and find out what really went wrong, but also realize that the true causes may remain hidden. If that's the case, don't worry, there are still steps you can take to get your ex girlfriend back, though it may be a bit more complicated.

Forget about it! About what? About her, about your relationship, about the idea of getting back together. At least for now. You both need the space and time to come to terms with what has happened. Do not expend any energy on making up, at least not yet. Hang out with your friends (if they're single, so much the better), pursue a new hobby, or throw yourself into a project at work. Whatever it takes to stop you from focusing on your relationship. Unfortunately, you can't predict how long this step will take. The best advice, then, is to not force it, and you will know when the time is right to move on to the next step.

Now that you have a cushion of time and space you have something you desperately need: Perspective. You will now have to do your best to be objective, and ask yourself if you really want to get back with your ex. See, that's why you need time. If you try to answer this question too soon after breaking up, then you won't get an accurate answer. Assuming you decide that you would like to get your ex back, you can go to the following step.

The final part of answering the question "what can I do to get my ex girlfriend back" is to contact her and start making things right. The secret here is to not be too forceful, to not overdo. If you waited long enough, she has had enough time to sort things out as well. When you finally meet again, talk things over calmly. Admit any wrongdoing, but remain positive and solution oriented. A negative mood will lead to arguments, and decrease your chances of getting back together. While you can't change the past, you can learn from it and do what needs to be done to have a happy future together.

Friday, August 7, 2009

Please Help Me Get My Ex Girlfriend Back

How many times do men ask their friends how do I get my ex girlfriend back? Truthfully, I thought it was a woman's prerogative to change her mind. A few men just do not know when they're onto a good thing and their reasons for ending relationships border on the absurd.

My male friends have finished with girls for:

1) wearing the wrong type of shoes!
2) Her mother
3) The new barmaid at his favorite bar smiled at him.

Now alright I know that a pretty face can turn any man's head and there's the dreaded notion that a woman might turn into her mother but come on guys - the wrong type of shoes? If women did not date men because of the clothes they were wearing the human race would have died off long ago. Behind every well dressed man is a good woman- in early life his mother and later his wife!

I always tell my men friends that they need to make a list before they break up with their spouses. On one side of the list, you put her good points. Do you find her interesting? Does she look after you? Does she cook for you? Does she laugh at your jokes? Are you attracted to her?

On the other side of the list, they could put the things that wind them up. All right she might nag at little too much but then if you put the toilet seat down she may stop. She might not want more than a snuggle every evening but 5 times a week does not mean that she isn't caring enough.

Writing the good and bad points of your life together down on paper might seem like a cold approach but it's a really practical way of seeing what a good relationship you do/did have. You need to compare the 2 lists and determine if you should be breaking up with this woman. If you're doing it after the event, it also helps to clarify if you made the right decision to finish the relationship. Occasionally we regret breaking up as we end up feeling lonely. But loneliness isn't a reason to get back together.

If you have dumped the lady in your life but now know it was the wrong decision you need to act fast. Great life partners don't grow on trees. She has shown that she will put up with you in all your glory - how many women would be mad enough to do that?

Take a leaf out Richard Gere's book and put some romance back into her life. Send her flowers - not a bunch of red roses but some of her favorites. Send her a handwritten letter telling her how much you love her and miss her. Book her favorite restaurant and treat her to a night out. In short, you need to treat her just like the princess you believe her to be and assuming you're not a complete disgrace, you will not have ask how to get my ex girlfriend back.